ok right ma older brother died over 10 years a go and now we think its a good time to scater his ashes. think it would be good to plan a tree on the garden with his ashes thn he is still near by ????
2007-12-09 19:25:33 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that's a great idea. One problem. What happens if you sell the house?
2007-12-09 19:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by dstluke 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question.
I was discussing this with a friend who was facing this dilemma. We had discussed planting a tree, but what if the tree dies? Well, everything does die. It could be a big deal, or it could be a disappointment, depends on how you take it.
So what ever you do, you have to undertand that your memorial is simply metaphor attributed to his life, as you knew him. Perhaps, after grieving and years of acceptance, you have come to the realization that the ashes are not really your brother. And a tree or a garden cannot become your brother, rather a representation of his spirit and a place on earth where you can feel closer.
You can limit that to one spot or you can cast these ashes to the wind and know he is all around. You could have a plaque engraved with his name and toss it out to sea with his ashes. I think the sea is a common place for people to do this becasue it represents something that will always be there and it stretches beyond, to places where we will never go, but we can step on it's shores and walk through its constant waves.
But what ever you decide to do, nobody on Yahoo answers can answer that for you decisively. I think that you and your family should just figure out if you want a specific PLACE or if you want to set the ashes completely free. What you are doing is letting him go and coming to terms that it is out of your hands and in the hands of something greater.
=)
2007-12-09 19:51:22 · answer #2 · answered by Boudreaux 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really is a beautiful idea and it's something you can all do together then he's there for u to go and sit by the tree in memory of him
Sorry for ur loss
x
2007-12-10 00:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
x. i think that is a wonderful idea, we lost our neice nearly 8 years ago and we havent felt its time to scater her ashes, but we also not sure what to do, i will sugest this idea i think it will be a lasting memory and doing so much for our enviroment. x
2007-12-09 19:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by mamgu....... 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah that would be good
somewhere that has a meaning to you
or scater it in the ocean
hope this helped =D
2007-12-09 19:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a great idea.
2007-12-09 19:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, but I would set him free.
His spirit has moved on, your life must move on, I would show my acceptance of this by freeing his remains somewhere beautiful and open..
2007-12-09 20:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by lucy_shy8000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sound perfect. I would rather have the remains of my sibling near by too.
2007-12-09 19:28:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lexie J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds nice, yes. plant the tree in a peaceful spot, then you can talk to him whenever you want.
2007-12-09 19:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your brother.
THAt sounds like a great idea.
HUGS to U.
2007-12-09 19:44:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋