My boyfriend and I have been together for two months now, and up until The weekend he seemed perfect in every way, and almost always happy.
Out of nowhere Sunday morning he began texting me saying that he felt that I still have feelings for not only my ex, but my best guy friend!
Apparently I talk about them too much, aka When he asks me how my day was, my friend is usually involved, and also recently i said my boyfriend reminds me a bit of my ex.
I had had no idea I was upsetting him, and i apologised immediately, denied having feelings for them, and Promised to not talk about them as much.
unfortunately, this wasnt enough, and he began abusing me, saying if it was anyone else they would have dumped me by now, and he also started pointing out every flaw i have.
now he's avoiding me?? what can I do about this!? I don't want to lose him, but I also think he acted unrationally
2007-12-09 21:39:36 · 15 answers · asked by Maybe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know I shouldn't have mentioned my ex, but that's not the point. the point is that I'm not going to do it anymore, but he's going to lengths to avoid me, and he didn't even take the initiative to mention it to me before it got so bad he was on the verge of dumping me!
2007-12-09 21:51:05 · update #1
Dump him, he's just going to keep playing mind games with you in order to try and keep control over you. If he actually cared about your feelings he wouldn't be saying things like that.
2007-12-09 21:43:09 · answer #1 · answered by CRtwenty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guy was a jealous type. He doesn’t want to share you with anybody. He was jealous when you always talk about another guy even though if u continue this relationship he would not want you to go out with you friends again and he will be control you and even monitor your movement. You say that you don’t want to lose him it better you call him one on one so that you talk together let him know how u feel after giving him something he has no change at all let him go!
2007-12-09 22:05:08 · answer #2 · answered by Dgold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that is not universal in any respect. i think of the lady shouldn't tolerate any variety of jealousy of their boyfriend. If she is speaking to a guy "buddy," who cares? The jealous adult adult males is performing completely insecure and fears dropping her. If the two thoroughly believe one yet another, then there could be no subject. some women, although, think of that after their boyfriend will become jealous of her, that is merely an indication of how lots he rather loves her. not genuine in any respect. it is rooted in worry, not love.
2016-12-31 04:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an jealous abuser. Sorry to be so blunt, but been there and done that before. These kind of guys have control issues and insecurity. He will try to control who is in your life and everything you do.
Please forget about him. If he doesn't know how to say in a nice way his ego was bruised, then he isn't worth the time. Find a guy who has some confidence and loves your best friends as much as you. Good luck!
2007-12-09 21:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by forestbythesea 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
where is ur self esteem.ok,do this:
start dating any other guy,ignore him for few days,if he calls,tell him that"u know i like that people,who r honest,n understanding.im having gr8 fun with my new frnd(not boyfrnd)"n if he actually see u with another guy,there will be 3 things going to happen:1.he fights with u.2.ignore u...n 3.(most likely),he wll come to u like a lost puppy.
well i just want to tell u one thing,there are more than millions of guys,living in these planet...........don't give to much attention to one person.this is the biggest mistake most people make.n believe me,if u have any other guy in ur life(frnd or bfrnd),other then ur current boyfrnd,u will not care much if this person dumps u(dump him in the first place),u have another choices out there.u have ur self esteem with u,u damn not even care if ur current bf abuses u.listen,when it seems like that ur going to lose a person,u start thinking about him/her more.he knows that without a grl like u,with lots of guts,he will going to live a miserable life.just show him that,u don't care if anyone wants to dump u............u choses what u want,not the other way.........best of luck......hey now ur a tigress by now..........live ur life to the fullest..........Blessing's.
2007-12-09 22:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by vicky27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never say your bf reminds you of your ex thats a big no no!.Why would anyone want to be compared to someones ex , after all they are an ex for a reason. Hes jealous because you are talking about another guy a lot , its a natural reaction. If you want to keep him you will have to pay him more attention and your guy friend less. But if he is just pointing out your flaws let him go!
2007-12-09 21:44:26 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Talk with him, and see what is really the point. Explain him that if you really cared about your ex, or your friend, you wouldn't have started a relationship at all with him. You have done a mistake comparing him to your ex, imagine how would you have felt if he had done the same with u.
If, veen after discussing, he will behave the same, i guess you'd better not spend any more time with him.
2007-12-09 21:53:25 · answer #7 · answered by Dora Mar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like an insecure idiot. Who the hell is he to tell you you cant talk to certain ppl? WTF gives him the right. He doesnt own you and if you want to be friends with other ppl, you can! His insecurity and jealousy are causing problems. Do you want the rest of your life to be this way? Dont get in touch with him, let him come to you. Spend all this free time with your friends and figure out if he is the man for you.
2007-12-09 21:45:26 · answer #8 · answered by Freckles2 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i say dump him, the red flags are flashing in your face, its not right, he should know his place, and my gosh you've been together just for 2 or 3 months and he's acting that way? you wont last take my advise end it...lets see who will come crawling..be smart!
2007-12-09 21:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by ro_bertah 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You compared him to your ex, and you think he's acting irrationally.
Erm, no, you brought this all on yourself.
Shame he wasn't smart enough to dump you already.
2007-12-09 21:45:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋