What do I do if I have a lesbian cousin. See I just found out today that she was a lesbian on a profile of facebook. She keeps saying how she misses that girl and woke up in the morning and kissed her. No one knows about this except for my family. Her family does not even know. Should we tell her family or just leave it. It we tell her family and then her family and her will get mad. I f we don't tell them they will also be mad at us. When they discover that their sibling is lesbian they will get mad at us for not telling them.
2007-12-09 18:30:55 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Personally I think it is best for your cousin to decide when she tells her family. Also, her family doesn't need to know that you ever knew.
Let her tell them.
2007-12-09 18:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by kristina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? Do you really think it's any of your business or your place to go telling people, much less people's family and parents about their sex life? Who the hell do you think you are? What if someone went and told YOUR parents about everything on YOUR facebook page. Either there's some scandalous stuff there or you lead an even more boring life than I thought.
2007-12-11 09:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Nick Gleichman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your right to tell her family. How would you feel if your family member was spying on your facebook profile and telling everyone your secrets? Mind your own business, and let your cousin tell her family in her own way.
2007-12-09 18:36:34 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 23:20:14 · answer #4 · answered by clam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her decision, leave it. When she's ready to tell her family, she will. It's not your decision or your family to tell the world. And also, you and your family can easily lie when your cousin's family finds out. Back off and mind your own life.
2007-12-09 18:56:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You keep referring to "we" in your question - so it sounds like you were unable to keep this juicy piece of gossip to yourself. If you can at all avoid it please do not pass on this info to anyone else until you have had a chance to talk to your cousin. Who knows, she may have already told her family, and they haven't shared this info because they are concerned about your reaction.
Ultimately it is your cousin's decision who she tells. If you can be supportive then tell her by all means that you know. If you feel that you can't support her in her lifestyle choice then let sleeping dogs lie (as the expressions goes).
Kind regards,
mum2MH
2007-12-09 18:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by mum2mh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin's sexuality is her own, private business, and let her deal with her family if and when she wants to do it on her own.
she doesn't need your help...
and why would her family get "mad at" you when they find out she is a lesbian? it's not like they are aware that you know? keep it to yourself.
2007-12-09 19:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin might have reasons why she hasn't told her family so you should just leave it and let her tell them herself but if you want you could talk to her yourself and let her know that you know and maybe if she had support from her extended family it might just help her to tell her family.
2007-12-09 18:57:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say anything to the family..... that's not ur right to do that.......
would u rather have her parents mad at u for not telling them ?
or her hating u forever for telling on her?
Personally I think the parents would be more forgiving.....
2007-12-09 18:39:50 · answer #9 · answered by stroberocksluv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry just relax and calmly talk to her family and her it is obvios that they shout on her daughter but hope for the best and what had happened in the life is only for good first talk to ur sis and then her family but told everything abt her to her family and hope 4 best good luck and have nice time
2007-12-09 18:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by ekta_agg199 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋