Help...my husband was diagnosed with bi-polar/ADHD about 15 years back, and we have been married for almost a year, and it is getting really bad. He has these outburst, and hates everyone and everything when he goes into these "rages", including himself. I tell him all the time he needs to see a doctor and be medicated, or get counceling to help also, because he gets so angry, and enraged. He has never hurt me or my kids, which whom are not his, but he does worry me because it's like he turns into someone else. He tells me things that he normally wouldn't tell me when he's not in his rage. I just need some advice, because if things don't look up soon, I'm asking for a divorce...
2007-12-09 15:57:52 · 5 answers · asked by Renee' 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
No, he's not on any medication, and refuses to go to the doctors. That's my biggest problem. He said he doesn't like the "pill thing". Mind you he is only 25, too.
2007-12-09 16:12:01 · update #1
I'm bipolar and for along time I felt the same way about meds. I think its cause I had such a hard time finding the right meds. They have allot of side effects. Anyways, After having a few nervous breakdowns and making lots of bad decisions. I finely decided to give it a shot. Now I look back and I don't know how I did it without meds. My life is so much better. I can concentrate, I don't go do spontaneous crazy feeling things anymore.
Its sad he won't take meds, he probably feels nothing is wrong with him. When people try to get him to take meds it probably scares him. I know it did me. You can't live like that though if its really that bad and you feel you aren't getting the respect you deserve. I don't know I just hope you make the best decision for yourself. I dint want to give my opinion on what you should do. You already know the answer to that.
2007-12-09 19:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by candyapplesyum! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medication for his condition, sadly is up to him. It is his choice.
Your safety and the safety of your children is up to YOU. If you can, document - calendar style -his obnoxious words and behavior. Try to see if there is a pattern to when or what precedes his outbursts or moods, or if it is cyclical months apart.
When he so much as raises his voice, you've got to get you and the kids to safety OUTSIDE the house. Tell him he scares you and he scares the kids. And you will not stay where you are scared. Maybe psych medication would help him.
Get yourself involved with a marriage counselor or therapist or Dr. to whom he must prove X# of months stable behavior before you and therapist agree on a trial reconciliation. If he goes off his meds - he goes out the door.
2007-12-09 16:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he take medication? I recommend him seeing a DR and getting prescribed medicines...............Maybe when he is "normal", you can discuss what his mood changes are doing to you and the family and highly suggest him getting help
2007-12-09 16:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by drumcatblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tHats sad!
Because i my self have bi polar and with out my medication I would not be a live
2007-12-09 16:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RECORD SOME OF THIS STUFF AND HAVE HIM PUT ON A 72 HOUR HOLD. IF THEY FORCABLY MEDICATE HIM, MAYBE HE WILL REALIZE HOW HE IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL AND SEE HOW HE HAS BEEN ACTING BADLY. GOOD LUCK.
2007-12-09 16:02:09 · answer #5 · answered by Kay G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋