Single dad with 3 boys age 7,10,11 keeping me very busy. Been divorced for almost 1 year now but have'nt been out on a date due to exe's inability to help with kids. Looking for some dating advice for meeting, and quality date ideas that are exciting but not all day or all weekend affairs, just to get back into the seen. I'm an attractive 40 y/o, intelligent, honest, compassionate, professional living in Dallas metroplex. It should'nt be as hard as it's been. Any good ideas?
2007-12-09 15:46:11 · 26 answers · asked by sap62_99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quit looking,
Do things with your boys and just enjoy them now while there still young and want to hang out with their old man.
Your other half is out there and she'll come around.
But if you insist on finding her just look around you I am sure you know women that are single and you just haven't thought of them that way, well start!
Good luck on the dating scene.
2007-12-09 15:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by CrazyH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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But just make your dates simple. You can talk online for a while and see if there is real chemistry, talk on the phone and then meet up for stuff. Find a babysitter for a friday evening or saturday afternoon and have a short date. Maybe just coffee or lunch.
But a few things to remember. Don't let them meet your kids until you are VERY serious. But it is difficult. Dating after a divorce is hard, no matter how long you were married. Adding kids to the mix makes things even harder. But there has to be someway their mother can help out. Or other friends or family. I have two friends who are both divorced and back on the dating scene. They take turns watching each others kids so the other one can date.
But good luck. Dating is hard work, even for the young folks. Just keep your head up and don't take it too seriously.
2007-12-09 15:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced for 5 years and never felt like I even cared if I dated again. Then a handsome man flirted with me one day and I realized that I was still attractive to some one. So, I decided to do something about it. The only way I knew to look and choose for myself was an online dating site. I've tried several but the one that has been most successful is singlesnet.com I have met a lot of guys. I've been on 5 dates with 4 different guys. One of them was a second date and it was today. I don't do the bar scene and today was my fav. date. We went to a chinese restaraunt for lunch, then to a butterfly house, and then we drove around looking at Christmas lights. Check your local newspaper for things going on in your area. Do something different. Dinner is always nice, but a movie is out. You can't talk and get to know each other. A nice drive in the countryside, or a stroll through a small historic town, especially during the holidays would be sweet. A horse drawn carriage ride would be nice. Women love those kinds of things. By the way, my date had a single red rose waiting when I got in his car today. How sweet!
2007-12-09 16:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anyway- I have 3 kids also and I have them 24-7 so I understand. I have tried dating websites and all of that- the only place I have had any luck at all at was picking up single dads at the grocery! lol.
You are 40 women don't mind if the first date is just a few drinks or if that goes well take her to a nice dinner also. Once you find someone worth going on a second date with- I personally like the idea of creative or extreme types of dates. Indoor skydiving, mini golf, go karts and stuff like that. All of that seems silly but it is a great way of getting to know what someone is REALLY like, you get to see how they are and how they respond in a different atmosphere. Not just what they are like or trying to be like at dinner.
2007-12-09 15:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by LiL One 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard when the ex doesnt want to help out with their kids. Ultimately they are hurting the kids..anyway...
Ask your friends if they know any nice women that are available and willing to go out on a blind date. Usually someone knows at least one or two people that you can be set up with. Then find out what kind of personality that person has. Maybe they are laid back and like to have fun. Go to an arcade or some kind of place that maybe offers bumper cars or go carts. These are fun dates and if a woman is willing to go do something like this then they are for you! I mean, you have three boys! These are fun activities that at some point you will be going to do with them and a girlfriend.
Good Luck!
2007-12-09 15:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by Linda 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't look in bars, you don't need a bar skank, shopping malls o-Kay you sound nice enough,, get a baby sister , take kids places zoo ect, church, YMCA, or workout place, just put your kids first, remember you come with a package, put self in dating ads in paper, meet in public place, if not happy have babysitter call and say your kid needs you,,{ are be honest ,} i don't think this is working out ,sorry its nothing personal its just how i feel. OK offer to pay for the bill and if you picked her up ask her if shes needs a ride home and get up and start towards the cashier, good luck
2007-12-09 16:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mom, and my kids deserve to have my complete attention without having to share it with another adult who is not their father.
You said your three boys keep you very busy.....Between working full time and caring for kids and running a household, who would get the short end of the stick? It's not fair to your kids. It wouldn't be fair to a romantic partner either.
Put romance out of your mind for now. Raise your boys and shape them into the sort of man that would pick the right woman to marry and stay with for life.
Here's a thought: get back with the mother of your children. Both of you raise your children together. She's good enough to be their mother, she's good enough to be your woman.
That's my good idea.
2007-12-09 17:07:54 · answer #7 · answered by Gladys Numchuks 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! Put a profile on Yahoo personals and match.com. You can "meet" people and talk via e-mail and explain your situation. When you feel comfortable with someone you've met, give them your phone number. It's much easier to assess a person whem you actually speak to them instead of type to them. Trust me; this works. I ended up marrying a man with a two sons ages 15 and 8, and we're all very happy!
2007-12-09 15:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by chrisk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same boat and have gotten very good at this.
unfortunatly, dateing has become a very big game.
first of all if you want to take a girl out, the first date should be at starbucks, if it doesnt work out, you can get out of there quick. respectfully. girls also appreciate this. also, dont call to often, as much as girls say they like the attention, guys have a 3 day rule and when a guy doesnt follow it, girls think you are needy and run.
and yes, it is that hard.
girls are out of there minds these days.
sceme interested but let them know your kids and your work are very important and they will respect that and they will enjoy haveing to chase you.
2007-12-09 15:54:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
many ways, parents without partners has dances once a week and ladies love to dance!
Churches have single connections too
Of course there's match.com, yahoo, eharmony, all cost money, and there's no way of telling if they're telling the truth on line.
I've met (arranged) many at Starbucks for a coffee, cheap and a lot of talking! a walk in the park - talk and walk! bike ride, museum
2007-12-09 15:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by diver down below 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋