My neice is 3 months old and there is no room in my sisters 2 bed home to make her a bedroom. She is going to have to sleep in the same room as my nephew who is 10. When he is 12 I doubt he will want his little sister running around his ankles all the time. They have told my sister that my neice isnt classed as a person until she is two.
Annoying!
2007-12-09 22:22:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
yes i know they have got a roof over their heads, but it is annoying that they dont class her as a PERSON.
2007-12-09 22:33:04 · update #1
it is going to be difficult for my neice to learn to crawl and walk too because the living room is soooo small. I dont understand why they dont just offer a slightly bigger house so the baby can develop properly
2007-12-09 22:38:27 · update #2
My son and daughter have to share a room, he's 3 and she's 18 months. In our area you are not classed as a person until you are 10 and they would have to share until my sons 10th birthday (unless we moved into private accomodation or had another child)
Unfortunately while these situations are not ideal (verging on ridiculous) there is simply not enough housing to go around. At least it's only until she's 2 not 10!
Your niece is only 3 months so she could share with her parents until she was a year old, that's what we did with our daughter. By that point your sister may be in a better position to afford different accomodation, i know it's easier said then done, i fully understand how difficult it can be affording private rentals. But we are lucky to have homes, many people unable to afford private renting are lucky to get places in sheltered housing and hostels.
2007-12-09 22:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why cant she share a room with the mother until they get somewhere bigger? Or the mother could move into the lounge onto a sofa bed. My friend has two children. A boy aged 5 and a girl aged nearly 4. They had to find accommodation in a hurry. (they were caught in the floods) there were no housing association houses available so she went private. the only place she could afford that was available asap was a small one bed roomed flat. she lets the kids have the bedroom and she has the lounge. but she is just happy to have a roof over their heads. Your sister sounds quite selfish. Worrying about herself when there are a lot more people worse off. Hope she has no more kids if she cant think of solutions to make this work for them.
2007-12-10 08:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney and Jazmine's mummy 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
than your sister need to get out of housing and find her own place, if that sound nsaty I am sorry
but remember the old days when sibling sleep together why can that be a problem to teach our children to share a room
what if their was no Gov housing ( I presume they are the only office that will give your sister this answer because I am a landlord and I rent to people on section 8) people will have to make do on what they have, so stop complaining about what is rediculous and start worry about if the place she has is safe to raise her children and guess what 2 years pass very fast , also noted that is it good for a child to lear a little annoyance once in while or that bother you guys so much the baby can share her room
remember usually housing give you home when they think their is not a husband so basically she is in a room by herself
2007-12-10 06:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I can see where they are coming from, they class the baby as a baby not a person, a baby is able to sleep in a cot in the mothers room happily until about the age of two, really dont want to sound nasty but maybe your sister should have got a bigger house BEFORE she had another baby and not hoped that by having a baby first she would get a bigger house. Your sister has no god given RIGHT to get a bigger house just because she decided to have another child. The child will develop fine, some children are brought up in bedsits and manage to crawl and walk just fine.
2007-12-10 10:21:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ktloop 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My 4 children have slept together since birth practically. You'd be surprised at how much an older child can adapt to a younger sibling sharing their space, especially at such an age gap.
Your niece is definitely a person as soon as she's born, but why is it so ridiculous to you that your niece share a room with your nephew? Do you want her to move?
Babies thrive in happy homes. The size of the accommodations aren't going to effect her development. I've raised kids in tiny apartments and huge houses. A child adapts.
2007-12-10 06:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Denise S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, me & my partner have just bought a flat,and it is only one bedroom. I'm 27 weeks pregnant & they baby will have to share a room with us for a few years, its not massive but big enought. As long as we give out baby the love and support she needs to grown up, i don't think it really matters how big the accommodation is.
I take is this is council, and she wants to be moved (just from the way you say "they have told my sister") She has a home, i was on the council list but was told it could take 2 - 8 years to be housed even thought i am 27 weeks pregnant. Its called Patients..
2007-12-10 07:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa Lou <3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats odd i thought council rehoused if the oldest was over 7-maybe im wrong!
Anyway has your sister thought about dividing the room-u can get temperary walls, hanging curtians across or something atleast then it's almost a separate room for the boy.
Maybe your sister will be rehoused before the baby is old enough to need her own room!
2007-12-10 14:51:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 14 and my mom had a baby in a two bedroomed house. I love my little brother but didnt want to share a room,
so my mom built a room for me up the top of the garden (its a converted shed)
it has electricity, heat, and it even get too warm when its snowing outside!
i love it, but when i tell my friends they think thats radiculas so u can never win!
2007-12-10 06:27:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is absolutely the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard how can a child of any age not be classed as a person. So what happens to all those children under 2 that are abused at home? So they don't get help because they are not a person yet!
What an insane world we live in.
2007-12-10 07:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by 11111 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My children both slept in my bedroom until they were at least six months old so I could feed them and check on them during the night with minimum disturbance. However, I would agree that it is not good for children with a wide age gap to share a room as I shared with my eight year older sister and she found it really difficult as a teenager having to share with a toddler.
2007-12-10 06:34:34 · answer #10 · answered by SLH 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋