For someone to pop over to your home to visit you and your husband on a work night, not calling before they come...and bringing their 5 sick and noisy kids in tow??
2007-12-09 12:42:49 · 68 answers · asked by goldenchilde11 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
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2007-12-09 12:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by mcantrell06 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow, yes, rather rude. But some people don't even realize it, they just do it. They are used to 5 sick and noisy kids, and don't realize that you aren't. Some people just don't use their common sense. They feel that a drop-by visit will be welcome, regardless. Do they come early, late or at suppertime, do they stay for 15 minutes or two hours? If they come during an open time (not bedtime or suppertime) and only stayed 15 minutes, I'd try to brush it off and not let it bother me. However, on the other hand, if they come at an inopportune time (when we're ready to sit at the supper table, bath or bedtime) or stay for a couple of hours, when on my busy workweek night I don't have that kind of time to spare, I would simply and nicely ask them to please, call me before coming over, for with our schedules, our work nights are quite full of havoc, that we would much more thoroughly enjoy "planning" time to spend with them so it will be more quality-spent. Maybe even suggest a certain night (one night per week or whatever) for their visits. That way it's planned and they are expected. Whatever you do, good luck.
2007-12-09 12:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How awful.....Isn't there some way you can see who is at the door so you can decide to answer or not.....as bad as that sounds,..... it's worse for them to come over uninvited with five sick noisy kids.......The only other thing you can do is "be at home savvy" meaning, turn off all the lights, close the drapes, and start watching TV in the bedroom, when the door bell rings....DON'T ANSWER IT!.....What rule says, you must answer the door?
2007-12-09 14:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by mj 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They obviously feel close enough to you that they feel comfortable to enough to show up unannouced.
If would prefer they call then you should say something to them.
You can go the subtle way - like... If i'd known you were coming..... OR We would love to visit, but... we are sooo tired from the day, your kids must be tired too. Stuff like that. Otherwise, just say, man, we really dont like to have visitors during the week because we are wiped out and need the time to recoop.
2007-12-09 12:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rude! I think it's rude to pop over to visit without calling period; kids or no kids, husband working or not working. You should always call before you "pop in."
2007-12-09 12:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beyond rude. Bringing 1 kid would be rude. You don't assume regular people want to be around kids. For the most part, I don't. Bringing 5 over is ridiculous. Grown adults who never develop any type of sense continue to amaze me.
2007-12-09 12:47:36 · answer #6 · answered by M.M.12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First: popovers are pretty rude to begin with, if you're not expected. Bringing sick and noisy kids, not to mention five of them, is completely rude.
These folks need to understand that there are boundaries and that they've crossed one.
2007-12-09 12:51:06 · answer #7 · answered by chick2lit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's rude. You have to set the rules of your home, let people know what they are and then abide by them. Most people however are not that insensitive but if you have people who do this you have to stop it. All you have to say is that you don't allow anyone to your home without a phone call to see if it's convenient for them to stop by. Period. And that includes everyone, family as well.
2007-12-09 12:53:36 · answer #8 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes! Most people do not think of common courtesy. My mom hates it when people come over without calling first. I have one cousin who comes over with her three bad kids, and she nearly stays all night. So when Outkast says, "I'll call before I come, I won't just stop over, out the blue", they really mean it. Pick up a phone people!!
2007-12-09 12:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by ashyne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Quite. It would have been nice to call from their cell phone when they were down the street, or once they got the idea, or something. Or at least leave the kids in the car!
2007-12-09 12:47:45 · answer #10 · answered by The Lady of Shallot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is SO rude. Never go over anyone's house without calling them first to notify (unless they say it's okay), especially if you have FIVE kids. I feel for you. Whoever did that is ruuuuuude.
2007-12-09 13:08:25 · answer #11 · answered by Cherry D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋