me being a virgin?

Question

I've been tlkin to this boy and i lied and told him i wasn't a virgin but i called him and i told him i was virgin after we been tlkin for 3months and idk if he's gonna see me different now. i mean i want to lose it but I'm scared of being pregnant

Answer 1

That's a good fear to have and an even better fear to develop is the one of STD's and HIV. Don't rush into anything you are not ready for. If you really are not ready then don't force yourself to be ready. Sex is not necessarily a "Life Accomplishment". If he doesn't talk to you anymore after you told him that then you have just done yourself a favor. If he tries to pressure you then tell him that, if it happens, it happens and if it doesn't, it doesn't." Let him know how you really feel and if he respects that then he will stick around until you feel ready. Trust me its much better that way.

Be safe.

Answer 2

If you want to have sex simply to lose your virginity, you're not ready. Have sex because you want to.

If you want to have sex for you, get on some form of birth control. It's not terribly hard to do, and if you take it as directed it's 99.9% effective. Condoms are also good, they reduce the chance even more.

P.S.: The people saying virginity is a gift and special are creepy. If a girl ever offered me her virginity as a gift, I'd tell her no thanks because that would mean she's got the wrong idea about what sex is. It's awesome, it's intimate, but it's not the spiritual experience that type seems to think.

P.P.S.:Being a virgin shouldn't be a big deal. If you like someone, that part shouldn't matter.

Answer 3

woah girl, just about every girl i know that has ever been in that situation has said the same thing before and then said, "why would i want to give such a precious gift away?" dont want to lose it, want to keep it until after that special day when you walk down the ail and get married to that special someone. even if you do give it away, how are you going to feel when that certian man knows that your not a virgin and that you couldnt wait for him. not only that, but premaritial sex can also contribute to you getting, HIV, herpies, cyphilis, clamydia, and other STD's that will KILL U! think about waiting, and if he truly loves you and you truly love him, then you to will be able to wait for that until after your married.

good luck and please make the right decision, youll regret it if you dont.

Answer 4

there are ways of avoiding pregnany but first of all..why lie about it?
if you're a virgin that's something to be proud of not ashamed of. it means you've got some self-control, and some dignity. im not saying if you lose it, you don't have those things, but it's something you can never get back. save it for as long as you can. otherwise if you have to lie to someone about it, to impress them or get them to like you, then theres a problem.
if you think you're going to lose it soon, then educate yourself. im sure you've heard it a million times. u-s-e p-r-o-t-e-c-t-i-o-n!!! make sure he's got a condom. it reduces the chance of pregnancy by like 90% i think i heard...
anyways, i'm sure you're smart, you'll do what's right for you

Answer 5

If you are not ready for the things that can come of sex. WAIT!!! No need to rush. Don't lose it to just anyone wait for the right guy.

Answer 6

good for you! my ex girlfriend wanted me to never wear a condom because it "didn't feel as good" im not ready for a kid so what i did was follows

she was on birth control
i wore a condom
i pulled out every time and finished it myself right before i busted.

if you don't wana get pregnant and he wants to have sex, ask him to wear a condom but still pull out before he finishes.. you never know if a little bits gona get tthrough!

Answer 7

to me it seems like you aren't really ready to lose it because you don't want to be pregnant. (my opinion) but if the guy sees you differently, then he sees you differently. just be upfront with the next guy you talk to about it.

Answer 8

Don't do something you don't want to do. And as for seeing you different, thats just silly! He would never judge you on that. (He would probably love that cuz then he could teach you)

Answer 9

why do you want to lose something held so dear and special.once it's gone thats it.don't be in such a rush and for 3 months?

Answer 10

you're obviously not ready, and you've done a great job convincing the guy that you're a freak. Good one...*sigh*...