Wayy to stressed!!?

Question

So many things are going on in my mind-
1)My AP classes are hard, plus my physics class which is only a standard and finals are coming week after next week
2) I have my very first job interview tomorrow
3)We found out that the place my dad works is getting down and he might get layed off soon
4) I live far away from school (it takes 30 min. to go to school/or go home) and it's hard to manage time
5) Since I'm a junior in highschool i have to take SAT's and i haven't even studied for that but I should cause i had trouble with the Psats
6) I'm taking driver's ed and i have 2 more classes (they are on- the road sessions with the teacher) and i'm afraid that i won't pass and my parents payed a lot of money for that class

I don't want to give up, but I just want to learn to stop being lazy, learn to relax, get more sleep...basically what should i do to not overstress myself?

ofcourse i don't think i'm the only one going through stressful situations, i just want advice

Answer 1

exercise. Running laps helps to release endorphans and blows off the frustrations and anxieties of the day

Answer 2

I think what you should do is to give yourself a break. I think what you should do right now is get yourself some good sleep and be prepare for tomorrow's job interview.
I am a junior in my High school too so I know exactly what your problems are and trust me, I have stressful time as well. The PSAT is not that important, only the SAT matters so take your time and go over the voacbs and some math basics then you'll be fine.
I took my driver's ed BTW already and it's not as hard as you think it is. When you know how to drive and pay special attention to the road, it'll be fun.
About your dad's job don't worry to much because it's not going to help if you just lie around and stress about it all day long. Always put first things first. For now, just relax and concentrate in your classes especially your AP classes. But don't forget to study for your finals. Remember that your Junior year in High School is extremely important and to remind yourself to focus on the first thing first.
Hope this helps.
Just chill.

Answer 3

I used to be in your situation before when I was in High School but worst. If I can manage it, you can get by all of those things. You'll still be stressed out about it and you do have to sacrifice a lot of things such the weekend for studying or study during lunch time.

You just need to learn how to manage your time and once you enter college you are going to have to do more of managing your time so that you won't be as stressed out.

SAT . . . If you really want to go to a good college like UCLA, etc. than you'll have to study hard but having great GPA will help you or balance everything out. Don't stress too much about it. My parent spend a lot of money for SAT Prep class and it did boost up my score. But I still think it's not necessary.

Good Luck with everything!

Answer 4

take a deep breath and calm down. junior/senior years of high school can be very stressful, and it looks like you're right in the middle of it.

here's what you can do:
1) AP classes: try to start studying earlier. it'll be a lot easier and less stressful on you if you do it now instead of cramming at the last minute. for me, i always studied what i had the most trouble with and then worked my way down to what i knew best.
2) job interview: where is it? the best thing to do in order to prepare is research a few typical interview questions (I had a class that went over this in high school, so it really helped) why would you be an asset, what are your strengths/weaknesses, etc. be honest, but be smart and yourself. shake their hand, introduce yourself, dress appropriately, etc. emphasize your strong points.
3) sorry to hear about your dad, the best thing you can do is support him and be there if you need him. maybe you getting job can help out at home a little bit if necessary
4) living far away from school just means prioritizing. get up earlier if you need to, or make good use of your time in between. can you, for example, do any unfinished homework on the ride there?
5) study for the SATs as soon as you get a chance. even if you just sign up for college board's SAT question of the day, that will help more than you know. sign up for any study groups at school.
6) for driver's ed, just calm down. if you're stressed, it'll make things worse and you'll pysch yourself into doing bad. just stay focused and confident and you'll be fine :)

good luck and relax! if you can, try to make time for yourself, even if it's just a few moments in between so that you can clear your head and be stress free!

Answer 5

A couple of ideas.
1. Decide what you want to do and what is a hassle..... then
2. Decide what MUST be done regardless if its a hassle or not...then
3. Eliminate anything that isn't a MUST

The job right now (unless its a MUST) is not a good idea until you can handle the responsibilities you already have. Education comes first.
Take 30 minutes everyday just for you.....isolate from everything and either chill out, or if you enjoy it...exercise (which reduces stress and increases physical and mental energy).
Know, that I am proud of everything that you are trying to juggle right now, but know too that ...it is better to be successful at some things then to be average at everything.
BREATHE!!

Answer 6

By a planner and organize your time. Also large wall callenders work too. Stop taking so much on at a time. And if you must break it down into smaller more managable tasks. Talk with your friends or family about your stresses as getting them off your chest helps. Take a deep breath and take each day at a time and just think about the fact that all of the stressers you listed are temporary and will pass.

Answer 7

I remember being stressed like that in high school. I'm really sorry to hear about your dad's situation as that does add a lot of stress to a family situation. He should talk with your school counselor in case this happens, so that you and your family could possibly recieve help through the school. However, it wouldn't hurt to give your guidance counselor a head's up about this possible situation.

The main thing that you should do is prioritize. Use a planner and calendar to keep track of homework assignments, tests, etc. Cut out any unneccesary extra curricular activities, and you may want to think twice about getting a job. If you MUST work, don't work for more than 15 hours a week to allow yourself time to stay on top of your school needs. Better yet, if you land a job that will allow for you to study when it's not busy, you can use that time as well.

Set up a daily schedule for when to get up--and allow enough time for breakfast, time to do homework, and to give you some time off each day to yourself before going to bed. Shoot for getting 8-9 hours of sleep each night. When doing homework, do the subjects that take the least amount of time for you FIRST. That way, you can best use your time by focusing more on the subjects that are more time consuming or are struggling with. You may even want to consider doing some of your homework in the car if you're picked up to and from school. Do give yourself breaks during studying..like 10-15 minutes for every half hour. This will allow for your brain to absorb the information better by giving it a chance to rest.

If you find that the the AP classes are really kicking your butt, then see about getting a tutor, which may be available through your school for free or a reduced cost. They could be of tremendous benefit to your studies, and it would also show that you are doing your part in taking responsibility of your education.

As for driver's ed, try to not freak out about not passing the test. If you've been doing well in class and on the road with your parents, chances are that you'll be fine on the test. Practice driving the course and manuevers a few times before the actual exam. When on the road, it's natural to be nervous with the examiner in your car. However, try to just focus on the road and not whomever is with you in the car. When I took my test (in my 20s!), I was really nervous at first, but calmed down knowing that I could do the manuevers that that I was asked to do.

If all else fails and you don't pass the test, don't freak out. You wouldn't be the first nor last person to flunk a driving test (I flunked it the first time I took it). If you do fail it, ask the person what you failed on and work on those manuevers until you feel much more confident with them. Chances are that you would just need a few more hours of driving practice behind the wheel...no big deal.

Another important thing to keep in mind...keep yourself healthy. Try to eat a balanced diet, some moderate exercise at least a few days a week, and all that fun stuff. It really does help with your stress level. I'm not saying to totally cut out junk food-just eat it in moderation. Also, talk to your family or a trusted adult about your stresses...sometimes all one needs is a good ear to help sort things out.

Answer 8

Hi,

What I read from your writing is that you are mixing up several different concerns, all into a bowl labelled ''critical".
What has helped me greatly was sorting out the critical from the non-critical, and also the changeable from the non-changeable.
For instance, you cannot really change where you live right now (you could in the future, but not now), so do NOT waste another thought on how long it takes to commute. Just accept it as fact. Managing time is not that difficult once you ACCEPT that certain things takes a certain amount of time, and you don't try to cram more activity into a timeframe than it can hold.

2. Learn how to do a time/motion study on yourself: for instance, your goal is to a) finish High School, b) get into college, c) get your driver's license (feel free to re-prioritize this list if you need to).

3. Learn to separate your concerns and responsibilities from those of others. I cannot empathize enough with this one: more people find themselves at the brink of despair because they worry about OTHER people's problems. Now, the range of "other people" DOES include your parents, siblings, best friends, and believe me: future spouses!
There are some of us who are "hyperresponsible", and there are some of us who are 'masterblamers". Between these ill-fashioned roles, people languish in stress and depression.
Suggestion: let your parents worry about the money they spent on your driver's ed! If they just spent that money and did not take into consideration the workload you had on you, then they should have paid better attention. YOUR best interest is to get your education off the ground BEFORE you spend any worries on other things. OK, and it doesn't matter even if you BEGGED your folks for those lessons. THEY are supposed to keep an eye on you and your abilities, not just spurt out money with no concern on how well you are able to use it.
That said, try to talk to your driver's ed teachers and extend your lessons to a time when you can pay more attention to them. (And believe me, you learned how to walk, you'll learn how to drive, too).
Regarding your Dad's job, that is NONE of your concern. Your worrying about it won't keep it from happening, so LET IT GO.
So now you have 3 important items to focus on immediately:
1. Your AP classes. Give yourself time each day to really tackle these. Contact people for help. Talk to your teachers and other students, and really pay attention.
2. Defer your SAT's and instead re-do your Psats. Look, it doesn't matter THAT much if it takes a little more time. Just do it, and do it with strength and confidence.
3. Only AFTER you get the Psats down, look at the SAT's.

I personally do not get the feeling that you are lazy - only overwhelmed. I have the same feeling at times when I have overloaded my time budget, and then I don't feel like doing ANYTHING.

Learn the 3-D approach.
It is called Do - Ditch - Delegate.

The definite DO, as I read it from your post, is: pay attention to your AP classed and get the Psats down.

The definite DITCH, as I see it, is to stop worrying about what your Dad's job will do or how your folks will feel about the money they spent on your driver's ed.

The DELEGATE I see here is this: Delegate the driving lessons to a later time, and delegate the SAT's until after you've solidified your Psats.

Now, let me ask you this: do you take a bus to school? If so, can you use the time you ride the bus to get some studying done? Try to maximize time by getting things done during "offtimes".

Finally, to help you sleep at night, you may try this affirmation: "I have done the best I could with this day that is over. For those small things I may have done wrong, I forgive myself, and I release myself to a good night's sleep so that I may tackle tomorrow with renewed strength, hope and joy. Furthermore, I CLAIM as my birthright that may life is to be joyful and relaxed. I take responsibility for all of my actions, and I let others have responsibility for all of theirs. Therein, I affirm my freedom and that of everyone else I share this planet with"

Rewrite this in any way that it makes sense to you and enhances a state of peace at the end of your day.

Sincerely,

Roselle

Answer 9

I would go to bed earlier
and plan out the rest of the week. You should make a plan so that you are in charge of what you are doing. And about the drivers ed, relax, driving always comes easier when you arent super tense.

Answer 10

Rather than trying to cram everything in, try 30 minutes of work, 5 minutes off. Also make sure you get suffecient sleep, and keep well hydrated and fed properly. As weird as it may sound, coloring is proven to reducew stress as is water, health foods, and majorly, sleep.