I don think wanting a beautiful, smart, confident woman with standards who dont want/like men to treat them like yesterday's garbage would be all that hard to find......sadly, it is, so why shouldnt I give up?
2007-12-09 11:46:06 · 32 answers · asked by Count DiMera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That sounds like a personal problem! :--#) Seek counseling.
2007-12-09 11:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't want to die alone? Because you want to share your life with someone and find fulfillment?
Many people go through life without a partner, but I don't know how many make the statement that they "give up on" the opposite (or same for that matter) sex entirely. You sound a little bitter. Could that be showing through on dates? Is there an air about you that's negative, that you expect them to fall short of your expectations and the relationship will only end in disaster?
Adjust your thinking and get a piece of paper. Make 2 columns. On the left, What you want. On the right, what you absolutely will not tolerate. You might not tolerate a smoker, but you might not mind a social drinker. Or the opposite. Whatever. You might not want someone with children, but you might not mind someone who has been divorced.
You might need more than 1 sheet of paper to narrow it down...then look at what's left and whittle down the "what you won't tolerate" into things that are things you might reconsider.
You might also want to redefine your definition of beauty..it's not always conventional, nor is it always external. You didn't elaborate as to which you're looking for. Confidence also sometimes wanes with or without beauty and that is a trait that many work on over the course of their entire lives. Good luck.
2007-12-09 11:53:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where are you looking for this woman? If you are looking for a smart, confident, beautiful woman with standards, stay away from bars, match.com, and blind ads.
Smart women with standards can be found in many places:
Bookstores, libraries, church, charity organizations like Big Brothers Big Sisters, schools, business organizations, next door, or on eharmony. Look around you, at the women you work with, the ones your friends want you to meet, the nice gal you see in your local restaurant at lunch every week. Spending time in quality places will help you find quality women.
Just to let you know, my husband and I met when set up by 7 mutual friends who said we simply had to meet. If he would have been looking in a bar for me, he wouldn't have found me. If I would have looked in personals, I would never have found him. We share so many values, so many dreams, so much of life over the past 16 years, its hard to believe we might never have met if our friends weren't so insistent. See, although we are both pretty attractive, and considered "good catches", we were previously looking for different looking people. I thought my dream guy would have brown eyes and straight hair...he had always dated "high maintenence" girls who spent more time in front of a mirror than reading books. Its funny,my prince charming has curly greying hair, blue eyes, is happiest when grungy in the garage. I spend about 15 minutes getting ready in the morning, and love gardening, working, rescuing pets, cooking and am happiest when we are both kinda grubby from working on projects in the yard or garage together. Open your heart, and look for a match there. Thats how you find the keepers.
2007-12-09 12:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by 2 Happily Married Americans 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the "beautiful, smart, confident" part, because I don't know how high your standards on those three aspects are....
but the last part?
trust me. There's many women out there that don't want to be treated like garbage. including myself.
So.
Dont give up!
2007-12-09 11:52:36 · answer #4 · answered by whatever21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be right........There are many beautiful, smart women out there, but with your skills and education, I doubt you would get far with a with a women of substance and education that would accept you and your poor skills.
A woman with standards does NOT need a college degree,
Do not give up. If you start looking into the heart, you might find a beatuful woman that will love you for life,,,,,,,She, whoever she might be, I hope you treat her with love, respect and loyalty.
2007-12-09 12:18:08 · answer #5 · answered by hvn_fun2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beautiful, smart, confident ... it is all in the eye of the beholder. Do you project the same? Sounds like you are looking for a "trophy" what about a nice girl? I would reposition the question, and you may get some hits on here ...
2007-12-09 11:51:05 · answer #6 · answered by SG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are u handsome, smart and confident and dont want women to treat u like yesterday's garbage?
Sometimes we strive so hard for perfection that we forget that imperfection is happiness.. get a life!
2007-12-09 11:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Purple Lemon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The general consensus is that a majority of women like to be mistreated. I have absolutely no idea why. It may also have something to do with the saying "nice guys finish last" with that being said, perhaps employing a bad boy persona will get you the chicks you desire. Let me know how that goes.
2007-12-09 11:50:14 · answer #8 · answered by Joythe K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your gonna give up on women than you weren't into women in the first place. You maybe in denial by holding this ideal woman that you supposedly can not find on this unreachable pedestal and making an excuse to switch teams, if you will. Be true to yourself.
2007-12-09 11:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by *Gigi* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want a lot more than just a man that doesn't treat them like garbage.
2007-12-09 11:49:32 · answer #10 · answered by tidbit 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt give up because when you least expect it you'll find her. It's often hard to find love when you're actively looking for it but if you take a step back and let life happen, it'll happen.
2007-12-09 11:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by TRACEY B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋