do u think u shoul give a man all your hard earned money?

Question

what if u go to work 6 days and work from like 7or 9 all the way to 3am. but u dont keep the money u make u give it to your lover or husband. do u think one spouse should control all of the money of the whole realationship. occupation really doesnt matter because im not going to state my occcupation. ill jus say that i get paid every nite. so u are dumb if u dont get it. is there anyone going this problem right now.dont call it pimpin either cuz its far from that. oh yeah and u do love this person but u arent happy with the whole relationship and u have no choice but to be with this person.u have no way out. oh they are very controlling and kind of abusive and has more than one partner.somebody please help me with this one. i dont have anywhere to go but i am very unhappy in this relationship and of course i dont have any money cuz it is not keep by me. there is just so much i want to do like get my own crib save my own money and try to find real true love.someonw that dont need money

Answer 1

I think if it's a healthy relationship where both people are happy it's ok if one works and one controlls the finances.

But, sadly that's not where you're at. You're in an obviously bad situation where you're being taken advantage of. You say you love him then you say you'd like to find true love. You're not in love your in co-dependency. I think you need to do whatever it takes to get out of there. You deserve sooo much better.

Answer 2

This would be okay for a married couple who has a joint account, but not in your case. Seems like you find your relief when you're at work so maybe you'll find your way out at work to. The last thing you need is the type of man you have, you need someone you can trust and slide this person some money every night so you can start saving for your own place. Good luck sweetie.

Answer 3

the answer is in your question... im cuttin and pastin some phrases from your question... think about them...
your hard earned money
do u think one spouse should control all of the money of the whole realationship.
u arent happy with the whole relationship
they are very controlling and kind of abusive and has more than one partner
but i am very unhappy in this relationship
save my own money and try to find real true love.someonw that dont need money


now read all this.. and i guess u know wat to do... first find urself a new place... im sure u must be havin some friends.. take their help, take money from them for some time, and move out, with tellin him, and slam it on his face that you are through with him...
all the best..
and yes when u earn you hard earned money, jus look at the notes, and think , Who should have them? he or YOU...
god bless u..

Answer 4

hmmm...a really tough nut to crack...I would suggest you to create a Savings A/c in some bank and put some money into it every week. Try to squeeze as much as you can, it can be little, but anyways you are goin to save atleast something, rather than nothing.
So every month you can find urself having a good amount of money....
And to b very frank, there's nothing like "real true love", ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. So I wud suggest stop trying to find that "real true love" and keep on saving ur money.
When u have amassed quite a good amount of money, start investing it in real estate, shares, bonds and plan ur future and get out of the unhappy situation u r in.
Wish u all the best anf my good wishes extends to you.

Answer 5

Is there any way that you can keep some of the money to yourself, even possibly hiding it? There's 2 occupations I'm thinking of that you can possibly be doing, and one of them isn't safe at all and you do need to get out as soon as you can if it's the one I'm thinking of. You might have to contact a person of authority in order to help you and protect you during that time. I wish you well.

Answer 6

You have a way out if you want it! You apparently don't want to leave this guy and until you decide to leave him you are going to continue being used.

Contact a battered and abused women's group and they will take you in and give you a place to live until you can get your act together and make it on your own. You didn't say as much but I get the feeling you get beaten fairly regularly also.

Answer 7

Why do you think that he takes it all?? Because it is his way of controlling you. If you have no money, then you can't leave. Walk away, and get yourself a decent life. If he loved you, he would not ask you or even let you do that for a living. Gather up your self respect and try to get your life together.

Answer 8

Like I said yesterday, I was going to donate from my stimulus check to Hillary, but I wanted to see how this latest round of primaries turned out. Looks like I'll be setting that donation aside for John. Dems for McCain '08

Answer 9

there are shelters that can help you get out of this cycle of abuse. saying you have no choice is not an excuse- there are people and places you can go to for help. he chooses to keep you in submission by keeping you broke and under his thumb and you are choosing to let him do so by staying. get out now while you can- these situations only get worse and the end usually isn't pretty. find a women's shelter, go to the police, go to achurch- just get out.

Answer 10

I think you should get out of that business, it's not good for you. There are center that can help you. Men in your business aren't prince charming, they will always say they love you and that they care about you, but they just care about the money. I would get out of this business...it's dangerous for you.