I have been seperated for a while from my husband , the divorce is still pending. I am feeling very lonely and want to get into the dating seen. My circle of friends is also very small so I have not met any intresting guy. I get the feeling that I am a very boring person . Every guy that I met is either a jerk or a total loser. Most of them see me as a good friend or a sister. I am not sure how to come out of this situation.
2007-12-09 17:22:57 · 12 answers · asked by VIVO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had this very problem! It was 3 1/2 yrs before I found what works for me! I signed up with a dating service and there were some rude guys but you don't have to correspond with them and you only meet someone if you feel comfortable with it. I have met 3 very nice gentlemen, and dated 1 for a while. You have a criteria to look for and only correspond with those that fit what you are looking for. I use Mate1.com and I have used others but they are like scams. This is the best for women and it is free for women. Men have to pay so you get a better group of men!
2007-12-09 17:29:47 · answer #1 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going to church regularly. Do your research first and find a church that has a support group or ministry for single and divorced people. Get actively involved in positive projects within the church, in which you can be helpful to others. This will help fill the void left by ending your marriage and give you something new and gratifying on which to concentrate. Don't be in a big hurry to start a new relationship, although it feels awkward not being in one. You need some time to be on your own, so you can consider what you really want and need out of a relationship. To jump into one now, while the other is still ending, would be counterproductive. After a year or so, once you've had time to put things in perspective and regain your balance, consider the contacts you've made through your church activities as a means to find potential relationships. It should provide you with better opportunities than going to singles bars.
2007-12-10 01:34:29 · answer #2 · answered by legendofslipperyhollow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is much harder as an adult to meet a potential partner, and you will no doubt meet a lot of unsuitable and flawed men, that is why they are still unattached. You not longer have stars in your eyes and it becomes more difficult to ignore problematic situations. You might want to try a personal ad on the Internet, or another venue. That's one way to make connections with sincere men who are looking for the qualities you have. There are no guarantees you will find Mr. Right, and you do have to be cautious, but it is worth a try.
2007-12-10 01:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to fix boring is to stop being boring. Instead of worrying and spending a whole lot of time trying to find a new man, why don't you take that time and concentrate on yourself. Find new hobbies, interests, sports, and events/groups to attend. Once you have filled up your life with activities and interests you will find the right type of people will come into your life.
2007-12-10 01:27:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they think ur just a friend then maybe its time to start fresh and change the way u talk to guys... flirt, compliment them, don't just talk about urself but also listen to them... when u go on a date try something he might like something guys like.. say u guys go to a bar play some pool or something like that! umm.. and to find a good guy well u could kinda tell from the beggining u meet him but if u can't tell then get ur friends opinion! and if u want to start fresh, go shopping buy more mature and sexy clothes, get a pedicure get a hair cut, change ur image cuz then u'll feel more confident and you'll get more heads turning! i hope that helps! good luck!
2007-12-10 01:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know how to meet good girls. Being as you are another man's wife in Biblical sense, I would not see you; but may I suggest congregation. Go find the denomination that you best identify with and become a member of the Church. That is generally where 'good' people are.
2007-12-10 01:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by agave_1986 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont sugest you use a online dating service because there tends to be alot of creepers on there. what i do sugest is that you could go to a website for social gatherings for singles. they normaly haen every month or so and a ton of people show up and there not rubby creepers either because you have to pay to get in [ not alot] you can go on singles cruises you could go to a singles party or join a club for singles like a boating club for example. they are wayyy beter than online dating
2007-12-10 01:29:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just met one! Email me if you want.
My circle of friends is small as well and there aren't too many social functions you can attend on your own (in practicality).
2007-12-10 01:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look I think I'm the worst person to answer you that but I can give you a hint....if you want to, start always with your friends... best friends are the best for relationships....
2007-12-10 01:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by Joseph C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st off, wait until the divorce is final.
2007-12-10 01:26:06 · answer #10 · answered by Heyya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋