I'm a 20 year old guy , and I live in Holland. I've been so depressed.I used to live on the island of Curacao . I had a "life" there , a car , was going to college. My biggest dream, was to finish my degree in IT , then go to Cuba or Puerto Rico , to study and pursue a carreer in music. Things weren't going so well in college, i lacked motivation so I decided to come here and live on my own , and finish college here in Holland. Been a year now, and I'm so depressed. I got no life here, I never go out, I don't got any friends. I was thinking of going back to my island and get college over with , so I can work on my dream of hopefully become a prof. musician. My dad don't like that idea so much, cuz he sais i'm in Europe now, and I got a once in a lifetime opportunity to explore the world outside Curacao. But the thing is, I don't feel comfortable here in Holland. Of course I wanna explore the world, that's what life's all about.But I'm young right? I don't know what to do, please help.
2007-12-09 12:55:27 · 3 answers · asked by mrmafiosso 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
First thing is to finish your education. You said you lacked motivation on the island that is what landed you back in Holland. Since you don't have a life or friends you could focus on your studies and get it done. You have the rest of your life ahead of you places to see and people to meet.
Right now you need to have self control buckle down. You are smart and strong go for your goals you WILL meet new friends and get the life you dream of just plan out your goals set a pace and do it.
It is not fun to work for your goals but the pay off is well worth it. I promise you are going to have the time of your life! Apply yourself listen to your Father he loves you more then anyone ever will in this life time ask for his advise on how to achieve your goals he will help you he wants you to have the dream life you desire. Good luck
2007-12-09 13:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here it is the best advice I can give anyone in your situation..My dad dies at age 53, my uncle dies at age 52, my friend dies at age 43...all this year all so young. They never did what they wanted to do and their lives were not lived to the fullest. They had died with things left undone. Life is way too short to do things you can't stand doing. I am 28 now and this year dispite everything else I quit my job after 6 years cause I hate it, I enrolled in University to pursue social work My dream job, I got a job working in a group home with troubled youth, I lost 25 pounds, and I quit smoking after 12 years of being chained to it. It just goes to show no one or anyone holds you back from your own dreams and goals but you. You have the power to change it so do it.
2007-12-09 13:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by amanda b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're a 20 yr old, aren't you considered an adult?
You have the right to decide what will make YOU happy, not everyone else. And you can't live for THEM, either. You have to live for yourself, it's YOUR future !
2007-12-09 14:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋