What do YOU think of this statement made by a yahoo answers regular about dating CHRISTIANS and ATHEISTS???

Question

""I have no problem with my girlfriend's beliefs, and she has no problem with mine. Therefore, we have no problem ""

Do you AGREE? Is it RIGHT to date someone who does not share your RELIGION? Why would an ATHEIST want to date a CHRISTIAN? Would they ever have PURE motives?

I think the answer is NO it is an abomination and it is WRONG!

What do YOU SAY?

Corrosion EAC: YOU JUST PROVED WHAT I'M TRYING TO SAY! You atheists always have an agenda, don't you??? So you date people to try and get them to become atheists?? So you don't love them for how they are???

THIS is why a CHRISTIAN should not date an ATHEIST!!!!!

tbatty: THAT'S what I thought!! All you atheists seem to HATE CHRISTIANS so why would you want to DATE one?

BEZELBOT: thank you for also proving my point I just don't understand why ATHEISTS would want to date a CHRISTIAN if they were actually interested

Taelec: why would you date someone if you thought you'd be torn apart in the long run? Why even put yourself through that?

FALLEN ANGEL: Here I asked it there too just because you ASKED

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ah1mZSDHdZR2xZ8ngiOSsl7sy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071210061034AA7Oigp

Ray J FoZ: you call it an ODDITY I call it HYPOCRITICAL

Answer 1

Hi!

I agree with that person 100% :)

Sorry it took me so long to respond. You said that you would keep sending messages if I didn't reply back, and I was interested in what you had to say; so I didn't.

If you take any relationship in the world, you will find differences. No one person thinks exactly the same as the other, if you delve deep enough, you will find a difference of idea/opinion/belief with someone else, including your significant other.

The important part of the relationship my girlfriend and I have is that we are able to accept each other for who we are. I'm not trying to make her give up her beliefs, and she's not trying to save me. We have a mutual respect, something every relationship needs to be able to work.

Yes, I am the atheist. She is the Christian, as I think you probably expected. I want to date her because aside from our belief system, we share many interests. I want to date her, because we have a connection so great it's impossible to even put into words for you. I want to date her because I love her, and I don't think there's anything more pure than that.

Answer 2

I think if they can make it work, then that is wonderful. But as someone who became "unequally yoked" I can say that it can become very difficult. How do you decide certain things without stepping on each others toes.
Committing Wednesday night, Sunday morning and night to church rather than some other task.
Committing 10 % for tithe rather than a vacation or something else. Or what happens when money is so tight that it would be a hardship, then who gets the final say.
Teaching beliefs to the children: God exists ( or doesn't for the other), you should pray (why should you pray), wait until you are married for sex, church is important for you even if mom or dad doesn't go, forgiveness is important ( some do not think a grudge is wrong, but it is not a Christian action)
Respect for the others beliefs can become impossible, especially when each person is convinced they are the ones with the truth. How hard is it to continue to respect someone who you believe has the truth in their face and they refuse to see it.

Anyone who believes this relationship would be simple to maintain must not only be incredibly easygoing, to the point of never wanting their own way, but must also have a partner who is that easy going.
Can it be done, yes
Should it, that depends on the individuals
Will it be stressful and difficult, most likely
What are the odds that someone will change their mind and join the other side, or at least pretend to agree. I think they are pretty high until the resentment builds up with enough force to damage the relationship.

Answer 3

I understand exactly what he meant. I was raised southern baptist, but now I follow Witta more than anything else, and my husband is roman catholic. We have had no problems with our religions in the past 8 years of our marriage, nor during are 4 months of dating.
I agree with a few others, you just sound angry that someone else is happy and you're not. Also you do not sound very spiritually mature.
I find absolutely why dating someone of a differeing belief system woud be such problem, unless one of them made it a problem. Why would an aethiest want to date a christian? I don't know maybe he likes her for the person that she is, including her religion, becuase she does not judge him or others, like how a christian is supposed to be.
True God did say that we are not to be unequally yoked, but I think you are taking this out of context. There is suppose to be a balance, a harmony of sorts. Who's to say that that is not the case in this instance. Opposites attract.

Answer 4

It's not an "abomination" nor is it "wrong."

When the Bible says that we're not to be unequally yoked, it's a SUGGESTION. It's to save us the heartache that COULD be a result of such a union.

However, if two people can make it work, then more power to them.

I'm a Christian married to a nonreligious theist, by the way. Do I wish he was a Christian? Yes. It would make things a LOT easier. We disagree on EVERYTHING, from child rearing to my mom to music to movies...EVERYTHING. But maybe, through me, he can come to know my Lord and Savior. It means I have to work extra hard to glorify Christ in everything I do...because the last thing I want is to appear as a hypocrite.

And maybe, just maybe, an atheist would want to date a Christian who actually tried to be Christ-like. Who wouldn't? Being Christ-like makes people beautiful.

Answer 5

I think you sound bitter and angry like you got shot down for a date and now you want to blame it on the fact that your potential date did not believe the same as you.

If they want to date then it is up to them to figure out how to best do it. Though in the long run the views might pull them apart and they will go their own ways.
If they are decent humans they will be nice about it be glad they shared some time and move on with out hate and anger.

If it does work out then they were able to over come the differences and good for them

Answer 6

Up till this point in time, I have dated a christian, Muslim, weird hippy chick who had a kind of extremist gaia outlook, several atheists and a girl who was so lazy and apathetic you could get away with calling her a nihilist.

My motives for dating these people were purely for companionship.

Did I change any ones religion?
No.

Did I try to?
No.

Was it right?
It was at the time.

Are you a fundamentalist extremist?
I think so.

Answer 7

Just my opinion, but maybe love is more important than religion. I prefer not to think of love as an abomination and in all honesty, I would prefer not to think that religion can make love into an abomination. You are asking for my thoughts, right?

Answer 8

what does it have to do with you? if they are in love then religion does not even come in to it. the people that have the problem are generally the religious people.
but thats another story altogether, religion is the most dangerous thing on the earth, if it were up to me i would ban it.
and all the religious nutters, the world would be a far better place.

Answer 9

for the reason that while are questions and solutions on the situation of religion and Spirituality constrained to those that have self belief? So what may well be the ingredient to an "Atheist" section? seems surprisingly redundant to me. What next, non-electorate no longer allowed to take part in balloting and Elections?

Answer 10

First off no need for al them capital letters, it just seems silly. Secondly whats the big deal about a christian and an atheist hooking up? You think 'cause dudes an atheist he's gonna wanna get freaky with the girl? God said love all things right

If anything you dumbass you should think its good for the christian to be with the atheist so she can help 'save his soul'

P.S. If you judge all atheists by what one atheist says on Yahoo!Answers than you are even more of a ******* idiot than I can imagine.