Do you used to be shy?

Question

If so,how did you overcome it?

Answer 1

i think shyness can be overcome...its all about how you view the world...if you think other people are more comfortable in the world, are more at ease and can interact better than you then you are giving yourself reasons to be quiet, shy and reserved...

just realise that you can cope with every situation you encounter...that your view is worth everyones attention, that people give you attention and it is nothing to be scared of, most people are friendly and nice once you get over the awkward stage of introductions!

start with little challenges...like when you go to a store ask a sales assistant are these pants available in black or brown or size 6, size 8...anything just to start a small conversation, when you go out with friends and they meet new people make an effort to interact...

being shy is very difficult...but people are kind towards shy people and will help you out...dont let your shyness hold you back.

i know some situations are difficult when you are shy but once you face your fear then you will feel a new sense of power and leave your shyness behind...people do this everyday! good luck

Answer 2

Yes, and I think I just outgrew it.

But don't be too hard on yourself if you are the shy one. There are plenty of people who will still want to know you and for a variety of reasons.

It's far easier to be a shy female, but even shy men have their fans. If you really want to change, expose yourself more to situations that require you to step out of your comfort zone a bit, situations where you need to speak in front of people for instance (Some have used clubs like "Toastmasters" for this very purpose and been successful). No one changes by doing nothing, keeping things the same. But also consider that the basic personality of a person is pretty well set by the age of 5.

And on the other hand, people have done far harder things, had worse fears to overcome. Assuming your shyness is based on some kind of fear.

It might help to identify the situations that make you feel most shy and slowly expose yourself to those. There is much to be said for "...try try again" as well as for being a more outgoing person.

In the meantime, don't beat yourself up. There are far more important aspects of character, and if those are positive, you aren't likely to suffer much by being a little on the reserved side. Think of all the idiots who speak before they think, or who never stop talking (or writing for that matter... YIKES!).

Enough said... good luck

Answer 3

Yes, I used to be shy when I was a teenager and a young woman, I was afraid of talking with people I didn’t know, I felt nervous at social events, I was afraid to talk in public, I couldn’t look into the eyes of the people I was talking to, being completely unable to stand up for myself and take any decision regarding my own life or future. ... this and many things more.
I guess this is the result of such a typical sexist education I was given by my family. Due to them a girl / woman was expected to behave with modesty and be quiet and listen...
Did I overcome it?
Yes, of course I did.
Why?
Well, in the first place I hated it to see myself like this and I felt, that it was unfair to wait in the corner until somebody recognizes that I am a young intelligent women who could achieve many more things than people were willing to give me if I started to value myself more positively and if I started to demand these things for me.
I mean, nobody will come to you and say, that you seem to be a good person and offer you a good career chance...as just these people who know how to promote themselves get further in life.
I started to change at university when I went to USA to study there.
It was hard in the beginning, but I had to do it, as otherwise my colleagues would have eaten me alive... if you don’t respect yourself and don’t value yourself enough, believe me, nobody else will do it for you and you will always stuck in second or third league.
I have to admit, that I had some very good friends who realized what my problem was about and they made me open my eyes and see, that nowadays a woman could have the same success than a man and have a good career and live without prejudice, just the way I wanted to live without any chains and limits, as these limits only exist in our imagination.
We have been told all our life that this and that is our limit and that we have to behave this and that way and do things exactly as expected if we wanted to be respected and accepted.
But I learned, that people have to accept me the way I am, with all my virtues and mistakes, as I am a person and not a robot. I learned, that I have a mind on my own and nobody can take any decision over my life, just me.
Now I am a self confident and somehow even extrovert person. Thanks to these people who helped me to do the first step.
If you don’t value yourself enough, nobody else will do it for you.
Shyness isn’t any desirable quality, shyness is a lack of self-confidence and with shyness nobody will reach his / hers merits.
You have to be strong and take the first little step and you will see that with the time your steps will become bigger and soon you will walk with strength through your life and be the only master of your life and future.
Good luck!!

Answer 4

I think we get shy cos wer worried about what others think of us, it's usual caused by insecurities in ourselves so the first thing is to find all the things that make you special, right them down if it helps, we all have good qualities. Focus on these good things and you will be able to open up more and express these to others. I was shy but as i have gotten older i have finally started to know me as a person and the things others like about me.Have faith in yourself.

Answer 5

I did when I was younger.. You just need to stop it.. love who you are and be proud. You may have some self-esteem issues? Shyness is hard to overcome but just step out and tell yourself I am just as good as the next person ... and stop careing what people think.. live and breath and enjoy your life.. don't short yourself out because you are to imbarrest ... be free

Answer 6

i used to be really shy but as i grew up i realised the reason i were getting bullied is cos i wr too shy to stand up for myself and i wasnt going to take it any more so i stood up to the bullies and my confidence slowly grew form there, im still quite shy but not as bad as i use to be

Answer 7

i had to say a speech in front of my whole grade.. and after that poof i became a really confident girl and now im one of da school's best public speakers

Answer 8

age

Answer 9

~try talking to other people
~socialize more
~if your in school raise your hand at least one during the period every period.
~smile =)

Answer 10

no never. i am very bold about what i have to sya from a long time