I am a woman who likes some form of phsical contact when me & my sig other are arguing.I was wondering (honestly) if a guy doesn't hit or oush you when you've done the ultimate like break his things & take his things does this mean he doesn't care for you
2007-12-10 01:49:53 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, if you are acting your worst and if he doesn't hit you, he is doing the right thing. It doesn't mean he loves you or doesn't love you. If he hits you, he is committing a crime. If he is angry at you and doesn't resort to name calling and hurtful language, this restraint might be an indication of his love. From your question, it sounds like you are the one who is out of control and needs counseling. It isn't normal for someone to push a person beyond their restraint and want to be smacked around. Being smacked around doesn't mean they love you. It just means you succeeded in causing someone to commit a crime. God help your partner. God bless.
2007-12-10 02:27:12 · answer #1 · answered by A friend of Bill W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I suspect that
either he really cares for you...
or
he doesn't value himself.
You stated that "you've done the ultimate like break his things & take his things" ... this is why someone told you that you need counseling because YOU HAVE A PROBLEM... you do NOT understand how to have a healthy relationship, and you are ABUSING HIM emotionally when you break and steal his things.
It's interesting that you wish to have physical contact when you argue. My marriage counselor recommended that to me because it's difficult to be enraged at someone if you're touching as you have a disagreement. It's hard to get so angry that you do inappropriate things when you hold hands during an argument. So that desire is healthy.
BUT
your breaking and taking his things is NOT healthy.
I commend the guy for not hitting or pushing you when you've been cruel to him. You are TRYING to get him to hit or push you, I suspect. Not hitting or pushing is healthy ! Hitting and pushing are ABUSE! So the question IS... why do you thing abuse is normal? Why do you think his not abusing you means he doesn't care?
Do you come from an abusive family?
Get the counseling from a psychologist. You need more help than we can give you here.
2007-12-10 10:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Personally I would say that I expect that he does love you but doesn't want to be violent to you.
Normally men who hit women for any reason are just bullies with a low self esteem so they take it out on a woman who is usually weaker than they are.8-((
If he loves you and respects you he will try and control his temper.
Perhaps you should ask yourself why you need to break his things rather than have a more constructive argument.
Loosing control and breaking things especially things that belong to your partner is very immature and hints that you are loosing the argument.
Remember that it is said that violence is the last resort, if he has done something to upset you that much why don't you tell him so and ask why he would do such a thing.
Sometimes your partner may do something to upset you without even realizing that he has done so.
I'd suggest talking reasonably first before you break something, then don't break it just tell him how upset he has made you.
The best thing about arguments is making up afterwards!.
Arnak
2007-12-10 10:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by Arnak 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, NO guy who hits a woman loves her or even cares about her even if he says he does. SO, if your significant other is hitting you for ANY reason, he does NOT love...he doesn't even LIKE you. He doesn't even care if you exist. If you were to die, he wouldn't shed a tear (at least not any REAL ones); he wouldn't miss a beat and would be in bed with the next woman before your body was even cold.
You do need some counseling. You have some deep-seated problems.
2007-12-10 09:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if he is a good man and he cares he won't hit u no matter what. a real man was raised never never never to touch a woman. but u defiantly do need counseling and prob anger management. it's not cool that u try to keep going to get him mad enough to hit u and going for guys that will hit u is not good. im guessing here but u were prob raised by an abusive parent or around it a lot as a child. u need to work on fixing u and then find a guy that will be good to u and u won't have to break all his stuff to get his attention.
2007-12-10 09:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by cajunbaby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it merely means that he is mature and sensible enough not to hit a woman. Sad that you have become accustomed to such form of physical punishment and have to seek counsel ling. But life will go on and hopefully soon enough you will begin to appreciate that you cannot or should not be breaking other peoples belongings. How would you feel if he was to break something that you had an emotional attachment to. Best of luck.
2007-12-10 09:55:58 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, property damage is not "the ultimate." Second of all, since you mention your need for counseling it seems you already know that physical contact is NOT a sign of caring, it is a sign of abuse. It sounds like you enjoy provoking someone to strike you; you view property damage as "the ultimate" so that's what you do to provoke "a guy." If he doesn't hit you it means that he is a decent human being. If he does hit you it means he's scum. His decision whether or not to hit you is no reflection on whether or not he cares for you. Period.
Stop associating with scum.
And seek that counseling you mention. Please.
2007-12-10 09:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by snoopy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Scary to think this way. If you need a guy to hit you to prove their love please by all means stay single till you come to understand this is not "normal". Read 1Corinthians13:4-8.Only you know why you feel this way and if this is what your previous relationship have been like well shame on those ones that did this to you.It takes more strength from a man to restrain himself than to hit a woman. Think of what kind of father you what for you children one day.
2007-12-10 10:08:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll admit that i'd never hit a woman regardless of anything she'd do to me, and my answer is NO. You have them pretty switched. If a man did hit you for breaking his things, wont that mean he cares more about them then you? If this is really your problem, then after some point it wont be much about love, but about respect for each other.
2007-12-10 09:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A woman would never break her lovers things and a man would never touch her. A child would break her lovers things and a disgusting coward would hit her. A fool would start a life together as two children... a moron would conceive a child. And a terrible person would stay in that relationship to ruin that childs life.
2007-12-10 09:54:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋