Okay, I've been on Yahoo! Answers for a little while now giving the best advice that I can give to others, now I'm in need of some serious help. For the past year I've had to sacrifice alot as far as being a normal 20 year old. My mother was out of work for a year and she found a job, but it's based in Kansas and she works all around the Midwest. When she took the job I had to assume her postion at home i.e. cooking, cleaning, amongst other things. Now for the past 6 months or so I've really been in the worst mood I have ever been in my entire life. I've been having a really hard time expressing to people that I'm just not in the mood for all this holiday stuff. It hit me about a week ago when my little brother asked me if I was excited about Christmas and I said, "NO." After I said that I really felt bad but it's exactly how I feel. I told my friends about how I felt and they said that they're going through the same thing. Am I wrong to be feeling this way?
2007-12-09 15:16:30 · 8 answers · asked by Cescee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I just wanted to clarify some things, my mother is still married to my father but he's been having a hard time with his job and has other things on his mind and I am a full-time Pre-medical College student. It's just all of this pressure to help my parents and go to school and get not good but excellent grades so that I can get into a good medical school is just driving me crazy!!!! On top of that I can;t find a better job to help my parents out because noone wants to hire a full-time college student. I'm just extremely stressed out right now and I think it's really starting to affect my frame of mind and possibly my health also.
2007-12-09 15:55:10 · update #1
It is true that a lot of people feel this way.And with you assuming the role your mother had.And with Christmas there is more to do. Let me tell you Thank You for all the help you give your family. Thank You for feeling the way you do about saying the wrong thing to your brother. When it comes time for you to be a mother I believe you'll be a great one.
2007-12-09 15:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sweetie you are not wrong. You are doing the work of a mom and this is how moms feel when they are trying to hold it down for the family. Heck im 33 with a 2 and 7 year old and we haven't decorated yet because im too tired and i just want the holidays to be over too. Just keep in mind that you are a young lady who seems extremely responsible and the responsible thing to do is to let your mom know how you feel and maybe changes can be made to lighten you load. Also this is the time in your life where you should be in college or doing something to prepare you for a career of your own. Eat right. Take a walk to reduce stress and treat yourself to something fun. Also read a bible verse a day-this just might help. I hope things work out. byw i live in missouri
2007-12-09 23:35:26 · answer #2 · answered by REALADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. I am sure your Mom is doing the best she can do and I am not judging her in any way, however you need to speak with her and let her know how you feel. You are only 20 years and are assuming the role of homemaker and mother. It is wonderful that you are able to help your Mom the way you do and I'm sure she appreciates what you are doing, however I don't think it is very fair of your Mother to do this to you. I understand her position ( I am a single mother ) and she needs to do what she can to support her family, however your brother isn't your responsibility. Helping out is one thing, becoming Mommy is entirely different. You should be in college and planning for your own future. Please speak with your Mom immediately. It sounds to me that you are depressed. Things need to change. Good Luck Sweetie. You are a wonderful daughter and I hope your Mother appreciates that
2007-12-09 23:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by laciealexis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you're wrong for feeling this way, but you do need to figure out a way to get out of this funk. Sounds like you are bordering on depressed (irritability is a symptom of depression). Do you ever do stuff just for yourself? Take a few days off and just relax and do something you've been wanting to do but haven't had time to. Tell your family they have to take care of themselves for a few days. You should feel better after that. You might be stressed out and overwhelmed from all the constant work and you might just need to relax and take a breather. If you don't feel better after that, I'd talk to a doctor.
2007-12-09 23:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by bellyyo62 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not wrong. Its how you feel. You sound like things have been dragging you down. Don't force yourself to be "in the holiday spirit". Who knows, somebody or something might come along to change your mind. I hope so.
2007-12-09 23:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by Max 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its normal, everyone goes through times when they are stressed and not in the holiday mood. bt lets hope this passes and you get back into it soon. Good Luck and i hope everything works out!
2007-12-09 23:23:55 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not wrong for feeling upset. You're under a lot of stress, and thats totally understandable.
I hope it works out quickly for you, I hate feeling stressed.
2007-12-09 23:21:27 · answer #7 · answered by Soap Box Preacher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax and try meditating. you r jst going thru a bad phase you'll get over it.you are just tired! take care.
2007-12-09 23:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋