boyfriend doubting on me..very unfair. pls help.?

Question

there is a friend of mine say A who is very jolly, good nature, charming but not flirt means he keeps sending kisses and love yous in emails or texts or scraps or whatever to frens in a general way. he's a nice heart person. i cant explain his nature in a better way.

so what happened was just recently my boyfriend went through my orkut profile he saw my frend A's scrap which was dated 2nd august 2007 where he said "love you bye emmuah." something like that & after reading it he asked for explanation. i told him that my friend A did so casually, there is nothing between me & him,i feel there is nothing to object, & i wont ask him change himself because i know he doesnt mean anything when he says like that to people. then he said that i am a cheap person as im ok with people saying lov you & giving kisses & also said "go and wait for your loving friends for hot kisses,you are not my gf". he is been ignoring me since then. i am shattered & very insulted. im feeling very bad.

when his female friends in his office flirt with him using similar words, i never objected, im not that sorts coz i know they r just like me, dumb and silly and they dont mean it. but when my friends do something like that, i am called cheap. and i am not his girl anymore. how am i supposed to deal with this? the moment i think abt the words he told me, i feel like crying, i have to study for my exams but im not able to concentrate. i feel lonely

Answer 1

admit it..you would feel the same...try to convince him it meant nothing and you understand and it wont happen any more....if you want him...

Answer 2

Your friend has a point.
You might not see it, but this 'jolly' friend of yours is in love with you. Just because you don't love him doesn't mean he doesn't have feelings, dear.
If you don't believe me, you should do the Friday-Night-test: Phone him up and tell him you are alone, bored and you really want him to come over to f*** you. In less then ten minutes he'll be at your door, carrying a bottle of wine and 24 red roses, saying 'I am sorry I'm late'

Your current boyfriend knows this.
He is overreacting because you have no feelings for this 'jolly' friend, but the best thing for everybody would be to tell your 'jolly' friend to stop this.
It will free him to seek out other women - because as long as you let this endure, he is putting his onw love-life on hold for you. That is not fair.
It will allow you to give attention to your boyfriend and give you some leverage over him.
And it will allow your boyfriend to know you're serious.

Answer 3

seriously... get rid of your boyfriend. if hes going to jump to conclusions and insult you over something like that... you shouldnt be with him...especially if hes going to be so childish and ignore you and believe you when you are telling the truth.

find someone that accepts the fact that you have guy friends.

Answer 4

if ur dating a guy,who is so insecure.....then get ready for a miserable life.there r more than millions of guys out there.............ok tell him"i have faith in u,n i expect same from u.i may have lots of guys as my frnds,that doesn't mean that they all are my bfrnds!u have gals as ur frnds(if he have any?),i never suspect u.trust me............otherwise doors ore open"seems very rude.but if u want to have ur self esteem intact.....u must have the guts to leave any person who don't fit in ur category.live ur life in ur our terms,don't get dictated by others.......best of luck...................n yeah REMEMBER::no one makes u infeirior wothout ur permission.

Answer 5

i can see where your boyfriend feels, but he never should
have gone through your profile in the first place.
your boyfriend lacks maturity, maybe find one that doesnt,