I've known this girl for 2 yrs and i've liked her 4awhile now and I know she likes me becuz...
- she would stay up late to talk to me even if we argued
- she said she missed me during the summer
- she emails me & IM's me a lot
-she actually asked me whether i'd consider her to be my g/f
Oh wait... She chose her cheating-jerk b/f over me...a girl whom I confided with , was there for her through thick & thin...& I can't believe shes going back to her ex...why do girls do this! I don't care if im "Just friends" with her but the fact that she lead me and lied pisses me off
2007-12-09 20:40:47 · 11 answers · asked by Just Ask 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told her to have a nice life and take this fabricated illusion she calls a friendship & shove it ...it's been 4 wks, ive gotten a few private # calls and hang ups but im not sure if thats her, if it is..i dunno wut she wants from me
2007-12-09 20:42:31 · update #1
hmm to be honest, maybe she was trying to make you jealous, some girls think like that and its not exactly the best way to get a guy to notice you but she did anyways, a lot of good couples go through a hard time once in a while, boy..you need to start watching those sappy love movies, lol i hope everything turns out alright =)
2007-12-09 20:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I might do differently, after years of experience dating, is not even care about it. Look at it this way: it's her loss. If she couldn't see what you have to offer over her ex, she's the fool, not you. She'll live to regret it, if she hasn't already. As a guy who's often relegated to the "friend zone", I've learned that's the best time to step back & move on with your life. Don't get angry, because she isn't worth your time. Honestly, I was in your situation not too long ago, & without even trying, enraged the girl who was my "friend". She knew I was interested in her, but decided to just be "friends", so I ask her to get me a date with a friend of hers. She looked like she was going to pop a blood vessel! A couple of weeks later, she began criticizing my choice in a girl to date, & I told her "no offense, but you decided we're just friends, so you have no right to say anything about who I choose to date". She hasn't spoken to me since, & I could care less.
2007-12-10 04:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were only a friend to her. She crossed the line by asking you if you would ever consider her. I would bet that she was upset, and very vunerable at the moment she asked that of you. Either that or she is very insecure. It was more for her validation, than to lead you on. She probably did not even realize that it affected you. Some people are very self centered, and they don't think about how their actions affect others.
It will be your decision as to whether you want such a self centered person in your life. I could not blame you if you did not.
2007-12-10 04:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My current boyfriend addressed this to me:
SOMETIMES If a girl is used to having a boyfriend that's a jerk, they grow accustomed to having a jerk around. They've learned to put up with it and just go with the flow. Once they are out of the jerky guys life, and they finally meet the sweet guy...they tend to run away because they might not know how to deal with it. They might be used to putting up with the bullshit and riding in the backseat. When they get a guy who puts her on a pedestal and wants her to sit in the front seat they don't quite know what to do. And they back off and run for the jerky guy. Once they get the jerk back they realize they gave up a good thing.
If she didn't take the chance to be with you...she might just keep running back and forth between you and the jerk. I did this with a friend of mine and it hurt him really bad. It's not something I would do again for sure. My best advice would be to just clear things up with her. Let her know that you won't be the guy to fall on every time...because in the end you will get hurt. I am regretful I put my friend through that.
I wish the best of luck to you. Be strong.
2007-12-10 04:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by amanda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about her. Even she come back to you, she may leave you again for other guy or ex again. Why do you want to invite pains into your life. Be happy she went back now only. You'll get a better girl in future. Find her and stay happily. Even she comes back i'll tell you dont ever accept her proposal. Do not spoil your life from your own decisions. You have only one life. So leave her and find a nice girl.
2007-12-10 04:51:05 · answer #5 · answered by Varun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, girls are freaking idiots. they dont know what they want. and what they want will change all the time. just remember you are a man and concentrate on being as manly as you can despite the circumstances. continue being her friends because cutting her off is just immature. and by that time she'll probably be magnetically attracted to your manlyness, and you probably wont even want her anymore. :) why do you think she wants the jerk? because he's manly. he knows how to get out there and take what he wants. And if you were more of a man you would have her right now anyway. you would have said, look girl its obvious whats going on here and im taking you because im man enough and i take what i want out of life and dont look back. then do her and drop her like a bad habit and she'll just keep coming back for more. your welcome
2007-12-10 04:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lucyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVERYONE WHO READS THIS STAND UP & CLAP FOR THIS MAN!
You did a great thing! She used you & when she had a good deal right in her face she chose to piss it away becuase shes an idiot. Keep her cut off for good, & if she ever comes crawling back, let her know what she did & how it affected you & make her understand your not just some back up in her love life.
*Virtual High Five*
*Slap*
2007-12-10 05:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Us girls we can be complicated. But yeah dont stay around for the bull ****. she is DEF CONFUSE and still ha s mix feelings for you. The PRIVATE calls is Def Her. She will be back to you. You were her shoulder to cry. She needs to get hurt a little more to actually appreciated you. Idk but I think that we all have been there, in which we always go back to EX... Dont stay around and wait for her..move on with your life. N If she comes back (I KNOW SHE WILL) dont give in so easy. OK
2007-12-10 04:50:39 · answer #8 · answered by Amelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey not just girls do that. GUYs do it too. apparently she isnt over her ex and maybe she thought you were the one she wanted to be with but then her ex got in the picture. she'll figure it out sooner or later and leave her ex.. time determines everything! good luck. =]
2007-12-10 04:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by hotnezz_betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she just having a infatuation over you.
2007-12-10 04:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Lifeseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋