I think that my 2 1/2 year old daugther was hit in the face by her Dad?

Question

My daugther woke up in the middle of the night and said that her Dad hit her in the face. I asked the next morning for more details and she said Daddy was mad and hit me in the face. I asked my soon to be Ex about it and he said that nothing happened. 2 nights later same thing happens except this time she said that he hit her in the head and it was an accident. And, he said that did happen. I asked him again about hitting her in the face and he said he dones't know why she would say that.
What should I do?

Answer 1

let me give you some good advice unlike some of these cretenous yahoos

YOU BETTER BE DAMM SURE THAT YOUR EX IS DOING THIS TO YOUR DAUGHTER. If you don't have prove YOU ARE SCREWED AND HE COULD SUE YOU FOR SLANDER AND DEFORMATION OF CHARACHTER.
If you Ex sayes he didn't do it, and there is no proof that he did, I WOULD NOT CALL THE POLICE OR CHILD PROTECTIVE SERVICES.

I will advise to keep an eye on the situation

Answer 2

Your child sounds like most other 2 year olds in the world. They finally realize that they can be oppositional and they challenge their parents as much as possible. Start with a rewards system (but no food please, this encouages bad habits) You could create a chart for the day and every hour your child has not hit/ kicked/ bites or screamed he can get a sticker in the the row of the hour and he can even put his own stickers on. If he has gotten a full days worth of stickers he can do something that he enjoys (watch a movie, go to the park, you could even get toys at the dollar store). You could start small and go big, for the first day maybe only focus on 4 hours and if he does not misbehave for 4 hours then he gets a reward. The next day 6 and so on. Eventually can work up to a full day or even a week of this system. If he does misbehave a punishment may also be in order, no sticker = no reward and he has to sit for X amount of time, Everytime he misbehaves increase his punishment by one minute, or you could just not let him go until he stops screaming (invest in some ear plugs). Eventually he will tire himself out and calm down, but do not give in!!! Best of luck I hope this will help you.

Answer 3

This is a very tricky situation. When my daughter was 3, she insisted to her new preschool that her daddy put her in big bird cage, just like the one they had in the classroom. It was only later when we were watching Pinocchio together, and she pointed out the big bird cage Pinoccio was put into, that I realized where she got the idea. A couple of years later, she mentioned how I had thrown a 'block' at her to our neighbor lady. The 'block' was a small Lego building block, and I hadn't thrown it at her, I had thrown it towards the toy box and it bounced off and hit her in the face.
The point is, you have to be very careful when gathering information from very small children. Their perspective is often very skewed. By all means ask the father for his side and keep a notebook with notes of these admissions. The fact she awoke in the middle of the night, might indicate that she was having a dream/nightmare. Little ones have a hard time discerning what is real and a dream can be just as real to them as an actual event.
Next time she comes to you with one of these stories, sit her down and ask her for more details, like who was there, what the circumstances were, where the injury occured, etc.
Did your ex ever do anything that makes you believe your daughter is most likely being truthful? If you believe your daughter is telling the truth, put the father on notice that you will be reporting any abuse to the authorities, and then do it.

Answer 4

when your daughter comes home from daddys house does she have any marks on here anywhere. kids this age will lie to you,
if theres no signs of trauma.or marks of any kind drop it but watch her closely. the moment you see a bump or bruise and he wont tell you what happened contact the cops and get a restraining order. take pics of her before and after each visit. take note of the marks on her when she leaves and any new ones when she returns and ask him about it. keep a journal of her behavior as well. is she becoming more withdrawn. more detached to everything and everyone. does she seem upset when she comes home to you.

you need some concrete evidence of abuse before you call the police. bruises and hand prints marks he cant or wont explain

keep in mind kids fall and get hurt even on their heads my son fell last week and got a huge bump on his head and this was in no way abuse. so dont jump to conclusions that will make you look bad. the real problem is she is only 2 and cant really tell you what happened. this also comes out when shes sleeping so it could just be a fear she has not something actually happening. if you see visible signs of abuse report him. but only after you have asked him about it

Answer 5

First off thats just horrible what some guys do. Second i would put him on a short leash. Follow him around the house, allow your daughter to sleep in the same room as you for a few days. Now if it proves he does then take legal action right away dont let your feelings get in the middle, he may try to persuade you to stop or to forget about the matter but just follo through and all will be well from then on.

Answer 6

Distance your daughter from him as soon as possible. Children of this age do not know how to tell lies. While you stay with this man your child is extremely vulnerable. You may not be able to prove the abuse to the police but I would rely on what your child tells you. You will both be better off without this man.

I cannot believe how many negative responses to this problem, we seem to have someone who believes in attacking children. Whoever is giving the thumbs down to some of the answers should consider how they would feel if it was their child!!! Or perhaps the person giving the thumbs down already beats their children.

Answer 7

ok she is two....so she got one right...he didnt lie about it..if he hit her in the face she would have a bruise...have her show you how he hit her in the face...my daughter would say her brother did stuff all the time...most of it wasnt true...but i will tell you i have had dreams that were so real the next day...i thought they did happen....im thinking she may be experiencing this...she woke up in the middle of the night..i just dont think its true

i cannot believe people are saying kids dont know how to lie at this age..they obviously havent been around a 2 year old..you can make them believe stuff happened by talking about it...its not so much she is lying...something has suggested this happened to her..a tv show..a dream something..and she thinks it did..the lying comes in around 3...or 4..did you hit johnny..no...kids do lie...somestart earlier than others..i still dont think he hit her in the face

Answer 8

I think you should make an appointment with your local doctor as soon as possible for your child to have a check-up. Talk to your doctor about all your concerns, and hopefully he or she will be able to guide you through the process of where you go from here, and offer some sort of counseling to your child who might be very scared right now.

Answer 9

I grew up in a sexually abusive household and I can tell you something, when kids are at that age, they don't make up stories especially as serious as this. I recommend you take your daughter to a child therapist or psychologist without your Ex knowing. Professionals are trained to deal with young children especially in these situations and they will try their best to figure out what really happened. Then you will know for sure if you should press legal charges against him or just kick his ***. Be thankful that your daughter was brave enough to tell you early on, because who knows what would have happened if this continued. Please feel free to contact me for any other questions on this matter.

Answer 10

Even if she is not telling the truth about the second incident, there is still the first!! contact the police no-one should get away with hurting a two and a half year old.