i'm 20. and i met the love of my life. our relationship is still good until when it comes to the parents issue. they think that we were too young to commit ourselves in a relationship. but as far as know i can't change my feelings towards my grlfriend and at the same time i can't hurt my parents feeligs too. i'm in a dilema rite now. both sides are equally inportant to me.
what should i do?
2007-12-09 14:56:45 · 9 answers · asked by mod-joe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Follow your heart... your parents will get over it....
On the other hand make absolutely sure before you marry this girl that she is the one for you... if she is... then you are good!!
2007-12-09 15:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by monsterbabys3mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day you are still your parents child and they will always see you as "little" even when you are 50. The best thing to do is just go with the flow. Talk to your parents about it, ask then how old they were when they first had relationships, i bet at least one of them says your age if not younger, so they cant really be hypercritical!
Your parents are only concerned because they dont want you to get hurt, but deep down they will be happy and willing you on to make mistakes.
Trust me, im the same age and just got out of a bad relationships and even though my parents think i made mistakes they still supported me and helped me through it, which is what i hope your parents do for you.
Hope this helps xx
2007-12-09 15:05:16 · answer #2 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 20, time to think for yourself. You didn't specify what exactly about the commitment bothers your parents. Are you getting married or something? If you're just dating, then don't even worry about it, your parents are just being difficult. If you rushing into a marriage, then maybe keep things low key. You know, tentatively plan for a summer 2009 wedding so you have lots of time, just in case you're both going too fast.
Good luck.
2007-12-09 15:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything you may desire to communicate with your mothers and fathers. Have her do the comparable. there's no such element as castes. that's a delusion of the recommendations. you may desire to do what you prefer to do. you shouldn't cut loose out of your mothers and fathers, and you'd be wanting their blessing. yet i might decide their concerns and handle them straight away. tutor them how satisfied you're together. they only want what's nice for you. they might never intentionally make you depressing. except they're awful mothers and fathers. yet whilst they have been, than pass forward and cut loose and run off together with her someplace distant. Screw the blessing. Oh, and don't study Romeo and Juliet. that isn't any longer precisely the suitable concept in case you're desperate.
2016-10-10 23:05:35 · answer #4 · answered by harren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your heart, buddy. As much as you don't want to hurt your parent's feelings, you have to be true to yourself. If you love this girl, then that's great - don't break up with her because of your parents. You are old enough to have an adult relationship. Just be happy with what you have, and if your parents don't approve, it's not the end of the world. You can't help who you love. Be honest with yourself and your parents and let them know that you love them dearly and value their opinion, but it is really not up to them who you choose to love.
2007-12-09 15:03:46 · answer #5 · answered by tivawiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do your parents will accept it...they have to. You being too young to devote your life is bullshit....it is very common for couples to start their lives together young...you are old enough to make the decision for yourself....DO NOT split up with her over your parents...you WILL regret that.
2007-12-09 15:04:38 · answer #6 · answered by Zachary U 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, why does it matter that your parents think you're too young? They're probably just trying to protect you, but it is YOUR decision. Honestly, I don't think they'll divorce you if you decide to commit to her. You need to do what you think is right, not what your parents think.
2007-12-09 15:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Xenia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure why you're so concerned about your parents at the age of 20. get some counseling to understand why and communicate w/the girl your feelings.
2007-12-09 15:03:04 · answer #8 · answered by KitKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude just spend more time with her, to know how she can commit to u. I maen she might someday cheat on you when u are not around with guys that she think are more better. Think about it , and play it right.
2007-12-09 15:03:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋