I need some advice because I am not really sure on what I should do. My "First" has been trying to come back around. Yeah, we have a history and I know it didnt work out before but we both had alot of things we needed to work on plus we were young too. He married young and had a child and when we dated to begin with he had just come out of that relationship. That was 10 years ago and we have remained friends throughout the years. He has come back around now wanting a relationship but I am not sure if I should try it again or not. I am just coming out of a relationship and have been terribly hurt and I am afraid of being hurt again. Plus, I have my daughter to worry about too. I dont want her to get attached and then lose them too if something were to happen. Please help. Thanks
2007-12-09 16:35:14 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The great thing about getting older, is wisdom... and knowing the answer might be right, or ...you may even doubt it, but ... "food for thought". It depends on where your' heart lies, and where his does, only time will tell... and take that time, never know if you don't take a chance? if you love him enough, just give him enough understanding and listen to eachothers feelings, that will always tell, people change, might be in your' stars, if it's not, move on, I know you worry about the feelings of your' daughter, I would tell her that he is a special friend that cares, and sometime friendships don't last, just because the friendship has ended, does not mean we have to dislike him, he still thinks about you , just in a different, but friendly way. And thats a sighn that someone else better will come along... in time... no rush! Not sure how old your' daughter is? be as honest as you can without showing any hurtful feelings. I'm a single mother of two, their father left us, when my son was 8, and my daughter was 5, so have had a many of questions asked, and had to hold my real thoughts inside, time will explain more, and please take plenty!!! Good luck, hope this helped out a little, your' story is very common and your' thoughts and fears are very normral, not a person to judge, so I try to give a honest opnion .. if ever need any adive, I've been through enough therapy to have a PHD .... just to figure out men ,, lol and yes men, you'r loved! or we would not be writing question colums to make the right choices! peace~
2007-12-09 17:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by michelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have not fully recovered from the pain of the last relationship. Just imagine how your daughter feels too. Tell this gentleman that you would like to be friends, and maybe have lunch with him sometime, but you are not ready to get back into the dating scene, nor do you want to bring anyone else into your daughter's life right now.
Give yourself and your daughter time to heal before moving on. Neither of you would benefit from a situation like this right now. Rebound relationships rarely work out anyway.
2007-12-09 16:42:37 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to heal.
2007-12-09 16:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋