It all started a long time ago in April this year. Me and my friend started going out with him and his friend (her now current boyfriend) to get drunk! ..We would end up kissing and stuff but now we have kinda got more intimate doing sexual things..(yes we have even gone all the way but we aren’t going out!) I really like him enough to go out with him.. he makes me laugh as well as being gorgeous :P ..but he’s the one that wont go out with me because in September he joined the army and he said that boys cant trust girls while they’re in the army because most of them end up cheating. I wouldn’t cheat but I respect his wishes.. I treat him kindly and with respect yet he makes me look stupid all the time. He sees other girls, he knows I know he sees other girls but I can’t say anything to him because hes not my boyfriend. All I could do is stop seeing him but I can’t! I really like him and staying away makes me want to see him more =( He also boasts to my friend’s boyfriend about what he
2007-12-10 01:40:10 · 12 answers · asked by Yorkshire Gurlie ♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
does with me …like it’s a piece of gossip! I find it really embarrassing and some of the stuff he has said isn’t even true!
..I havent seen him for over 6 weeks now and im dying to see him despit all hes done to me! ..I just cant get over him at all. He text me the other day and I was so happy =(
2007-12-10 01:41:25 · update #1
I've only slept with him once! && He told me the no dating girls while they are in army thing before we did it.
2007-12-10 02:37:35 · update #2
Yeah, like Army boys are trustworthy. First thing they do when they get off the plane is head for the whore house.
2007-12-10 02:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by Freddy Benson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe U Shudnt Have Slept With A Guy That Cudnt Even Agree 2 B Ur Bf...But It Happens...Neways My Best Advice Is 2 Start Over With A New Guy, And Dont Sleep With Him 4 At Least A Few Months....Guys Wont Commit 2 U WHEN They Know U Will Give Them What They R After Neways.....I Hope U Find Sum1 Who Will MAKE u 4GET tHIS jERK aND look Back On the Whole Situation And Shake Ur Head....Good Luck Hun, I Feel 4 Ya :D
2007-12-10 01:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has made it clear to you that he isn't wanting to be in a relationship while he is away. Why do you torture yourself by hanging on to him? There is an old saying that goes like this, "If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back, he is yours, if he doesn't , then he is not." Besides, by telling his friends about the things you do in intimacy with him, and making other things up about you, he is not showing you any respect at all. It is more like he is making fun of what you have done and talking about you as if you are cheap and easy. You don't need that! Let him use someone else! You are letting him make you look like an absolute fool!
2007-12-10 01:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to respect yourself. There's a saying: "Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?" He won't date you exclusively because you give him what he wants without the commitment. The army was just an excuse; it's him who can't be trusted.
As much as it hurts, the six weeks without him are helping you get over him. Keep it up. He's not there for you and doesn't want to be, or else he'd let you know.
2007-12-10 01:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by xK 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when we associate a feeling with something or "someone" we tend to get cloudy with that one thought and hang on to our association to it rather than realize we can move on.
When your sad and want to feel happy, your mind will search for a time you were happy and want that time back...by association of how you felt then, although many, many other things could also make you happy, maybe even more so.
Your hanging on to something rather than moving past it or realizing other things can do the same. In this case a guy.
I think the Army deal may be a handy excuse for "him" however I do believe most times to be very true. Sure some girls are possitive they can and are going to wait for the guy but when enough time passes and other guys are right there attracting you and making you feel good or having fun......in time your mind strays. If you are not very strong minded, disaplined, and determined, you weaken. At some point lines are crossed even with the best intent prior. We tend to respond to human need for companionship an touch. Those closer to us can pull us away from those far when our needs and desires kick in as people. You might have the best intentions now and feel 100% that way now, but in time that will change. Only at the end of it will you be able to look back and see it did.
You speak of sleeping with this guy casually but not as a couple. That alone will leave doubt in his mind who you will sleep with while he's away and it also suggest the part above will most likely take its course as well.
The part of him bosting to his friends graphically about your sexual encounters, suggest strongly to me he see's you as just that. Sexual gratification. He isn't discussing you as a person or a loved one honey but as a piece of offering and sexual relief............think about that one!
Its your call. Continue to be handy and discussed or move on to a real relationship you can have mutual respect, enjoyment and commitment from. If you focus on him, he will consum your mind. If you think past him, you'll get past him!
2007-12-10 01:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hate to be the one who brings the bad news, but this guy is totally using you for sex. I'm actually appaulled that he is using the army as his get out of jail free card, but that's his choice to make. However, that being said, when he decides to use that, you should say that you don't trust guys who sleep with someone and brag about it, and who sees other women. It should be a privilege to be around you. And if you really liked you for more than what's underneath your clothing, he'd be dying to call you his girlfriend, take you out, buy you things, and wouldn't even look at other women. Until that happens, dear, don't give them a piece of you. I'm not saying wait until marriage, because that's not my choice to make, but I am saying, it would be wise to wait for someone who is worthy of your heart, and treats you right. Cut him loose, and good luck!
2007-12-10 01:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, anyone that doesn't treat you right does NOT deserve your precious time or energy!!!!! He obviously doesn't have the same feelings for you as you do for him. He sounds like a straight up player! He has no business telling your friends man about what you two do sexually, but that's what guys do!!! It doesn't make it right, but it makes them feel like men I guess???? Take a good long look sweetie, it may be hard to do, but you really need to cut the ties. He'll end up breaking your heart.
2007-12-10 01:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by kitty kat claws 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell me about it, I love guys who are bad for me. But I just end up hurting all the time. It's not worth it, you need to learn to think more of yourself - he's making you feel rubbish and you will end up believing him if you don't move on and find somebody who shows you some respect. You risk losing your dignity if you carry on letting him do this to you.
2007-12-10 01:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First i think that u should stop sleeping with him,because it seems that he just wants to have sex and u want a relationship as long as u keep giving him sex without commit he will never commit,and that men don't trust women when they r in the army that is bull crap. He is not ready that's' all
2007-12-10 01:47:00 · answer #9 · answered by latoya r 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, Boo Boo, you need counseling to learn to love yourself. If you loved yourself, you'd throw that jerk to the wolves. He treats you like dirt because you allow him to. You allow him to because you don't believe that you deserve better.
The only thing he likes about you is the free sex.
You started out wrong... going out to get drunk. That was a stupid mistake.
He talks about girls always cheat on their army guys because he wants to give himself an excuse to cheat on you.
How many times does he have to stab you with emotional attacks before you care enough about yourself to stop going back for HIS ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR. The next step is for him to beat you up physically, since he's already doing it emotionally.
Since you are so desperate for attention from this gorgeous looking jackass, he knows he can treat you bad and beat you up and you will just come back for more because YOU do NOT value yourself.
Go to counseling. If you're in school, there should be a school counselor. You can ask your parents to send you to a psychologist and their insurance can help. You are being ABUSED... abused women LOVE it and are SO HAPPY when their abuser gives them one tiny "kindness" like his texting you... which wasn't really nice... it was just an attempt to set you up to come back so he can ABUSE YOU AGAIN!
Wake UP! He's bragging about his conquest of you to your friend's boyfriend! and lying to him about you and he KNOWS this will get back to you... and so it's just ANOTHER WAY TO ABUSE YOU... verbal / emotional abuse is harder to deal with than physical abuse...
Get counseling, Boo!
2007-12-10 01:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋