I like a boy but i dont know how to tell my dad that i want a boyfriend! I talked to him about it and he said 18 make mind that I am in 6th grade! sorry i lied about my age but i need my questions answered! I am his only girl and he has 2 boys but he is way to protective of me! PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-12-09 13:47:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is not to protective of you. He is right, you are to young to have a boyfriend.
As for being 18 to have a boyfriend, that may be his dream but I doubt it's going to happen.
Listen to your parents.
2007-12-09 13:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by georgeishere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK - I'm a parent so don't automatically 'dis' my answer. On the other hand I would not take the advice of 'Ticky'; lieing to your parent(s) or keeping something like this a secret is never a good idea.
Your father is not being over-protective he is just being a little more realistic about life than you are capable of being right now. the truth is you are too young to have a boyfriend. i know that is not something you want to hear right now because you probably really like this boy and feel you are ready to be in a relationship. give it some time - your father is right. 18 seems a little optimistic on his part, i think he'll soften as you get a little older, perhaps 15-16.
As for now i would enjoy this boy's friendship but try to not refer to him as your 'boyfriend'. i think your dad will be more open to the idea of you having 'guy' friends and that is really all you want right now.
sorry to sound like a 'mom' -
2007-12-09 13:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why your father will not allow you to date is because he is a guy, and he hanged around guys as a young man and know how they think. I am a guy who hung around guys when younger and know how they think and what they can do.
You father is protecting you from what you dont know, you dont have a good idea about whats out there, he has lots and lots of experience and has probably seen things that he cannot tell you about.
So trust your Father, he is there to protect you and if he just let you go out whenever you please and whenever you want he really wouldnt be that good of a Father.
You are lucky even though you dont know it, if I were you I would give my Father a big hug around the neck.
Dont forget one day you will be a grown woman, you do not want to look back have have all these terrible regrets weighing you down.
2007-12-09 13:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by cheezygrits 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep calm... I have the exact same problem. My choice is to wait. I'm 14. There's nothing you can do about it except wait for the right time. Unless you can take care of yourself and make sure that you're responsible enough to handle the situation then you can get a boyfriend behind your dad's back. But keep in mind that you should NOT do anything stupid or wrong that's gonna lead you to pregnancy or worse than that. (If there is something worse than that :D )
If you don't want to keep it a secret from him, talk to him about it. Tell him that you're responsible enough to have a boyfriend. Tell him that you're ready. And if possible, tell your guy to talk to your dad about it. Maybe they can work it out.
May you have better luck than I'm having cause I'm not allowed to ever have one until I finish college T_T
2007-12-09 13:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by jenn :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sixth grade is WAAAAY too young to date. You need to chill your jets and stop being so needy. And why in such a rush to have a BF? Because some of your friends have one? At that age, the "relationships" tend to last for 3 weeks to 6 months, and are filled with way more drama and bullcrap than any one person needs in an entire lifetime. You don't need that! Your dad is protective of you because he sees you are trying to rush into some very "adult" situations without all the tools you need to handle the pressure.
2007-12-09 13:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by eldots53 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol.
Im 13 thats exactly like my dad im not allowed a boyfriend untill im 18 but i already have one i no its not right going behind your parents back and doing stuff but im not being silly.. when i get nervous around the guy i tell him to stop touching me or to get back give me some room and he listens. dads are VERY over protective of there daughters im the only girl besides my mum and i have a little brother aswell.. I get upset that i cant go home and talk to my dad about my boyfriend. but then i go to my friends to talk to them..
2007-12-09 13:53:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know those sappy Disney TV shows where the kid is really dramatic and feels something like "I just want to be a family again" or "I can't believe your dating again! How could you forget about mom"? Well, that kind of thing works to your advantage! All you have to do is have a one on one conversation with your dad. What you ask him is "Dad, is the reason why you won't let me have a boyfriend because you don't want me to grow up?" I know it sounds sappy but it works. If he answers no you have to ask him why he won't let you have a boyfriend. If he says something like "Because your not old enough" then all you have to do is rephrase. Meaning ask him if you can "hang out" with this boy but not officially date him. If he still says no then you have a smart dad! But also you have to ask "Why can't I hang out with him you let me hang out with the other friends of mine that are boys!" And that should do it. If he doesn't say yes then e-mail me and I owe you one. (I would even call up your dad for you and tell this kid is a really nice guy) I'm not kidding e-mail me and tell me if he says yes. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS! My e-mail is realekids@yahoo.com
2007-12-09 14:08:27 · answer #7 · answered by Answer It! IQ...... who cares?!? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
grrrl, i had so many "bf's" before my dad had any idea. thats half the fun of growing up. if you dig a guy, and he digs you, go for it. how does your mom feel about it? usually they're more understanding, talk to her about it. keep in mind having a "bf" at youre age, doesnt necessarily mean what it does when youre 18. have fun!
2007-12-09 13:52:41 · answer #8 · answered by CGBUBB 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your under sixth grade, you shouldnt have a boyfriend. you probably dont know what having a boyfriend is about. i know how you feel, when i was younger, i liked boys. but i didnt know what it really meant. i thought i did, but i didnt. sorry if i didnt help, good luck
2007-12-09 13:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell him, that kids who have open and honest relationships with their parents are 40% more likely to have non abusive relationships, and are 60% more likely to obstain for sex.
i'd tell him, you are going to nd up dating before 18, weither it's behind his back, or not. And wouldn't he rather you had a nice, easy, safe relationship?
2007-12-09 13:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋