well he's never brought up his wife but I know from a friend that he is married. he talks to me all the time and i think he likes me too. I've tried but I just can't get him out of my head. Please someone knock some sense into me. But maybe he's not happy with his marriage?
We're both in our early 20's. thanks.
2007-12-09 16:46:25 · 58 answers · asked by Jae Lynn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know he's married, but I can't get him off my mind. I've tried and tried and I just can't. I don't know. So instead of criticizing me, tell me how to get him off my mind. I've never liked someone as much as I've liked him.
2007-12-09 17:00:09 · update #1
I'm a married guy, so you need to listen to what I'm saying..
If a married guy is interested in you, it's for sex. Everything else that you're telling yourself is irrelevant.
If you start something up with this guy, the end result of it is that you will have had a lot of sex with him, then he will tell you he can't see you anymore.
Is that OK with you?
There, you can't say you didn't know going in, what was going to happen.
There's a reason you're not supposed to fool around with married people.
The flip side of this is, if you were married, would you want your husband cheating on you?
Well, if you do this, you deserve for that to happen to you someday.
The other thing is, even if you ended up with this guy, you would never trust him, because you KNOW he is willing to cheat on his wife!
Just let it die.
2007-12-09 17:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by dork 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
What goes around comes around. Heed that warning girlfriend. If he's talking and flirting with you while married, whats to stop him from doing it over again if he ends up with you. Married men are great coz they are experienced and they've already had practice courting - thats the reason why they are so likeable. Don't do it. Married man are out of the question because they are taken. Don't be a party to the end of a marriage...its not a good way to start off your own relationship. There are a million single guys out there. Go get your fishing rod and sail out to the ocean!.
2007-12-09 16:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by frangipani2124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are playing with fire...and I think you know it.
You need to stop having contact with this man if you can't control your feelings for him.
There are so many single men out there! Don't get involved with someone who isn't free to get involved. If he's unhappy in his marriage, he needs to fix the problem or get out of the marriage...not have an affair.
There could be a lot of drama, he could be looking to just use you, you'll end up heartbroken and probably regret ever meeting him if you start an affair with him. Put yourself in his wife's shoes...how would you feel if your husband was flirting with another girl or got romatically involved with her while you were still married? If he cheats with you, he'll probably cheat on you.
You're young and single...find another guy who is too.
2007-12-09 16:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Nonny0928 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crushes come and go, no matter how intense, and a marriage is a pretty big deal. Just go home crank one out and try to move on from there, back off from talking to him so much and bring up his wife. If you are in your early 20s and single, then what are you doing wasting your time talking to Mr. Married McMarriage anyhow, go to a club....maybe a night club ;)
2007-12-09 16:52:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot and a future homewrecker. If you have no problem in ruining a marriage go for it. It's not your place to determine whether or not he is happy and nor is it your place to do something about it. He is with his wife, happy or not, and he talks to you all the time. Talking is talking. He may like you but the fact that he has not done something to further it means he has some sense of morals for now. If you like him and can't get him out of your head maybe you should think twice before you let your talking turn into sexual advances if not more...you're ready to ruin another person's life and cause chaos for something carnal...there are plenty of other great guys out there that are single that might be even better if you gave yourself the chance to talk to them....get over this guy and move on to an available guy...if in the future this one's marriage falls apart then you can be free to do as you please
2007-12-09 16:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by queenpooja 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
For this moment...close your eyes and picture YOU being the wife. It would be very sad indeed if you love your husband. And I can speak from someone very close to me....if that guy does cheat on her with you and ends up with you. How are you ever going to trust him? If he is capable of doing this to her...he would be capable of doing the same to you. If he is this unhappy in his marriage....he should already be divorced. And keep from hurting you and others by being part of breaking up a marriage. You must know in your heart it isn't the good or right thing to do. Number one...respect yourself.
2007-12-09 16:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if he's unhappy with his marriage you need to back off. You don't want to be labeled a homewrecker! I've seen those people before...they end up hating themselves after a while. For your own sake just tell him that you're going to be really busy lately and you won't have much time to speak with him. Maybe then you'll stop liking him so much.
2007-12-09 16:49:42 · answer #7 · answered by Pvt. Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i dont wanna sound mean but....can u live with breaking up his marriage? or another thing...do u know y he hasnt mentioned his marraige? what if he does like you but just physically and just wants an affair? its not something i can answer nor anyone here.... you should talk to him andfind out
Love is not an emotion...emotions change and thats why people make many mistakes and divorce rates are high so decide for yourself how much he means to you in a concrete way, love is an action a decision to be together and then working to make it work
so if you think its more than an emotion...if he sincerely wants to be with you rather than the wife...which is something he was to decide and not just be in the middle...go for it
2007-12-09 16:54:43 · answer #8 · answered by TheCrazier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of two things will happen.
1. He will break your heart, if you fall in love with the married guy and he decides to stay with his wife--almost always what happens.
2. You will break his.
If you get together with the guy, one thing will certainly happen.
1. Are you a homewrecking little whore? That's what everyone will call you. You will lose the respect of you co-workers (if you met him at work), or your friends (if that's how you met him), or your neighbours.
If you marry the guy, one thing is very likely to happen.
1. It is very likely he will cheat on you the moment someone better comes along.
You are placing yourself in a absolutely no-win situation.
Have I spoken plainly enough?
2007-12-09 17:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether he's happy or not he's still married. Stay away from this one. In keeping your distance, you will get him out of your head. Think of this too though, rarely do men leave their wives for someone else. Would you be happy being the "other woman" and knowing that you are ruining someone else's life?
2007-12-09 16:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by Georgia Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋