i jus recently ask y men dont take care of their kids and some people said it was my fault for picking him. but thats not always the case. some women, like me, thought their baby daddys would always be there cuz thats the way the acted and thats what they said. so whats ur situation? and how did u turn out?
2007-12-09 13:31:48 · 24 answers · asked by silkydreamgirl10 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
sorry to here that single dad hope everything works out for u and congrats on being a good father we need more men like u. good luck and god bless
2007-12-09 13:40:33 · update #1
I was 20 when my first kid was born... I got married next year when I was expecting my second and hopefully last child.
There nothing for sure in this life... so far it's good... hopefully it will stay that way.
2007-12-09 15:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by BitterSweet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby at 13. Lets not go into how that happened- ALL alone there.
Then I had my 2 almost 3 year old, father seemed so great we WANTED a child and he was so happy. That was until everyone told him he was ruining his life. He bailed out- hasn't saw our child except for an accidental running into us at walmart- he said hi to me and looked and said "is that" i said yes and he said he had to go. He pays child support most of the time but thats it.
Then- yea some people say i'm stupid about now- but I have another child- an infant with a guy I have known since before I had my first. The father is GREAT we aren't officially "together" at the moment because he is finishing up getting his PHD but he loves ALL of my children. He plays a huge role in their lives. He wants to marry me and adopt my other two children when he graduates this spring.
2007-12-09 13:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by LiL One 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 years old when I had my daughter. My husband and I had been married for almost 2 years when she was born and now, we are still married and I'm 22 years old and he's 28 years old, and baby #2 is due in march. My husband is a lot older than me, which is probably a good thing because he really helps to balance me out so to speak. He's a huge help with our daughter and he has been since the day we found out that I was pregnant with her (I had a horrible pregnancy with my daughter and he helped me through it - even through the all day/night puking sessions throughout the whole 8 months. this pregnancy is shaping up to be the same way), and bless his heart, he's the best husband I've ever heard of and the best dad. I love him so much!
2007-12-09 14:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met the father of my children when I was sixteen. We had our first son when we were 18. We split up for over a year. He had another baby in that time. We got back together. We got married. We had our second child when I was 21. We stayed married for about 9 years. . . We are now divorced.
He pays little in child support. However, he sees them every wednesday, every other weekend. and on the weekends that it isn't his weekend...he still picks up the kids for church.
he calls and checks on them. he asks all the questions about school and even goes to open houses that I don't make it to.
i thought we'd be together forever... but the boy i fell in love with at 16 is not the man i see before me today... i am 31 years old and we have a 12 year old and an 8 year old.
2007-12-09 13:39:40 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Kelly 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my frist child when I was 15 I had her at 16 got pregnant with 2nd at 18 had her at 19 got pregnant with 3rd at 20 had him at 21 now im pregnant with 4th im 22 and ill still be 22 with this one........my 1st childs father isn't around never has been since I had her! Yeah we were young and yes I was ont he pills I guess he was "to young" to grow up and im glad I left him b/c he has been shooting up for the past 5 years he hasn't even laid eyes on her in almost 6 years! My hubby now is the blood father of my other 3 and a daddy to my 1st! I'm glad I found someone that would love and care for a child that wasn't blood he has been here since day one and has NEVER treated her any different!! Thank goodness for the last few good men out there!
2007-12-10 02:09:37 · answer #5 · answered by MommyNWifey22 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I had my first baby at the age of 17 I was 16 when I got pregnant and the father and I werent together at the time I found out, but he was believe in me and us and trying to be around until he just stopped calling and answering until she was born. He got a call that night and did not call me until 3 days after. Right now she is almost 6 and he just recently started coming back in her life around the age 4 or hes always been there since like 1 but hes just now starting to be the "daddy" we wanted him to be. I now have a 18 month old son and me and the father are actually engaged! I PROMISE there are some guys out there that actually care...
2007-12-09 13:53:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I was pushing 28 when I/we had our first. two and a half years later, upon my return from Desert Storm, she had me served with the divorce papers. She got full custody and half of everything. Four months later, she abandoned our son. It took me three years to get him back. I've since remarried. The "new" wife has a daughter from a previous marriage -- I've raised her as my own. And together, we have a son. The "kids" are now 19, 15 and 9. Neither ex has paid their child support in forever. The 19 year old tried to make amends with his mother, I'd always refused to discuss her with him. He went to see her when he turned 18, but after two weeks she kicked him out -- he now hates her and has little respect for most women. I hope and pray that someday he will not think all women are like her.
2007-12-09 13:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Doc 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child in 2000, I was 19 years old,and married his father 2 years later. We had our second child in 2005, and are pregnant with number 3.
I am glad that I did not get married just because I was pregnant, I do not think that it is a good reason to get married, marriage is a life time commitment, just like having children and is not something that I take lightly. I would of rather been a single mother then to be in a marriage I was not happy in. Now we are both happy our children are happy and despite what everyone (family,friends) thought, we are both happy we waited to get married!
my husband is a wonderful husband and a wonderful father!
2007-12-09 13:45:20 · answer #8 · answered by shawn 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I was what some people call a late bloomer. I didn't date until I was 19. I met this cute guy skateboarding at the park. His name was Zac and was 18. We started dating a month after we met and we got pregnant that month also. We had our daughter Autumn. We married a few months after that and now I'm 21 and my husband Zac is 20 we have a beautiful daughter and a son on the way which is to be named Landon River.
2007-12-09 16:03:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got married at age 35...we had our daughter when I was 36 and now am on baby #2. I will be 37 when our son is born. We are still together and plan on being together for the rest of our lives. My husband is a wonderful provider, father and husband.
2007-12-09 13:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Moo Moo Mair 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
31 and 33 (father the same)
yes - they live with him alternate weeks, since we ended our 19 year relationship
Our relationship, at the time we chose to have the children (they were planned), was stable and had been for eight years. Ten years later it wasn't. Stuff happens, and I might be good, but I'm not clairvoyant. It was the relationship between the two of us which fell apart, not the relationship either of us has with the children.
2007-12-09 15:05:33 · answer #11 · answered by who me? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋