my mother and i dont really have the best relationship that we could. i have trouble opening up to her and telling her what's going on in my life because i'm too afraid she's going to judge me. She doesnt trust me as much as she trusts my brother, so that makes me even more afraid to tell her things. i just look at my friends and see how they are with their moms and i tell myself that i should just get over it and talk to my mom, but i never really can. sometimes i'll have alot that i need to say and i'll be debating in my head whether or not to say what i have to say. i just dont understand why i'm afriad to talk to my own mother.
2007-12-09 12:22:46 · 5 answers · asked by KC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are afraid to open up to your mom because you don't find her to be a safe place to fall, and if you find her to be judgemental with you then it's with good reason.
She may not even be aware that she is treating you differently from your brother.
That's why I think that if you decide to try to open up to her again that you start out by telling her how you fear opening up to her, and why.
2007-12-09 12:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For years, I felt I couldn't talk to my mother.. and I didn't.. almost the same situation, as my brother and her were close..
when I became an adult, I found it easier to open up, and ask questions..
towards the end of her life.. (Cancer took her in 2001)
I was at her bedside, and it was me, not my brother who gave her permission to crossover.
We were extremely close at that point, after years of being "not so close"
my advice.. make the most of the time you have with her.. start small.. like with say clothing advice.. or maybe perfumes, and work your way up.. take an interest in things she does and ask questions..
and work it from there.
Good Luck .
2007-12-09 21:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by Muse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing about us mom's,we are always here and ready for our children.Sometimes we get busy or wrapped up in our own problems,but we always have concern for our kids.Try asking your mom to have a girls only afternoon with her.Then see if she will either go shopping,go to the salon,or bake cookies with you.Sometimes it's not what you talk with us about,it's the fact that you just want to talk with us that matter's.We love to know what is going on with our daughter's,wether it be the boy who doesn't recognize that they are alive,or it's the skank that is tormenting you in gym.Just know that once you open up the line of communication with your mom,everything else will go smoothly.She loves you,and of course she is going to judge you on occasion.However,your mom will always forgive you for your mistakes,as she has probably made some of the same ones when she was younger.
2007-12-09 20:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by sacred_hart_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that should have been resolved years ago. Mothers have to earn the trust of their children, by listening to them, and by being non judgemental. Many mothers and fathers can not do this, as their attitude is "my way or the highway."
2007-12-09 20:29:39 · answer #4 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mom are the only one in your life that will tell you the true you may not like it at the time they say it to you but latter on you see she is right
2007-12-09 20:29:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋