I am Mark and I have been very close friends with Katie for two years. We have been best friends in college (only friends nothing else). A year ago she went out this a guy and became very attached to him but they ended it after 4 months. The guy broke her heart and I had to console her. She said she would never talk to him again and that she hated him. So I said i will do everything i can to prevent it. So I found out last week that they have been getting with eachother.... He is a player and just wants *** but Katie thinks there is a real chance between them. I had said to katie that if she started talking to him again I wouldnt be her friend. I dont want to have Kaite get hurt again. Should I stop being her friend if she keeps talking to him or what?
2007-12-09 17:13:00 · 10 answers · asked by Joey MacNamara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How could you leave you leave her in her time of need?If you really cared about her than you would be there for her.You know he is going to hurt her so why dont you explain to her that you only want to keep her safe and protect her from getting her heart broken, if she ignores you and cotinues to go out with him then be there for her when she does get her heart broken,be her shoulder to cry on.
2007-12-09 17:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by babyoutrigger99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm - been very close friends
but now you are thinking of quitting friendship if she does not follow your advice?
don't think so - Katie has been blinded - as it seems-
and can only see this guy - and NOT for what he's worth
apparently
hopefully she will come around before she gets hurt
but for you to back out - nope
you might be the best thing she has to rely on
it would hack me off if someone did not take my advice
if they were just a casual friend - C YA
but a good friend - - - - - - - -
c ya when you come back to reality
tough - u bet
all the best
2007-12-09 17:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by tom4bucs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough love, Tough answer:
you are a friend to her. has she ever called you her big brother or something similar? She is looking for a bad guy, and you aren't him. the other dude fits the bill perfectly, he treats her how she wants to be treated. does it make any sense? hell no, but it's true.
you need to decide if you like/love Katie or not. If you have strong feelings for her then it is time to act on them before you lose her.
is it a gamble? yes, but then again, in the game of love, when is there ever not a gamble?
best of luck Mark!
2007-12-09 17:19:30 · answer #3 · answered by RG_76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess if your asking for advice for a pure friendship with Katie, i think you can just say to her in a frank way that she shouldn't talk to that guy, just explain your concern to her...but if she doesn't follow your advice, don't tell to the point that you will stop being friend to her, because on your part you say what you want but its up to her if she will follow or not, unless your falling in love with katie to the fact that your so affected on that issue.
2007-12-09 17:22:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very painful to love someone who does not love you back.
I hate to say it, but us girls forget that guys really don't want to just be friends with us. The ones that invest alot of time and are there for us to cry on their shoulders always have an ulterior motive....but we always innocently think they are just being awesome friends....
Believe me, if she were interested in you, she would have taken the opportunity by now.
So...you have to ask yourself, do I want to keep this girl in my life or move on and concentrate my efforts on a girl who would want to reciprocate my affection?
2007-12-09 17:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, because what happens when as you say he plays her and leaves, you should be there. In sI'milar situating, but all im doing is getting' some, no emotions.but anyways you should be there because if he does break her heart she will be devastated, and she will need someone. All you can do is have hope for her that she won't be stupid a third time.
2007-12-09 17:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remaining her friend is up to you, but she has the right to make good or bad choices. It is called learning the hard way......sounds like she is going to be doing just that. No one likes feeling rejected and that is what she was feeling, but that is not a good reason to hang on to the wrong person. The only person you can control is yourself....others have to make their own choices.
2007-12-09 17:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously still loves him and there's really nothing you can do. In time she will see the way he is, and will probably get hurt again. If she is going to be a glutton for punishment then she is master of her own fate.
2007-12-09 17:17:37 · answer #8 · answered by Phillip M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make her choose this guy or you...that's not fair at all. if you are her true friend you will be there for her thru the heart break every time it happens. because that's what best friends do.
2007-12-09 17:18:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoever has the most money and biggest ego will win...that is just how it is...
2007-12-09 17:15:49 · answer #10 · answered by irish_jimmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋