after the police has dropped their charge on domestic violence, will the batterer become even worse?

Question

will the offender reflect?
be afraid and stop his abuse?
or think that he can manipulate the justice and become worse?

Answer 1

yes. the batterer will become even worse, if i get my bloody hands on them.

Answer 2

Ideally the police will have made attendance at some anger management training a condition of dropping the charge, if that is the case then there is some hope that the offender will improve.

It may be an idea for the victim to take out an intervention order against the batterer so that if he batters again he could be prosecuted not only for the battery but also for breaching the intervention order.

Answer 3

Domestic violence NEVER stops and the intervention of the justice system often exacerbates the problem and the victim is in even more danger.
One can only hope that the next time it happens, as inevitably it will, that it is not the very worst outcome for the victim or the system will have failed yet again as unfortunately it so often does in such cases.

Answer 4

i think it will depend on the person and his character...obviously if a person commits domestic violence, that person might have a tendancy to anger and battering....so more than likely the batterings will stay the same and maybe get worse....even if the person decides against it, that persons tendancies might get in the way and not resolve his problems.

But there are those who will be able to fight thier tendancies and maybe they might fail a little bit or not at all...

and then theres the few who just might have had the worst of days and have no tendancy for domestic violence....these guys will learn and better themselves or just go on and hope nothing gets them as down as they were when they committed the violence....

Answer 5

The short answer is yes, the batterer will eventually become much worse. Do you really want to hang around for that?

Answer 6

Usually the battering only gets worse, better for the person being battered to get away from the person hurting them.

Answer 7

I am afraid that the batterer will only get worse, a leopard never changes it's spots.

Answer 8

I sure hope that you are aware that the one thing that connects all bigots to thier particular flavor of bigotry is that the've never even TRIED to put themselves into the other person's shoes, as the metaphor goes.

Then, you should try re-reading all the previous answers, and weed out the bigotry from the more potentially honest contributors.

The only thing that is sure to happen after a charge of domestic violence has been dropped is that the person accused of violence is set free.

After that, the accused will have the option of doing whatsoever he/she wants with that freedom.

My father, for example, was arrested several times for 'wife beating'.

The reason he was never actually tried for it, though, is because there was never an incident that didn't take place in front of one or more of their children, and we always saw that every single time that he ever laid a hand on her in less than a loving way, was in response to her having abused him physically before that.

Did it get worse over time. I would have to say it did, because every time, my mother's pre-actions became worse, requiring him to come up with differnt ways to defend himself from her tirades.

Why didn't she ever get arrested? Because the concept of 'domestic violence' is still quite relatively new. At that point, it was firmly believed that there could be no such thing as a husband beater, because people didn't want to believe that women could be so incredibly ignorant of their comparative weaknesses as to try to goad someone bigger and stronger into a fistfight.

But, it happens.

Why didn't he move out? He did. Several times. And, every time, that evil thing called his wife continued to tell the neighbors all sorts of lies about what actually occured. And he got reamed by the general public every time he did, as if it were such an evil thing for him to be 'abandoning' his children like that. And every time, the evil thing called his wife sent word throughout the entire community to the effect that she could forgive him his trespasses, if only he'd come home to take care of her and their children.

And every time, it kept on coming.

The same thing almost happened in my failed marriage. After being struck hundreds of times, and never trying to strike back, I finally found myself in a position where striking back was the ONLY way not to put myself into a very great amount of danger. Once.

So, of course, it was me that the judges all just plain KNEW was the abuser.

I divorced the psycho, but it's still me whom the judges rule against. Because I'm the guy and it is still just plain unfathomable that any woman would be so whacko that she would try to take on someone bigger, stronger, and more athletic than she.

So, by no means should you even BEGIN to believe that this kind of topic is cut and dried enough for you to get any kind of easy answers here in this forum.

If this is what has happened to you: move out, and move on, but DO NOT LIE about your own participation in it.

Answer 9

no, they will generally never stop, and yes they do get worse afterwards due to anger for being arrested unless the other person leaves them, then they cant batter no more.

Answer 10

Offenders naturally worsen in time anyway. As with any complex legal case, some win...some lose. The important thing is that the offender now knows that he stands a chance of being arrested again should he continue his ways.