my husband (their daddy) says she is just a perfect angel, with a capital "A", no less, but when I am around she immediately starts whining, wants to be held non-stop, etc. She's grabbing at my legs right now whining to be held. I don't pick her up in order to not 'teach' her that whining gets her what she wants. It doesn't seem to help. I give her TONS of affection so it's not a lack of 'mommy love' that is causing it. What can I do? She really tests me!!!
2007-12-10 01:24:34 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My husband used to say the same thing about my daughter, but she was only a little angel for him becuase he gave her everything she wanted. Which isn't that hard to do for a few hours at a time.
Just ignore the whining when you can't pick her up because you are busy. I used to have to keep mine gated in the living room with all of her toys while I cleaned or cooked.
She's two and ahalf and still occasionally has days like this. I hold her when I can and ignore, distract or punish the whining (timeout for excessive whining started at 2) when I can't pick her up.
My favorite is when she whines screams the whole way through the grocery store because she wants to be carried instead of being in the cart.
2007-12-10 01:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda I 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to be part of what you're doing. Not just to be held and loved on. Babies, epsecially girls, need that one on one time. Up on your level just watching what you're doing.
My 10 month old goes through this all the time. He'll get clingy and unpleasant if he has nothing to do while iam trying to get things done.
Just make her part of what you're doing. Theres times obviously, when she needs to entertain her self, but at 18 months those are not long espanses of time. If you're on the computer, sit her on the chair by you with some paper and a crayon, or a book, or something else to occupy her. If you're doing dishes pull and chair up and let her stick her hands in the water and help in some way, even if its just playing with a spoon. Thats my sons personal favorite.
If you're cleaning give her a paper towel and show her how to wipe the coffee table. When you're on the phone show her how to watch a cartoon, or to talk on her own little phone.
Things like that. She's just so used to getting your attention by screaming (even if its negative attention) and by being entertained by that constant complaint for attention. Once she realizes that she can be near you and part of your day she'll back off.
2007-12-10 01:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all kids do this. Kids like to make Mommy look like a "liar" Some kids just think Mommy is not as "tough" as Daddy. It will pass, believe me. Went through the same thing
2007-12-10 01:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but mine is 7 and only behaves well with other people. I guess it is just something that we get use too. Personally you would rather them act good for other people so when you really need a break they will be willing to babysit. G-luck.
2007-12-10 02:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bilinda G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one i know tells me how wonderful, polite, helpful, smart, curtious, loving, generous, sweet, kind, empathetic my children are they certainly are not like that with me, at least not all the time, helpful i have to ask 5 times for the trash to go out and they are doing it for others without even being asked LOL, that's how all kids are , you gave her the skills to be that way remember that, she is safe with you so she can be how ever she feels at that moment it will get easier, just be consistent with her, you are doing all the right things or she would not behave for anyone
2007-12-10 02:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by melissa s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is having the same problem with her son right now. He is just wonderful when I am watching him but let my daughter come around and he changes. I think it is just a stage but she gets onto him for the whinning and makes him set down he is about 15mo. But you child will grow out of it soon.
2007-12-10 01:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by ladygeronamo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she will change as time go's by, ,just have to hang in there,maybe your husband could distract her from time to time, to give you a break.
2007-12-10 01:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by josephrob2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's how you treat her. She's working you. You've obviously trained her to be this way around you.
2007-12-10 03:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋