My mom is very religious, and I love that about her, but I've lost my faith, in anything. I have been informed I am agnostic. But my mom doesn't know. She still thinks I am a Christain. I'm not mad or anything, it's just I'm a little uncomfortable about it. Should I tell her about my lack of faith, or should I keep her in her little world? I don't want to hurt my mother, please help.
2007-12-09 12:07:42 · 17 answers · asked by NOT USING Y!A ANYMORE!!!!!!!!!!! 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Good question,starred.I would be honest with her,but let her know up front you don't want her to be judgemental,but don't be discouraged,in fact encourage her to delicately debate with you on your different views,she will respect your decision more if she feels you actually thought out your decision.parents tend to think kids make rash decisions(which is true)she is your mom,listen to her wisdom as well as discuss your views.
2007-12-09 12:13:36 · answer #1 · answered by boobooloo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only world you're in is yours. Your mom isn't the one hiding her beliefs or lack of beliefs. Plus how can someone inform you that you are an agnostic? Did the agnostic fairy come into to your room at night? Anyway you are the one who is uncomfortable, your mom is most likely the one at ease. Why don't stop being a child and tell her straight out that you are an agnostic(atheist), and take the lumps with it.
2007-12-09 12:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sort of relate. While I’ve not lost my faith I can say that I’ve absolutely no respect for organized Christian religious groups. History has shown time and time again that they are wrought with hypocrisy, vanity, cruelty, and a wanton disregard for even the basic rules handed down by God himself. Millions have died as a direct result of Christian ideological policies and I’ve reach the point in my life that if I support the Church will do nothing but condone that kind of behavior. My mother is shocked and mad at me because I wont set foot in a church...and I never will.
2007-12-09 12:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by phule_poet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teen i suggest if you haven't already is to find God apart from the traditional, apart from the norm. I don't want to worship or have a relationship with God like something I have see in my mother, I wanna be new a discover God and his way in my life in a relevant way. But if you already did that like understand that all your mother is doing is loving you in the only way she know how, which is the Christ like way the best way. In my opinion Christians love the best because they know the best lover, God/Jesus. But remember your mom just wants to look out for you, and love you in the most possible way. here is a verse for you if it helps, bc you said you lost your fatih:
Heb. 11:1-4
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for.
By faith we understand that the universe was formed at God's command, so that what is seen was not made out of what was visible. By faith Abel offered God a better sacrifice than Cain did. By faith he was commended as a righteous man, when God spoke well of his offerings. And by faith he still speaks, even though he is dead.
2007-12-09 12:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by that girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let her think that you were into Christianity also. I don't consider myself as having a faith but that doesn't make me a bad person. People with strong religious values can be hypocrites and not accept others if they don't choose to be as religious as they are. I'm not saying that your mom might be this way. The choice is up to you whether or not you want to tell your mother.
2007-12-09 12:16:10 · answer #5 · answered by --- orange --- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it really depends on how your mother handles things. My mother is the same way, a die hard Christian, but she's very understanding of searching for truth. She knows I'm pagan now, but she isn't upset about it, she believes that "God will teach you about life in all the different parts of the spiritual journey, and when you have learned what He has sent you out to learn, He will call you back home."
Slightly unnerving/upsetting for me, to say that God has instilled in me a desire to learn of other faiths and paths so I can come back to Christianity with a greater understanding... but whatever. She's happy, I'm pagan, we're good.
If your mom is understanding, then maybe it'll work out that way, too.
2007-12-09 12:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Khana S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom is a devout christian, she already knows. You can't hide anything from spiritual people. Religious people, yeah, but spiritual people no way.
If she gets hurt, she needs to check what she's believing. God has an answer for that in Matthew 7:1-2
2007-12-09 12:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by IWTK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother is a catholic school principal, and when she found out I am an atheist, there was a long period when we didn't talk. She found out because I had requested to be officially excommunicated from the catholic cult so they could no longer count me as a member. The bishop for her diocese told her that I had been excommunicated, which was extremely creepy, but that's what I expect from the catholic cult. She eventually got over it and we talk now.
2007-12-09 12:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by ibushido 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. My mom is anti-Christian and I was Christian but now I am kinda agnostic. I haven't told anyone. Not my Christian relatives or my non-Christian relatives.
2007-12-09 12:17:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be upfront and honest w/ her NOW. She will find out someday anyway. Tell her you want to be honest not hurtful. Don't be surprised if she isn't real happy about it. Just be honest and go from there.
2007-12-09 12:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by paula r 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋