what do you do when your mind races constantly, thoughts spinning everyday & you have alot of pressures &?

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worries?

plus i forget things in a split second and cannot remember them again....cannot hold a train of thought......mind flooding with thoughts, worries, anxieties.

im 30 years old with borderline personality disorder, i live in a one bedroom flat on sickness benifits......only real posession is my old computer.
i have alot of worries anxities.

getting a second opinion, my psychiatrist wont give me meds or doesnt think i have any other disorder coexisting with the bpd, where as i feel i do....i feel i have ptsd or another coexisting mental illness, and that i need meds.

housing: ive lived on my own for 2 years now, and im starting to feel unsupported, neglected, isolated and lonely......plus i live around gangs of teenagers that hang around in gangs, that are threatening.....so now im starting to panic worrying that i need to be in a safe, quiet area...in some type of supported accomadation where im around people....so after 2 years, moving would involve a big upeval.

ive yet to meet my new doctors because the doctors at the
last surgery were abrupt and dismissive with me, patronizing.

so i filed a complaint. and there was bad feeling towards me
there.....so i had to change gps.

im worried if the new gps will be the same towards me.

i missed a therapy appointment because of high anxiety levels,
they have strict policies...so they discharged me...so i have
to be rerefered to therapy assesment.

ive made no friends in life, never had a partner, never been employed,
never gained qualifications, all due to my problems.

i have a criminal record for assault and carrying a knife when i lived
in a rough area, years ago.

i have physical worries: im overweight. have 2 missing front teeth,
bottom row......i have a crooked little finger.....torn ankle
ligaments.....damaged nerves in my knuckle.

im drinking alot of fluids, now im worrying if i have diabetes..

i feel i have a small manhood.


ive isolated myself from society, only go out when i have to.
my moods are low...hopeless everyday...i have alot of anger
stemming from bullying in my past.......my thoughts keep racing.

to me these are immense worries, what will i do ?

Answer 1

I am not judging you and I understand your dilemna, but please realize and try to accept that having the personality disorder may make you think that EVERYONE is judging you but in fact its the disorder that makes you take things out of proportion and feel as if no one cares or understands. Also, you have to accept that if you make things difficult for doctors to help you by filing complaints (warranted or not) then they will dismiss you b/c we live in a world where doctors get lawsuits filed all the time and they get frightened by that thought. And you also have to accept that if you don't keep your appointments, then the psyche doctors feel that your not ready to take control and until then, theres not any pill or magic they can work to help you. Also, if you are living in an unsafe neighborhood that makes you afraid, then start looking for a quieter place that seems more safe for you. As far as the racing thoughts, I understand but this too could be the disorder controlling your mind. IS THIS TREATABLE? Absolutely, but you have the biggest part to play in this. A pill, a doctor (psyche or medical) can only try to suggest to you what is best but it is ultimately up to you to control this disorder. Now, step 1.) I want you to commit to getting rereferred to a psyche doctor and once you have done that 2.) go to your appointment 3.) pat yourself on the back for completing those first two steps....then continue going and following the doctors advice. You must control this disorder and not let it control you. YOU can do this!!!!

Answer 2

I hope this answer doesn't at all offend you.

One of the main reasons that people in our country remain mentally disordered is that they are leading themselves to believe that they are.

You need to
1. Stop thinking about your disorder as a disability, and relate it back into the real world.

2. Take time to read some books, like the person above myself suggested.

3. Know that your disorder is in no way a disability, and that with a tiny bit of effort, even if you are overweight, and have worries, that you control those thoughts and they are in no way a hinderence to your success.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you are not feeling well. My suggestion is to buy a relatively cheap piece of exercise equipment for the home (like the $85 stepper I bought) and use it. The aerobic exercise works wonders for the mind and body. After a few weeks, my body is tight and my mind is more sharp and I have less worries. Your anxiety needs an outlet and this is a cheap, safe way to do it. Trust me. Listen to music or watch tv while you're on it. You'll be better off if you take my advice.

Answer 4

The suggestion about exercise is in fact a good one.

Try to calm down a little.

Getting help for psychological problems can be a long struggle, and sometimes asking for it directly isn't the best way. Doctors hate people to diagnose themselves. If you are diagnosed as bi-polar, you look/sound like you might be having a slight episode.

Try to remain optimistic about your new GP (I know how frightening changing is) and try to explain what you feel, rather than what you want, but explain how desperate you feel. Let them make an assessment rather than you making demands. I know you know your circumstances best, but in my experience Doctors like to lead.

You sound like you could use some community help. Have you tried asking to speak to a welfare rights officer? They can refer you to other agencies.

You are not quite as isolated as you feel. There are people out there who will look past your superficial problems and try to help you.

Please try to relax a little, and remember that your circumstances WILL change and you WILL feel better. Getting the help is unfortunately not easy, but it can be done. Try to be persistent, but not demanding. Try to explain what is wrong without making specific requests as to how to change it.

Try writing your thoughts down, and giving it to professionals as a letter, if thats any help.

Try to be open to their suggestions. Even if the don't work, at least you will have shown wilingness.

I'm sorry that I haven't had very concrete suggestions, but I wanted to let you know that people DO care.

Changes take time, and I know it must be difficult to be patient when you feel as you do. But try not to be agitated, don't be aggressive, and KEEP HOPE!

With luck your new GP will help; Social Services may also - certainly speak to a Welfare Rights Officer.

And if the worst comes to the worst, go along to an Accident & Emergency. Don't explain what you want them to do, but explain that you felt desperate. They should get you an assessment (only do this as a last resort though).

Remember, you are not written off and things will improve. Sometimes getting help just takes far longer than it should. For now, try to be good to yourself, and treat yourself to doing something you enjoy - find a good TV program, listen to favourite music, read a favourite book, or loose yourself in a fun website - anything that will settle you down and help you to relax a little. If you really need to speak to someone, The Samaritans can be reached on 08457 909090 (in the UK), or by email at samaritans.org.uk - they are for anyone who needs to talk - you don't need to be suicidal.

Sorry I couldn't be more help, but persevere and people will eventually listen. Good Luck! I hope things turn around for you soon.

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Answer 6

If you are living in the UK you could try visiting the Citizens Advice Bureau, they should be able to put you in touch with the nearest Mind group.

Answer 7

Counseling, self-help books, doctor, Anti-anxiety meds.
You probably have anxiety disorder. Panic attacks? Shallow breathing? Feelings that you're losing it? Research it.

Answer 8

Please listen to me. Open the bible. Start reading Psalms. 91, then 37, 34, 23. Read then out loud. Slowly. Let it sink in. After that start talking to God. Tell Him everything. Then ask Him to heal you and lead you and ask Him for the straight to follow. Then ask Him to make you follow where He is leading you - give up your will at this point - so he can help you. If you don't know how to give up your will then tell Him to help you with that too. Trust Him. If you don't know how to do that. Ask Him to help you with that too. Read any other Psalms that appeal to you. Keep on praying and keep on reading the bible daily. I know you have heard other suggestions to obtain help - therapy, etc. You need to still do those too but I really think you need to enlist God's help.

One of my favorite scriptures:
Jeremiah 29:11 " 'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

Repeat it over and over to yourself. These are God's words to you. You are His special creation and this is how He feels about you. Write it on a nice piece of paper and stick it somewhere you can see it daily. Say it out loud daily. Now, go fufill his plans because He is helping you.

Answer 9

i recommend seeing a different psychiatrist and getting their opinion.. they may be able to suggest medications if needed or alternatives to medications if you would like.. and talk therapy is very beneficial.. the best thing about a therapist is that they don't know you.. therefore they don't have any personal opinions towards you.. so you get honest, unbiased help.. i'd really consider this..

one of the best depression/anxiety reliever i can recommend is exercise.. it takes your focus off what's bothering you and hey it's just good in general.. exercise also releases serotonin, dopamine and a few other nuerotransmitters in your brain.. serotonin helps you sleep and dopamine is related to pleasure and happiness.. those chemicals i just mentioned are the ones that your brain lacks when depressed.. exercise helps to balance them.. this has been clinically proven to work faster and longer than medication.. simply taking a twenty minute walk each day could really help.. this could also help to tire you out some so that you sleep better..

exercise also releases endorphins.. the body's natural pain killers.. this is related to "runner's high"..

other than exercise you could try deep breathing, muscle relaxation techniques, meditation, yoga, listening to music, writing in a journal, or talking to a friend about it.. i also drink ungodly amounts of tea.. haha..

get a good social support network.. talk to a friend or family member about how you feel..

take time out for yourself each day.. to just reflect, relax, and settle your thoughts.. do things that relax you and that you enjoy..

warm milk also helps to produce serotonin.. so maybe drinking a glass before you go to sleep may help..

try to get at least an hour of sunlight each day.. this also helps to balance your brain chemistry and produces serotonin..

when you lie down to sleep or just when you feel yourself getting anxious, concentrate on your breathing.. just keep a steady inhale and exhale.. in through your nose and out through your mouth.. this will help to calm your heart rate and hopefully help you sleep..

eat a healthy diet.. and drink lots of water..

if you tend to put yourself down, don't be so hard on yourself.. try to make a list f things you love about youself.. if you feel that you cannot make the list, then have a friend or family member make it for you.. when you start to put yourself down or feel bad, pull the list out and read it.. remind yourself that you're special and deserve to feel as such..

having a daily routine can help a lot with borderline personality disorder.. it helps to create structure.. group therapy, some alternative medicine techniques, and joining a support group have also been shown beneficial..

if you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me through my profile or e-mail me at [e-mail]..

i really hope this helps.. and best of luck..