..That is if I haven't already. I feel so weak, I've been fighting this for three years and started seeing a therapist a few months ago. It's helping, but I was in a bad relationship and he's ended it, now I am devastated and don't know what I am living for. I've got massive university deadlines which determine if I pass the year or not, and I can't do anything. I've tried everything short of antidepressants because I don't believe in them...but I don't know how to find some sense of self worth, especially because I gave everything and did everything for my ex but he still left me. we had a tumultuous relationship from the start, but i don't understand why nothing i did was enough and why he couldn't love me. i don't know what to do with myself when i am alone. i have no self-worth or pride anymore and i can't see this getting any better.I guess I just don't know what's worth loving about me because my parents both abandoned me- sort of...my mum left and my dad married a woman who abused my brother and i. As much of a cliche it is to 'blame it on the parents', dealing with all that rubbish as well as the stuff that is going on now is just a total overload! I've tried so hard to keep it together for so long and i'm just exhausted. It's tiring being positive all the time and pretending that you are fine.
2007-12-09 22:52:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Tomatina,
You have had it rough, but I promise it will get better!!! You may want to try an antidepessant just to get you through this rough spot. I am not for medicating oneself, but if you had an infection you would take an antibiotic. You have ALOT going on!! It is great that you are in counseling, if you feel like that is helpful, keep going. If it is not helpful, maybe you need to look for another counselor. Always work with a counselor and a MD so you can control your medication.
Now that part is out of the way, I have a saying "Just do something even when you don't feel like it and the feeling will follow". I don't know where I heard this but it has got me walking, got me studying, got me out of the house when I was really down. Go to the library, go to a museum on a Saturday, just do something different to get a change of scenery.
You are worthy, even if you don't see it, you are a very special person!!! Every person on this earth is wonderful, you will get through this... Good Luck
2007-12-09 23:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by josephina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You Will never understand why this person left you. Now, can you except that and start to re-build your life without them? Hurts so good time is over. Take St Johns Wort, or go to a therapist to get anti-depressions, you don't believe in them why what your doing now is not helping. Sometime outside forces can be overwhelming. stop trying to do it on your own. Don't say another negative thing out of your mouth for the next 3 days and watch how much better you'll feel. Throw yourself into new situations that you've wanted to try but never have. You don't have to be positive just stop being negative. Be around like minded people, same interests that's how you'll make friends. go feed the hungry or help someone who needs it. You'll look at your liefs situation different. As life goes on sh** happens. Be determine to be a surviver not a lifelong victim. Move forward...
2007-12-10 04:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by Raven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I know how it feels to give unselfishly of yourself and then have the person leave you. It's very humiliating. In my case, the person didn't care much in the first place. I think if you find yourself giving "too much", it is a bad sign. I don't know if anything will make you feel better immediately. Perhaps you can just be happy that the person is gone and in time you will feel better. It might take a while. In the mean time go out with friends. Try to do things that make you feel happy. Good luck.
2007-12-10 01:39:51 · answer #3 · answered by wittygee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything, you probably did no longer something incorrect. in case you gave all your coronary heart and soul to the relationship-then he's interior the incorrect. now may be the time which you will concentration on your instructions and take your recommendations off of the loser. I say loser because of the fact thats what he's. I dont care in case you adore him or no longer, he's a loser. He dumped you, so he's a loser. I dont have faith in anti-depressents the two. commence getting out with acquaintances and guffawing. pass to video clips, pass buying, discover pastimes. You mentioned you gave each and every thing-dont be embarrassed approximately that. He didnt- shamey on him. there is somebody else accessible greater desirable for you. i understand you nonetheless ought to cry yet you mentioned the relationship exchange into tumultuous at suitable. which potential there is greater desirable waiting for you someplace. Get your hair completed, purchase some new clothing, underclothes, and physique spray. concentration on something yet him. think of of this as a door commencing which you will start a clean existence. you're able to make it in spite of you prefer. a clean commence. Take in spite of you probably did no longer like correct to the earlier relationship and dont settle for it back. Cry, pout, yet dont take a seat at homestead. Get out--the harm will subside and you are going to adore existence back. Been there, it is going away. then you certainly will meet the nicely suited one. you need to examine to love you back-sounds like he overwhelmed your self-nicely worth. look interior the mirror- I wager you're fairly. Have satisfaction-you're no longer interior the incorrect. think of of ways plenty a clean guy gets excitement from how plenty you provide. Get accessible and stay!!
2016-10-10 23:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by prebor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay on your meds and if need be have them changed. You may need something stronger to help you through this, especially with the holidays upon us. Just remember, that things are tough at the moment for you but things WILL get better. You'll get through this and there will be a brighter tomorrow. You can email me if you just need someone to talk to. Don't pretend to be fine and talk with some close friends about your feelings. See if you can get together with some of them and do something together. Getting out and walking makes me feel so much better emotionally and physically. I also get to breathe in the fresh air and enjoy the beautiful sunshine. It's unbelievable how much sunshine affects our mood.
2007-12-10 03:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetnsassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you are seeing a counselor, I suggest you bump up your appointments (if you see them once a week, go twice) right now through your breakup.
You DO NOT live for some man! You live for yourself and all that you were put here for, you have to figure out what you want out of life and go get it. Life is NOT about finding a man!
If this was a bad relationship, it's good it's over, through your counseling you must have gained some strength and he must have seen that. Good for you!
We don't need bad relationships, love should not hurt.
Rest, eat healthy, exercise (long walks are great) and focus on your future, what do you want out of life, what have been your interests and what are you good at doing?
Take care of yourself and I know you can pull yourself out of this, you were strong to go to counseling and seek help, that is a healthy person that does that. Now continue to take step forward in your life.
2007-12-09 23:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww.. well i'm not really good at cheering people up, but you should try to do things that you like doing. And about that ex of yours, you should forget him and move on because it's him that's not worth loving..trust me you'll find someone a LOOOOT better than him. =). just get yourself busy with things that you like and especially with friends. good luck!
2007-12-09 23:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by Carlo D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti depressants are not all bad if you find one that works with your body all they will do is let you see a different out look on the situation and speed up your recovery.
2007-12-09 23:42:36 · answer #8 · answered by bone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋