I just started dating this guy...my guy friends found out by reading my text messages, and at first they were really protective, telling me (and him unfortunately) that they'd beat him up if he 'pulled anything'.
After a couple dates, my closest guy friend was being really rude, saying it wasnt actually dating, cause I just met him and we only had a few dates or whatever...and he was getting really mad when I wouldn't tell him 'what he did to me' or whatever.
What's his deal??
2007-12-09 15:22:08 · 36 answers · asked by miss addicted 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't be too open in most situation. You have your own life don't be to dependent on others just because they are acting too weird. They became weird, because you allowed them to be one. Your life is confidential into a some point make happen.
2007-12-09 15:33:34 · answer #1 · answered by SherwinD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you just need to set some boundaries with your guy friends. They are supposed to be your friends not your parent or guardian. They should respect you and your personal space enough to know when to step back and mind their own business. Since they obviously don't know where to stop you should remind them that there are things you won't talk about with them and that they don't need to get involved in your new relationship.
Depending on your situation like age group and all that, have you considered the fact that maybe these guys were just hanging around you waiting for you to make yourself availabe to them? So now that you are spoken for they're a little jealous? That's what it sounds like to me!
If they drop you altogether after things start progressing with your boyfriend you can rest assured that they were just testing the waters with you, waiting for you to give in.
Good Luck!
2007-12-09 15:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by MelT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friend probably likes you and is jealous, and if he doesnt like you as more than a friend he's just being a jerk. If he was really a friend he would be happy for you. He can pull all that protective jerk stuff if this guy you're seeing gives him a reason to.
2007-12-09 15:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them to find girlfriends of their own and leave you two alone. if they know something bad about him they should tell you so that you will decide if you want to be with him or not. its not their place to interfere even if they want to protect you. if you think he is a nice guy, don't let them make him go away. there aren't very many nice guys out there. tell them to give you guys some space in a nice way because at the end of the day they are still your friends. all the best.
2007-12-09 15:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by cutiesweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I don't think I could forgive someone for pretended to be a cousin of mines and say a whole lotta mess. That's serious stuff there. I think you need to apologize and hope he'll forgive you. Next time don't pretended to be a cousin of mines and say a whole lotta mess. Did you know that it's the number 3 cause of Divorce in the US?
2016-05-22 10:15:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might have been liking you when before the other guy came in to your life. Now that your with another guy, that just makes your friend feel hurt and jealous. Talk to him about it and I think he'll understand. If he really is your best friend then
2007-12-09 15:50:11 · answer #6 · answered by Spartan1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is what it sounds like to me. Either they are or he is jealous because they are losing time with you or he likes you too and is upset you're seeing someone else. If he really is you're friend then you should talk to him tell him what he is doing and that it isn't ok. It's not fair of him nor does it make him a good person to make you unhappy.
2007-12-09 15:25:58 · answer #7 · answered by ash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your guy friend wants to be more than just a friend. He sounds a little possesive to me. Do you always allow your guy friends to read your text messages? Not allowing them to do that may alleviate the problem of them getting angry over something that they shouldn't be.
2007-12-09 15:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem
guy friends are like brothers they are more protective of you then their own girlfriends...
Refrain from giving your friends any details about this guy or the dates. If you have to give details make it short and sweet and emphasize you are really happy
If you are happy your friends should be too.
2007-12-09 15:26:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isnt obvious enough already...???
he's head over heals in love with you and he's trying to pretect the last bit of hope he has to hold on to...(hope that one day you could become a couple)...
the problem is that he will never admit it when you are single but when you're with someone it's not the words he says that's important but his actions...pay attention to what he does and how he reacts when he's around you now...then you'll see the obvious signs...
what you do with those two guys is to your discretion...
but becareful not to get burnt in the flames if your gonna play with fire...
2007-12-09 15:59:25 · answer #10 · answered by a4675 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋