What do you think about being engaged at 16?

Question

I am 16, almost 17
and my boyfriend is 17.

We are thinking about being engaged but don't want to rush things.
We do love each other, we've been through a lot and have gotten through it all. We've never even had a real argument or fight.

What do you think?
If we were engaged we WOULD NOT get married still we are in a stable postion.

Answer 1

I have a question for your question--do you have a promise ring yet? My husband and I started dating in high school and at the time we got all the same remarks that other people have been leaving you such as "Your too young", "You don't know what love really is", "Wait until you're older", etc. We heard it ALL so believe me, I know what you are feeling (We were even 16 and 17 like you two are). In order to appease people and show are devotion to each other we decided to get promise rings for each other first-not engagement rings. Basically it's an old fashioned tradition for a guy to give a girl a promise ring and isn't really done anymore but when you receive a promise it symbolizes that you are devoted to each other with the intent to someday be engaged and married. We "formally" got engaged shortly after graduating high school (go class of 2004) and then got married a year and a half after getting engaged. If you don't have a promise ring yet, it's something to talk about with your boyfriend (and hey, it means you get another ring too!) If you already have a promise ring, or if becoming engaged just feels right to you then go for it. Nobody can tell you a relationship won't work just because of how old you are. I mean, even just 150 years ago you would be considered "old" to be getting engaged--people would expect for you to already have started having children! If you really love each other and honestly plan to get married then it's really up to you. Just do yourself a favor and don't rush the wedding part because your life will be so much easier and funner if you wait until after you both have careers and have accomplished the things you really want to accomplish before you settle down. Best of wishes and either way, Congrats!

Answer 2

I do not think this is a good idea and it is not solely based on age either. More than likely you are still in school and have not even graduated, it just does not mix well to be involved in school, being a teen and getting married...You should wait a couple years or so to make such a serious committment. It is easier to say you will be together forever in your correct situation but down the road things will become more difficult. Wait until you are 18 at the very least then make a decision to get married. Talk to your parents about your situation also because they will have your best interest at heart. I just feel like you are so young to even consider getting engaged. Being engaged is a big step for anyone especially while you are in grade school!

Answer 3

well I can't knock the age difference . I to , started early in the love game 14 or 15 . I'm sure it hasn't changed much. Boy meets girl. Girl likes boy. Boy Girl fall in what they think is Love which more than usual is just Lust. Personally take your time... Keep the relationship simple till you are both in a career or college and making real life decisions like living together, cause things change when you get older and more responsibilities ...Like a lot of young people need time to grow... Just be simple for now Four years will go by quick if you are really meant for each other...Good Luck

Answer 4

I don't know your relationship so i can't give you specific, but at 17 you are still trying to understand who you are. No matter how secure you may feel or thing you are as a person you change. by no means will you be the same person in another 5 years. i wouldn't recommend settling down into marriage until your mid 20s. live a little, experience life together, grow as individuals then see if you are ready for that commitment.

Answer 5

Either way, the law states that you can't get married until 18. I think you need to weigh up the pros and cons of getting officially engaged over a year before you can get married. I suggest you guys get each other promise rings first and get officially engaged later on.

Answer 6

People change and grow throughout their whole lives; particularly through their 20s. It's great that you are in love and want to be with this guy, but why do you have to rush marriage? I'd say wait a few years and if it still feels right then go for it.

Answer 7

you never been through a real fight, then dont get engaged. you never know how he truly is until you see "ALL" of him. who knows how quickly he would dump you after a fight, who knows how he is when he is for anything. you havent been through it all yet, so dont bother and dont rush. you guys are still so young. you shouldnt rush anything if you literally have all the time in the world. just enjoy each other and see if you guys feel like that in the future.

honestly, if you take your time; you will have more fun and more memories. if you rush it, it might turn out bad for your relationship. being engaged at such a young age makes you guys feel tied down already. you will probably realize faster that you want to see other people. not saying you will but it gives you a darn good reason not to rush. :)

trust me, its worth it.

Answer 8

if you get engaged at 16. and wait until you are say 19 to get married, then, you will probably have about 3 kids by the time you are 22. your husband will take off, and you'll be on welfare, and constantly taking your ex-husband to court to get child support. mean while, he turns up in court with his new pregnant wife, and you sit opposite side of court room wondering why you didnt listen to people who were older than you before you made this big mistake of your life. and listened to them.

this is that warning....you will ruin your whole life. you will know this about 10 years from now when you look back.

Answer 9

It's you're life but I am so against it. I am going to tell you something you most likely don't wan't to hear: DONT.
Why?
a)way to young, not enough expiernces.
b). you're going to fight a lot. And they say the earlier the more likely to get a divorce.
c)You're not mature enough/stable enough. You should wait 'till you're like 23+.
d) You have school/education ahead of you. Please sweety this is common sense, what if you get engaged and the two years later he wants to break away with you?
sixteen and a half is not even a stable age to get engaged.

Answer 10

the fact that you've never been in a fight should tell you to hold off right off the bat. if you are confident in your relationship and don't want to rush, there is no reason to even get engaged, especially if you're not going to get married right away.

you should not base the strength of your relationship on the fact you have never fought because it is often those fights that test that very strength and you wouldn't want to get engaged only to find out that you guys can't handle each other, would you?