It's not unheared of where I live for a 16-17 year old to date a guy who's 23-24. a good friend of mine is 20 and his girfriend is 16. The parents don't mind that. But it's different when you are 23. My friend is 16. I can't tell you how much we relate. We've spent hours talking about nothing lol. And hours talking about everything. We've known each other for 3 years and it's cool. I've almost convinced myself to talk to her and her mom (spepretly and mom first) about asking her out. But I can't quiet get myself to do it. The only thing that makes me hesitate is the age gap. If her mom told me no I'd back off and never bring it up again. Her mom's a friend I went to college with. She's mature for her age, if a bit of a rebel. For those of you who don't think Im crazy, can you give me good ideas? Maybe some stories of your own if you have been in a similer situation? I dout her mom would call the cops. just don't know how to ask her permission...any ideas? (lenghty if possable)?
2007-12-09 15:15:08 · 11 answers · asked by fullmetal479 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let me just warn you of this: If the little girl gets pregnant, mom may not accept it so easily, and depending on where you live, it might be out of all of your hands what the law will do.
2007-12-09 15:19:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl P 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know man... back in the day... like way way back in the day that would be pretty normal, but nowadays it just makes people a little weirded out... I would wait it out for a couple years til' she turned 18... and if you can't do that then I guess I would talk to the girl about it... also... I wouldn't go directly to the mom, I would have the daughter ease the mom into the idea for a bit, and then talk to her about it... and it might help to have the girl there for the actual conversation to defend the things the mom will inevitably say like "I really dont know if (daughter) will be ok with the age difference" and stuff like that... alls I know is that when I'm a parent I probably wouldn't be cool with it... good luck tho man, I'm rooting for you
2007-12-09 15:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by wahiv4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense but the age gap is just a bit to big in my opinion. Im sixteen as well and have an uncle your age. Maybe wait until she is 18 that way the age difference isn't such a big deal. Whatever you do just be careful that you don't make her grow up faster than she should.
2007-12-09 15:22:46 · answer #3 · answered by nobody 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is a child and thinks like a child.Do either of you have jobs cars and your own homes?
Then you dont understand responsibility yet son.She will change a LOT in the next 10 yrs believe it or not.Leave her alone and let her finish school and grow up, because all the kids in the age group who marry end up divorced later.Do you want to be divorced at say 30-33 and have to pay child support?
Think ahead with your head and not your hormones.
2007-12-09 15:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's too big of an age gap; at 16 she has different interests and experience than you. Date people closer to your age; when she's 18 or 20 you can date her.
Even if her mom likes you now, if they decide they don't like you, they call the sherriff's and you're labeled as a sex offender.
2007-12-09 16:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by shrinkydinkheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't like this answer. We had the young man come to the house and spend time with our family. When they did go out, they went out with groups of people. No worry for parents, less temptation for young people. As soon as she got old enough- (20) they got married and lived happily ever after. So far. Good luck.
2007-12-09 15:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, lol it's called a date, I think because they set a date together on which they are gonna go out. I think different people do different things on their dates.
2016-04-08 04:55:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF I WAZ HER MOM I WOULD SAY NO...NO OFFENSE...AT HER AGE AND UR AGE IT'S CONSIDERED AS RAPE IF U DID ANYTHING TO HER....AND WAT IF SHE GOT MADD AT U AND DECIDED TO DO SOMETHING STUPID LYKE CALL THE POLICE AND TELL THE THINGS THAT ARE UNTRUE!!!! U THINK U KNOW HER BUT U DON'T...../
ANOTHER REASON WHY I WOULDN'T LET HER GO OUT WITH U IZ BECAUSE YOU WENT TO SKOOL WITH ME AND UR TRYING TO ASK MII DAUGHTER OUT...THAT WOULDN'T WORK FOR ME CUZ I SOME WHAT KNOW HPOW U ARE!!! C
WELL I HOPED I HELP...JUST WAIT TILL SHE IS ON HER OWN AND NOT LETING HER PARENTS MAKE DECISIONS 4 HER
2007-12-09 15:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by shanteria13 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know where you live but in America datiing a minor is illegal. having sexing with a minor is rape and its not something you want to mess with.
2007-12-09 15:19:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so...you'll be 25 when she's 18??
Gosh.
2007-12-09 16:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋