I'm 19 and I lost my virginity about a month ago. My mom and I don't really have the relationship we once did, and I want to talk to her about it so badly, but I think she will be appalled if I told her. I'm hesitant to tell her because I'm not dating this guy and she has no idea that I've even KISSED someone let alone slept with them. Shes always been like "Your body is a temple and wait to have sex until your married" so I have no idea how she is going to react. What can I possibly say to start the convo?
2007-12-09 11:26:37 · 17 answers · asked by longislndgrl114 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At 19, you are out from under her roof! At least on paper. She can have no authority over you! What you want to do, is sit her down and discuss the whole virginity thing with her. Tell her that it was something you were curious about or something and that you had sex. there is nothing more you can do to change it. Your mother, while she may become upset, will have to accept it, as much as she might not like it. Don't let your body become a topic of dissention between you two. It was your choice, not hers! Make her understand that! Clearly, you don't have the best relationship with your mom, if you haven't told her about previous bf's and such...I know a difficult topic under any circumstances, but you need to open up more with her.
On another note, ask her how old she was? when she lost hers? She doesn't have to give details, but at least what age? See where it goes from there.
2007-12-09 11:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by John L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the world would you, as an adult, want to tell your mother that? Your mother knows you're 19 and she's not naive enough to think you are a saint. If this is about you feeling guilty about losing your virginity, get over it. Either forgive yourself and move on or vow never to do it again for the rest of your life. Which one do you want to do?
2007-12-09 11:42:40 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh boy... Honestly, I would not tell my mom! Granted I married the guy I lost mine to but, I have just never been comfortable talking about such personal things.
If you really want to tell her, Maybe go to her with it in the form of a problem like "Mom, I did something and I'm not sure if I should have..." or something along that line...Parents like to feel needed and like you need their advice. She might be mad but maybe she will take it as you reaching out to her.
2007-12-09 11:31:31 · answer #3 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no other way than just to tell her the truth and take the consequences. It is much better to say and get it over with than to drag it out and dread it. So go to you Mom right now and say, "Mom I am so sorry but I lost one of the earrings that you gave to me".
2016-05-22 09:23:41 · answer #4 · answered by luz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you HAVE to tell her this (which I don't see why) ask her if you can have a girls day and at some point when you both are feeling comfortable and in a good mood just bring up the subject of relationships.
at least you are having to tell your mom that you are pregnant for the 3rd time and being 17.
2007-12-09 11:34:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know if i would say anything at this point. Now that your not with the guy that took it from you she may be more upset than you think she will be. I would put it off for awhile. She may already know, my mom just knew from the way I was acting around her.
2007-12-09 11:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by faithful_nascar_fan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your relationship, Don't tell her anything. Wait till she see's her first grandchild, then tell her it was the first time. And make sure she doesn't see those "Girls Gone Wild", videos of you and your friends.
2007-12-09 11:38:53 · answer #7 · answered by Rev. Willie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not tell but try talking about something else. You do not need to share everything with yourt parents.
2007-12-09 11:37:37 · answer #8 · answered by gr8ttguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your an adult and don't have to tell her if you don't want to.But if you do she shouldn't really say anything about it because your old enough. So think about it before doing it
2007-12-09 11:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by John S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you don't tell her, what is your reason knowing how she feels?
BTW, she is absolutely right that your body is your temple and you have to have respect for it or no one will.
2007-12-09 13:47:47 · answer #10 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋