where do i start? when i look at my son (6 y o) i feel i need to do more... but am not able...i felt extreamly bad afterward. i know my condition will affect my son...so i tried and tried to shake it off...but not quite successful...and i knew about medication and such....but am skeptical. any insight? thank you.
2007-12-09 12:32:38 · 11 answers · asked by etienne z 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Dear Single Father,
Meet Child of Depressed Single Mother. I'm 19 years old. Depression can be difficult to battle. I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder (manic depression) at the age of 17, but I had feelings of depression and death and suicide idealization from the age of 12.
Seek counseling. I have had four therapists including the one I have now and while each was good for me at the time I needed them, with this one I have found much help. I would greatly suggest cognitive-behavioral therapy in which you learn to challenge some of your depressed thoughts and change your behaviors in respect to them.
Find a good psychiatrist. Medications do help and it may take you several times to find one that works. Do plenty of your own research. You may find there are things even your doc doesn't know. I have been on a few, but they didn't treat my disorder well.
In the meantime, know that you are not weak. It's not your fault, and try not to feel guilty, which can be a symptom of your depression.
+ Get plenty of sunlight (or invest in a light box)
+ Exercise to get those endorphins up
+ Journal
+ Talk
+ Avoid alcohol and drugs
+ And eat as healthily as you can
But seek therapy. As soon as you can.
For more info, go to:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/depression/complete-publication.shtml
Sending you lots of love!
If you need anything, throw me a message!
2007-12-09 12:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by somebody's_negrita 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOU need a partner. Plain and simple. It's quite common to want to do "more" for your son. Parents all go through this. However, if you've EVER had a suicidal thought you really should try some sort of meds. I was on meds for depression 7 years ago and now I've been med free for 4. Just because you have to take some meds to "help" doesn't mean you have to take them the rest of your life. Besides...this time of year does make people more depressed than normal.
Final note: IF you don't already have a partner, then find someone you can talk to...communication will help you greatly. I do wish you and yours the best.
2007-12-09 12:48:25 · answer #2 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father has severe depression and was put on medication for it. A little after I turned 5, he left me and my sister with my crazy mom. I am 15 and also have depression (my dad leaving didn't help at all) and I see him off and on but he turned into a totally different person because of the depression. What you should do is go to a psychologist and tell them everything you told here, they may recommend medication, but it can help you so much, and could help your son too. Don't let your son go through the pain and suffering that I went through. So get out there and get to a doctor!
2007-12-09 12:41:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people dismiss the idea of talking about things to a professional or seeking out medications but speaking as a person suffering from depression and knowing how it can affect family I can only say, for the sake of your son and your own well-being, seek out someone to talk to. If not a professional therapist then someone else close to you. Medication may be required but you won't know for sure until you speak with a doctor. Good luck.
2007-12-09 12:41:44 · answer #4 · answered by Tammy_Suto 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..
But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.
Helping you eliminate depression?
2016-05-16 05:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no shame in asking for help. Does your employer offer mental health services? Many employers do offer some kind of hotline and benefits for counseling and medication if necessary.
Maybe you could also check the yellow pages or do a google search on local support groups for single parents, fathers.
You could also try to speak with someone in your local house of worship.
Just the fact that you realize you are having difficulties and are seeking help is a good sign. Hang in there and don't be afraid to ask for help.
2007-12-09 12:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by 2007_Shelby_GT500 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi been a suffer of depression for most of my life I'm marred with six kids and nine grand kids, i take my meds every day just to make it to the next day you will have good days and bad days learn to enjoy the good ones and live with the bad ones your child you give you many days of joy. on bad days i go fishing with my son's life always looks great at the end of the day try it hope it works for you as it has for me
2007-12-09 12:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by ian h 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one starts with a son of six. There is before you a history of contacts . Go back to them and ask advice . These are your people. If you are an outcast then say so.
2007-12-09 12:55:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get off of the computer and go jogging or do something outside. Find a good new hobby to get that brain more active.
2007-12-09 12:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by condor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 07:55:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋