How to act around boys?

Question

i'm defenetly not unconfident, or concieted.
but whenever i'm around basically any guy, cute or ugly,as long as their not a little kid or old guy, i get really awkward and i don't know how to talk to them.
i guess part of it is i havnt had a good guy friend since i was reallyyy little.
but i really mean any guy from about 11 to 30ish, i'm real odd.
even my cousen.
i really wana talk to the guy i like
but i'm not so sure if i can!
i'm a year younger than him, he's 15.
i've only talked to him once in my life & i've been in class with him almost 3 years!
(by class i mean my churchs jr. high and highschool. i'm homeschooled he's public)
and the time i talked to him wasnt even a conversation! it was on myspace, i asked why he rejected me & if he knew i went to his church. & he said he didnt think he did and added me.. that was basically itt!
i feel like i know him so well! our jr. high was small so everyone knew who everyone was.
so, how do i talk to him, and just any boys!?

i TRY to be myself so dont tell me to be myself cause i can't!
i try to, i really do.
but i'm not..
& i get embarassed reallyyy easily so that dosnt help..
i dnt know whats the matter with me!! :(

Okay for the girl who suggested i play hard to get,
the thing isss,
EVERY girl acts like that around him.
he's short and i guess not very good looking..
but i REALLY like him.
and dont tell me to get over him. lol.
but even his girl friends
act rude when it comes to any flirting whatsoever.
dont ask how i know this.
but anyways, like i said, i feel like i know him really well
and i do know he dosnt have any girl friends that are jerks.
anyhoo, i know i'm not used to normal society or however you put it.
i hatehatehate it.
my mom said shed let me go to public school, but i cant now, i'm somewhat behind in school plus a LOT of family stress.. so.. yeahh.. i'm stuck :(

Okay adding even MORE onto here.
i really apriciate taht answer from that guy.. hahaha i know not specific but whateverr.
the problems with his answer, actually, if i get rejected i wont get over it for a longggg time.
not only have i liked him for pretty much all the 3 years ive known.. erm.. about him.
i've also only liked one other guy in my life. and i wasnt over him until this one came along.
and
the guy is one of my littles problems, its just one of the few i can help
trust me, i know stress and worries.
in the past year in this family, 5 deaths of friends and relitives, one being suicide. the house catching fire.. bankrupsy.. and oh yes. theres more! but thats not what this is about :P
by the way, if i make my kids homeschooled, shoot me please? :P

Answer 1

Blame ur parents for homeschooling you, you miss out on a lot of social life.

But start a conversation with him about something that your comfortable with. I.E. If you like basketball then start the conversation out about bball

Answer 2

First, ignore the get naked in a corner advice, that'll just get you into a lot of trouble - and probably won't involve a lot of talking.

Second, try talking to guys you're not crushing on first, since that's just plain easier. Your cousin might be the perfect choice since he's family and that might help make it more comfortable. Get him to come over and hang out and try to just spend time with him (and his friends if you can) so you can get used to and comfortable being around guys.

The only other advice I can give is just TALK. The longer you sit there quiet the harder it's going to be to open your mouth, so the very first chance you get start talking - once you start a conversation it's so much easier to keep going.

:EDIT:
As far as getting embarrassed easily goes, I got over that by embarrassing myself in an unembarrassing way on purpose. Like going to a dance or something I'd turn a cartwheel when I got there. The idea was that once I already felt embarrassed, there was no point in being shy or insecure anymore since I couldn't make it any worse (in my mind - most people aren't going to notice me doing a cartwheel, but it was enough to overcome my own insecurities). It worked for me, but may not work for everyone. You might try it with humor - making other people laugh is a great way to relieve tension and anxiety.

Answer 3

Part of the reason you have trouble talking to boys is probably because you're homeschooled and you've never been forced to talk to boys. I'm pretty shy too and I barely talk to people when I first get to know them, but once I do get to know them I never shut up. You just need to hang around with some guys until you feel more comfortable with them... It may take a while before you get comfortable with them but once that happens it'll get a lot easier to talk to a guy you like

Answer 4

Putting your REAL personal information on MySpace--or any other Internet personals page is a BAD AND STUPID IDEA.

Besides, it's better to meet people OFFLINE than ONLINE.

This guy is likely just as bedazzled with you as you are with him--meaning he may find it hard to talk to you as well. Stop worrying about how you might come across and be yourself NO MATTER WHAT. Find a way to control those "jitters" you feel around him.

Answer 5

nicely shall we get something down first, hitting it no longer undemanding on the spot. basically like me and anybody, there'll consistently be somebody who thinks you're unattractive... yet, there'll consistently be people who think of you're! back, your in anybody's subject. i might say dont exchange who you're easily reason the greater severe element to do is act like something youre no longer. the only element that desires to be replaced is your introductory, spark a verbal substitute with something, any own hobbies, environmental events, possibly even chat approximately your acquaintances (effective gossip). speaking to people is plenty greater desirable then avoidance and picture of it this type, you benefit social skills the greater you open up. So interior the destiny in case you do pay attention to me people will discover you talkative, exciting, and proper. good success and lots love

Answer 6

Well start off by saying hello to each other and once your okay with that move up to the next level by having a more detailed conversation than hello until you get up to the highest level by asking him out

Answer 7

Being home schooled takes away some of the social interaction one gets to feel comfortable around others. Just keep hanging around and you'll get more comfortable and confident on what to say.

Answer 8

i know.,
all that dumb ppl telling u to be ur self. its imposibble!!!
i tried and i dont even know how to be ur self. my advice is to just tell ur self "U GOT NOTHING TO LOSE"
guese wut? u r 14. nothing happens when ur 14. u get bigger problems (newer) every day. do u remember u worrying cus u stole the cookie from the jar and ate it when u were little? yes. i do. LOL but, now, thats suchs a little problem u wont even care.
my amin point is that, in couple of years (even month) u can c how dumb and small ur worries are. i rememeber when i was 14. i worried about dumb stuff like talking to girls. but now there are bigger things. (girls are still a bit problematic..LOL)
just tell ur self u got nothing to lose/. in couple of month, u'll forget about it all...

Answer 9

Your embarrasment occupies you becase you are, in your mind, not certain about him. Begin a talk with preparations to estimate him. If he fails to meet your concept of a boy-friend just forget about him and be nice to everyone around you, without preconcieved ideas and beliefs about those whom you see.

Answer 10

try to find a time when hes alone and go up and ask him a simple question try to be your self most guys dont like girls who pretend to be something their not... but any way just start small talk and usally it turns into a convo.