my 6 year old will not lisen to a word I say how can I get here to act her age and to do what I say
2007-12-09 14:58:25 · 7 answers · asked by alyssa_1_3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she yells at me talks back and thinks she is older then what she is I just want her to be a kid and I know they are no angle she has no probmles in school at all
2007-12-10 10:32:40 · update #1
I tried everything I have hit her took things away and everything else
2007-12-10 10:34:08 · update #2
Was she ever disciplined in the past? When my generation grew up (and probably yours), if we didn't do as we were told, we got a whoopin'. NOT a beating....big difference to all you namby pambies who give a 'time out'.
You have to enforce in your child there is punishment for not behaving correctly.
Yes, by all means, get her checked out, like that other person said ,to make sure there are no mental problems. If it comes back she's fine, then whoop that butt and make her mind.
She say she hates you and all that stuff, but we turned out fine and so will she.
I've seen the results of these parents who don't discipline their kids. These are the ones that shoot up schools or wind up on meds for fake mental illnesses.
2007-12-09 15:09:35 · answer #1 · answered by unclewill67 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 6 she is testing you. I have been through this and still at 8 my kid still tests me but there are limits that are slowly being understood.I take away things that are important until listening occurs. Even at 3 all toys at the time were all over the place I said clean them up or the garbage they will go well the bag was brought out by the 3 year old and said throw them out I do not care. Those toys are still in a bag in the basement. Over the last few years progress has been made due to the kids understanding of losing something and earning it back. Once in a while I still am shocked by what a child can say but hey life is a learning experience. Good luck and best wishes.
2007-12-09 23:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by Canuck1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She *is* acting like a 6 year old but she's acting like a 6 year old with no dicipline. You have to make an effort to correct her behavior but you cannot just yell at her. Try physically coming down to her level so you can look her in the eye and speak to her in a steady, calm, lower toned voice and tell her that you do not like what she is doing and give her a reason. say something like "mommy doesn't want you running off because you can get lost and mommy doesn't want you lost." Or if she's fighting with another child something like "We don't hit people because that hurts them." Then remove them from the situation. You can try taking away toys or privilages for a little while but at 6 years old, it should only be for a few hours because anything longer may not work because a 6 year old may have a fickle attention span. What ever you do you have to be consistant and prompt in your dicipline so she makes the connection between her behavior and the ramifications.
2007-12-09 23:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remember ..she is six years old so she is going to act like a six year old. if your yelling..it's not going to work. and if she has never done whatever you are asking her to do..how can she do it? has her teacher ever said anything to you about her behavior in school? where is she getting the bad behavior from because if you are not doing it or peoples she is around..then who is she getting it from? and if you let her get away with it the first time (whatever she has done wrong)without letting her know.. it was wrong or whatever... she is going to continue doing it because you or whoever has let her get away with it too many times and so in her mind its the right thing or way to do. she is only six years old so you cannot expect her to be your age or a age older then what she is. just teach her everyday life skills the best way you know how. and if you know that there is nothing mentally wrong with your daughter don't have someone label her. she is just being her six year old self that needs a lil guidance and discipline. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-12-09 23:23:37 · answer #4 · answered by 'Fed'Up'07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want her to do something, make up a rule for it. Doesn't matter if the rule is not logical. For instance, you could say that the kid needs to do his homework if he wants to watch TV. There is no connection between the two things. And then tell him how you will react if he refuses to do the work. For instance, you could say that if he does not finish his homework in an hour, you will eat the candy you have been saving for him. If he does take more than an hour, let him watch you eat the candy. Be consistent even if it means being merciless.
2007-12-09 23:05:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anpadh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take away something the child likes such as a favorite snack.
2007-12-09 23:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by ripp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her checked please. By a specialist.
2007-12-09 23:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Equinox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋