My Parrents divorced when I was 5...im 13 now....and I dont really have anybody to talk to....but.. i know she wants to be happy with a guy, but whenevr she brings a new guy into our life....she dosent ask of my opinon of him....and how do i talk to her about it?
2007-12-09 19:09:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
but....what if tthat guy takes away all of our time together?
2007-12-09 19:20:06 · update #1
Your not the one dating him, she has to like him...Give mom a break, she needs to be happy, dont you want your mom happy???
2007-12-09 19:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not going to take away all of your time with her. There is enough room for the both of you and you are going to have to learn to share. She deserves to be happy too. Just tell her how you feel. Do not sound accusing. Just tell her that you hope that you can still spend your time together even though she has a new boyfriend. See where the conversation leads from there.
2007-12-09 19:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom does have a right to be happy. The benefit of a happy Mom is that she will be happier with you too.
On the other hand perhaps you could discuss the guys with your Mom. Tell her something positive about each one. Like "he dresses well" or "he's got a nice car", then if you do have something negative to say about one of them Mom would be more inclined to listen, but make sure any negative comment is fair and just.
It is normal to feel like the guy is intruding in your relationship with your Mom, but really it is a totally different relationship. Your Mom will still love you, no matter who she dates in an adult relationship.
2007-12-09 19:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon...
i am hopeful that whoever your mom picks as a date or guy friend, would be the type of person who is kind and considerate toward her AND you.
Your mother wants companionship/friendship, just as most of us do. Your mom desires to be with someone her own age. And it's just as normal as you wanting to have friends your own age, too.... be they boys or girls.
Hon, your mother is an adult and your parent.. Parent's do not ask their children permission to date, or what their kids think about their choice in a partner. But, i'm sure that if she's a good mom, and meets someone she's very interseted in, she will discuss it with you...
If you are having issues because your mom is making friends and a social life for herself, please talk with your school counselor. They are trained to help... take care.
2007-12-09 19:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this must be hard to deal with, but you have to understand that your mom is a person too and she has her own personal life to live. and you should be happy for her if it makes her truly happy. you should also look out for her like she looks out for you. so speak ur mind if one of the guy she brings home seems really not right for her, and he's causing you emotional distress.
2007-12-09 19:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by hippocampus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it to her. ok. she's your mom and she knows what she wants. as long as she can give you your basic needs. you know education stuff, financial stuff and attention and love. you dont have to be bothered. she is single right now and she has the right to find the man what she really wants. and just get along with it and ride on what your mother wants. your a girl and you know what she is experiencing right now. find the prince charming. ok...
2007-12-09 19:23:25 · answer #6 · answered by Benedict C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask her if u can talk to her and tell her how u feel
2007-12-09 20:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋