throughout his body.....My husband is at work right now and his mom wants me to wait for him to come home and break the news.......How do i do this keep in mind his dad is only 47 and he has 2 months to live iffffffffffff that maybe less
2007-12-10 00:10:24 · 17 answers · asked by Vicky P 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
I'm going through the same situation with my Dad. This is his third bout with cancer. One prostate and two with colon, he has a colostomy. I'm here typing with tears in my eyes knowing what your husband and family is going through. Nine, yes nine years ago they told us that they would try to keep him with us through Christmas. Well he is getting by with struggles, but he's getting by. There is so much to fight for, but each individual and situation is different. As suggested by Inverse Mushroom, if he has any fight left, drop that two month thing like a hot potato, there are other options.
http://www.cancercenter.com/
http://health.usnews.com/usnews/health/best-hospitals/search.php?spec=ihqcanc
The body is truly remarkable, one should not underestimate the power of prayer and what can happen with the right attitude, not only from the patient but the support network too.
God Bless your father in law and family, ;-)
Edit: Thanks, Lyn. ;-)
2007-12-10 06:48:38 · answer #1 · answered by Tony 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd maybe let go of the 2 months thing.
They don't know. I've never heard of any doctor ever getting that "time left" thing right. Sometimes 2 months turns out to be 2 weeks, sometimes 4 years.
Truly. It's how his body deals with the disease, what medications or additional treatment he chooses, his will to survive, etc. All that, and the mystery of the universe determine how long a person will live.
2007-12-10 02:43:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so terribly sorry to hear that.. But you know what.. stay strong for your husband, because he needs someone emotionally strong during this time, assure him that everything is going to be fine... Yes, it's going to be hard in the beginning, but trust me.. everything is sure to pick up after a while.
And please also ask him to be strong, when facing his dad, as you know.. his father should be able to see everyone around him is doing just fine and will do fine after he pass. I'm sure no body wants to die knowing that they have not helped or complete the lives of people that he/she cares about right?
Break this news to your husband calmly, and tell him that's it's alrite.. anyway it is going to happen to everyone, sooner or later, there's always a reason why a certain thing have to happen in a way that we don't desire.. but that' just the way it is... look at the bright side, instead of living to suffer the pain it's better to just let it all go away. Anyway, he is going to a better place yes? believe in it.. and always pray that he'll be happy in paradise, after all the suffering he's gone through... Stay Strong... take care... loves...
2007-12-10 00:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by tasyreen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I feel you should give your husband a call, and ask if he can come home, you need to talk to him. If he insists to talk over the phone, just tell him what you know. He will appreciate the prompt news, I'm sure. He may want to be with his dad now right after the news, instead of waiting. It isn't easy to break news such as this, but he does need to know, and to come from his wife would be the most comforting, I'm sure. Be strong, honest and offer comfort.
2007-12-10 00:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness... My heart, thoughts and prayers are with you. Unfortunatly, you will have to do this and be strong for your hubby. Try not to fall apart, because he will need to. In times like this, it is never easy. I just hope you both know how much he is suffering already. Sometimes, it is for the best that god doesn't let the suffering go on forever. Find comfort in each other... There you will all find strength.
Many prayers....
Edit: Tony: I am so sorry to hear of your situation as well. You know my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family. Never give up. Either of you. God works in wonderous ways.
Lyn
2007-12-10 09:56:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow! How sad. I hate it when I have to be the one to break bad news to someone. I had to tell my husband his dad had died....it was hard.
When your husband gets home, just explain to him what you have told us, that his cancer had spread, they couldn't operate and it doesn't look good. He will have some questions and you just have to answer them.
My sympathy to the both of you.....47 is a very young age to deal with cancer. God Bless, your in my prayers.
2007-12-10 00:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check up with other Cancer research Hospitals. Tata Cancer Research Hospital in Bombay do a lot of Good work. Tried with them?
2007-12-10 00:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by pai 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell your husband over the phone. There is no reason to endanger other drivers. The furthest thing from his mind will be driving .
2007-12-10 01:03:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's uncle died of this. He was 78 and it was a terrible death. You are all in our prayers. Very sad. On some level your husband already knows. Just say it straight out.
2007-12-10 00:14:41 · answer #9 · answered by Alea S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his dad has that little time I would inform my husband immediately. There are things he will want to do or say to his father and with so little time, he needs all of it.
2007-12-10 00:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by babydoll 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋