Lately, my stress level has been hitting an all time high and the littlest thing will throw me off the handle and i will just get so upset with anything and everything and then after that, i will just be so down in the dumps and depressed about where i am at in life and where i see myself in the future and i just feel so lonely. I use to be that go to guy for a laugh and i use to cheer everyone up but not lately. I have talked to our medical coreman and he told me that that feeling is normal during deployment and that i will get over it but it has been 4 months now and i still get the same feelings. I am not suicidal but just get so depressed. A month upon arriving out here, my fiancee let me for someone else as well as took a great chunk of my paycheck while doing so but now it just seems that i have nowhere to turn to besides someone telling me to get over it. What is wrong with me and what do i need to do or take to fix my problem.
2007-12-09 22:53:07 · 14 answers · asked by gtrac3r93 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
u have had a terrible hurt, it does hurt to get kicked to the curb, used, and u don't just get over it easily. to fix the problem and it won't come overnight, know that your self worth doesn't lie with what happened to u, or with this woman who rejected u, it lies with god and what god thinks of u. focus on god instead of what happened to u. sometimes there is no way to get over something like this easily, it takes time, and theres a grief process u will go through, as time goes by it will feel less hurtful than it does now. sometimes it takes years to get past. the one u loved let u down and its a big shock for u, u believed in her, gave her your heart, and she abandoned u, there is no hurt worse than this. just don't blame yourself for what she did. but everything happens for a reason, and when one door closes another opens up, we just have to be patient and wait. we all have a destiny and a life, and u will be able to see it one day soon if u can just be patient and go through the grief.
2007-12-09 23:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with MAD. If this is the kind of advice corpsmen are handing out over there, it's no wonder we have such a high suicide rate! Talk to whoever you have to to get a referral to an actual physician, a psychiatrist if there is one available. I'm sure as a deployed soldier you get plenty of exercise every day and it's obviously not helping. The mere act of deployment can cause depression, let alone a major breakup at the same time! Make somebody there help you!
2007-12-09 23:36:08 · answer #2 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The usual tip is to visit a counselor, but if you don't want it then do this:
First, be sure you're healthy physically. Mind your sleeping habits, diet, exercise, breathing, etc. Be aware of how stress is affecting your health, counter its effects on health. You can't do the next steps well if you're not healthy.
Next, reflect and feel what you really want inside. Take note of how you really feel about your fiance, what you really want to do, how you want to be seen by people, what sort of relationships you want to have, etc. Sometimes its hard to uncover how you really feel inside.
Discover which things in the outside world arouse something deep in you. I've learned that what gives life color and meaning and fun are passions, emotions that you don't feel everyday. Engage with people and activities again; there's just no way you can feel the bohemian emotions until you're engaging with the world.
Don't just sit in the corner contemplating what to do with your love life or career. Once you're healthy physically and mentally, you will just feel that the future is bright and you can find new opportunities in your job or love life. There's no "why" to it, your body just tells you that the future is bright.
2007-12-09 23:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by raptureoftheblade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend I feel for you. u feeling depressed is completely normal, especially when u just been deployed and your fiancee did such an awful thing to u. Listen, and I speak from experience because Im going through depression right now. Just take this time a grow spiritually and by that I mean seek God during your tribulations or dire times. Listen psychotherapy and drugs might help, but believe me NOTHING and I mean NOTHING compares to the love God has for you and the plan he has for your life. I dont know where you are right now but if u can go to church; go and start reading the bible. Read the book of Psalms, it brings me so much comfort. All of us go through hard times and believe me they are not gonna stop coming but if we have God on our side we can always count on him to pull us through by the love of his son Jesus Christ. God loves you and if u didnt marry that girl is because he has someone better for u. Believe in him and have faith. I know and I have faith that everything in ur life will get better. Dont listen to the people that tell u get over it, thats boloni, give urself time to heal and then move on ok? God bless and take care, Im rooting for u.
2007-12-10 12:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by GIOVAN R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard that excercise is better than antidepressants so one time when I was feeling low I went out and bought an excercise video and tried it, it was the last thing I wanted to do but I did actually feel better afterwards, any small sense of achievement helps you feel better about yourself and it is true what they say doing anything is better than nothing. Just try small things at first anything that will give you a break from your problems for a while.
2007-12-09 23:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by laura lou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go to sleep relax by smoking a bowl or two and have a cold beer. You'll sleep like a baby, you'll forget about you're problems and in the process you'll re-analyze your life and figure out whats really important to you.
2007-12-10 01:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal everything even if you dont do anything.Read books on positive thinking.If you are jobless,take some course wich will help you when you'll find a job. this thing helps a lot,especially if you try to learn something new.You'll meet new people.and may find someone nice.And later on when you'll get over this you would be happy that you didnt waste your time,and did something that will help you in future.Pray to God.
Today i read something which i found good and i want to share it with you" whenever you fall,pick some thing"its funny isnt it? but if you apply it on your situation you'll realize its a lesson.
2007-12-09 23:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are depressed and rightfully so, you have been deployed (stressful) and your fiance left too (another very stressful situation).
This "just get over it" stuff really gets me angry, those people are not dealing in reality. They stuff their problems down and don't deal with them, very mentally unhealthy.
I suggest you talk to a chaplin, usually they are versed in helping in stressful situations. Go easy on yourself, don't do unhealthy things to escape; alcohol, drugs, but concentrate on eating healthy, getting exercise and get sleep.
Take care, soon you will be feeling better.
2007-12-09 23:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Go see your Doctor if it is an MD he can still prescribe you
something and refer you to a Psychiatrist or whatever
specialist you may need
2007-12-09 22:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by Rayha 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey...go make yourself an appointment with a qualified shrink...i mean psychiatrist...that should definitely help. Trust me. Been there, done that! You'll be just fine... =)
2007-12-09 22:57:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dark Dickinsonian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋