I'm a single parent of four boys and I'm finding my eldest son a nightmare. He swears, kicks, screams the house down and bites his younger brothers. I don't swear, or even shout loud so I don't know where he is getting it from, I have tried to take aways his toys, put him on the bottom stairs for 5 minutes among other things, but he is still being a nightmare!
Also he refuses to use the potty, wets and soils the bed at night and even worse, sometimes takes his diaper off and soils all over the furniture. Please Help!
2007-12-09 23:46:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Call your pediatrician ASAP, really sounds like he needs to be evaluated. That is not typical five year old behavior. If the pediatrician seems unconcerned I would call a mental/behavioral health center and arrange an evaluation. Really sounds like he has some other things going on, rather than just behavior issues. Good Luck.
2007-12-09 23:57:53 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rather than taking things away, try starting with nothing other than the necessities; food, water, roof, clothing. Anything past them has to be earned. Including watching tv.
When you have a difficult one it seems making them earn each item and activity works better than taking things away as they can simply move on to the next thing not yet taken..... When made to earn they find if they act up they have zippo but if want things they must be on good behavior.
When he refuses to use the potty, make him clean the mess. These suggestions are for a child who is not handicaped etc in some way......
**mrJones** Not everything in life is a choice we have the luxery of making. Sometimes there is "death", sometimes its not a choice of the woman but perhaps (and commonly so) the man abandons the family after a split up.
**guenna** Whats different between ourselves or even our parents and our time of child bearing? The spanking!!! Take a good look around and see where taking it got us!!! I think that mistake PROVIDED us with more violence by its absense alone!!
**lacie** I agree to rule out any mishap. I also agree a single mother can do just as well. (an opinion of a non-single parent), as many times its just the mother at home raising those children whether single or not. Dads at work. Of course your just as capable single as married!!! The difference there is mom pulls both weights, has less time, but still the primary one interracting with the child bearing....... Making a comment like that is saying a working mom can do better because a man comes home at the end of the day.........ridiculas. Its all about effort and whats put into it.
2007-12-10 00:50:15 · answer #2 · answered by savahna5 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very serious. You don't say whether this is something new or ongoing. Either way something needs to be done asap. If the behavior is new than you need to find out what has happened to cause these problems. He needs to be evaluated immediately to see if something is wrong or if somebody is doing something to him (God Forbid). If all is well, and I hope it is. Than it is time to take control of the situation. Be firm and yes, although I am not an advocate of spanking, these behaviors can and will overflow outside the home. If it is not corrected soon as he gets older it will only get worse. Better his tears now because of a spanking than yours later because he is in jail or dead. Sounds a little drastic? Just ask a parent who didn't handle these problems years ago. Just curious, why on earth is he in a diaper at the age of 5??!! And please I just read where someone else blamed a child's behavior problems on living in a single parent home. Don't speak of what you don't know. My son was raised in a single parent home and he was a ideal child and, people always tell me what a wonderful person he is. He has grown into a wonderful man that I am proud to call my son. Most of these people don't know that he came from a single parent home or that he never even met his father. (his fathers choice not mine) It is only an excuse to allow these kids to get away with murder not to mention an insult to women. It says we are not capable of raising our children.
2007-12-10 00:54:30 · answer #3 · answered by laciealexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
A parent needs to watch and evaluate kiddies while they learn to do potty training or similar. My babies use to let a wind(fart) before they need a potty. Look at signs like these and change his diaper before he gets frustrated with it.
To me it sounds if there is something wrong with him or there is a good reason why he is behaving this way. Watch him closely and see if you can identify what is troubling him.
The other thing is kids learn well when you teach them something with a little enthusiasm and excitement.
Also teach him to use the potty by helping him to it yourself on a consistant base and he will catch up to it. Boys are like that, my son struggle to eat neatly. There are small things they don't understand and they can't put the whole potty training thing together and in the process gets fristrated with doing it.
Or the other possibility is that your intervals to change nappies are to wide. Check them on a shorter interval.
2007-12-10 02:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by meintjiela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously..get him off the diaper. He's 5 years old for crying out loud! He's in kindergarten! I don't think kindergarten teachers want to change a 5 year old's diaper. Don't put a diaper on him, keep him in underwear. If he craps in it, give him a new pair. And, if he poops and pees everywhere, he is old enough to know that that is wrong and he can clean it up himself...
2007-12-10 07:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs a good ole spanking instead of a worthless time out. Your Son is rebelling and he knows the consequence is minimal. He knows he can get away with bad behavior because mommy won't paddle him for beating up his siblings. Well Mom, you had better try to stop being your kids best friend and act like a mother or you will be visiting your babies in jail when they are older.
2007-12-09 23:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-31 04:56:58 · answer #7 · answered by anavitate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the dumbest thing i've ever seen is an adult trying to reason and negotiate with a child...he doesn't need therapy or drugs or time outs, what he needs is somebody to be afraid of, and if you're a single parent (with four? interesting lifestyle choice) its gonna have to be you...that child needs a good smack or he will run your life more that he already is...
2007-12-09 23:59:50 · answer #8 · answered by mrjones502003 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
aside from spanking his butt
also talk to his pediatrician and get him checked for issues such as ADHD or other issues associated with the problems he has at his age
2007-12-09 23:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by squeaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good choice on the four kids. The problem is not theirs, it's yours.
2007-12-10 03:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋