OK, so I was talking with my cousin on the phone the other night and I heard her soon-to-be-husband saying something in the background behind her and then she said to me "oh, 'sam' (her soon to be hubby) wants you to know that his mother just LOVES you". I didn't know what to say since I've only met this woman 3 or 4 times in my life. I said "um haha, tell him I love his mom too(she really is a very sweet old lady)" and she did. Today she informs me that she is annoyed because his mom doesn't like her very much and she apparently "loves" me and she's kinda been taking it out on me since then. I don't know what to say. Did I say something wrong? Why is she acting like this? She declined my dinner invitation and has been very short with me.
2007-12-09 15:37:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anxiety. Stress, Insecurity.
Get another cousin or relative to soothe her pre wedding nerves and inferiority complex. Your cousin needs you to bolster up her ego right now.
If she is short with you, make a joke of it. Dont take it seriously. If the guy (her son) was marrying YOU, she would find your cousin way better than you. That is the way mothers are. They see the prospective daughter in law as competitor for their sons affection.
AT least a good 95% of mothers in law will be like that. Dont make too much of your cousins reaction. Blood is thicker than water. Be nice to her.
2007-12-09 15:51:38 · answer #1 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your cousin has finally found a guy she actually loves, and wants everything to work out fine. Anything that gets in the way of her 'happy ending' she considers a threat right now, because love is an on-off thing for her. First, you did nothing wrong, and somewhere you know that. You need to somehow get across it is crazy that this woman loves you more than her (considering that youve met her like 4 times) and once she gets to know her it will work out great. You should let her fiance get the drift that she feels insecure about this situation. Maybe he can do or say something that you might not be able to get across to your cousin. If she is that worried over something she isn't even sure is true, take her out for coffee and let her talk to you. Something that you comeletely ignored that happened a while back might have stuck with her and made her insecure. hope i helped
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2007-12-10 00:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in life no matter how hard we try, we just cant please everyone all of the time. Your friend is acting childish and jealous. It may be a good idea to stay away from them for a while so they can hatch out everything without you being inocently involed. Its not your fault that somebody likes you better than somebody else. Someone may be playing games too.
Like I said before, you can do your best to keep from doing anyone any harm. But things happen. When you are with your friends, you never want to pass wind in their direction. So you walk away a few feet out of respect. But some times something happens that is beyond your control. The wind shifts. And it blows back their way anyway. Seems like you can never win. Just stay who you are. Dont let this change you. The other person needs to change.
2007-12-10 00:11:11 · answer #3 · answered by guitarrman45 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, don't bother too much about this oe, my dear. Ur cousin is really immature & it is only her ego coming to the fore. Such feelings of jealousy & small-mindedness are common these days. Just ignore this event & ur cousin for awhile & concentrate on the other good things in life - ur good heart, good friends, going out & meeting ur other friends & relatives - in short, have a good time & enjoy urself my dear, putiing this issue on the backburner !
Have a great time !
2007-12-09 23:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the soon to be mother in law doesnt really like your cousin,its got nothing to do with you its how ...mothers that dont like the other women make problems...they look for things so that the couple can argue;;;;;if i were you i would just stay away and let that issue resolve it self...of course she likes you more your not the one marrying her son.
2007-12-09 23:53:47 · answer #5 · answered by kazz55 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would guess that she's angry that her fiancee's mother doesn't like her as much as she likes you. It's not your fault, and you did nothing wrong, but I'm guessing your cousin is angry because she can't figure out what her future mother-in-law doesn't like about her. She sounds immature. Just be nice to her and don't stoop to her level.
2007-12-09 23:41:38 · answer #6 · answered by Purdey EP 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, she is very jealous but she has no right to take it out on you. you might be better off not to break bread with this woman.
2007-12-09 23:43:55 · answer #7 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋