family problems. can you help me?

Question

so my parents are in debt over their heads, im a 13yr old girl, and the world practically hates me. what do i do? i have the greatest boyfriend whomes life is consumed of hockey, the most psychotic parents in the world, and the busiest schedule for an 8th grader. when im not with my friends, im doing homework or cleaning; when im not doing that stuff, im swimming for swim team [as of now]. i dont have any time for me. and when i try to fit that in, my mom yells at me. i need help. please give me some helpful tips. =] love katelyn

Answer 1

It is good that you have many interests.
It does sound like you are over-scheduled, though, which is a common problem among young people.
You really need to consider your time more carefully during this winter break. Maybe pick something to drop or replace with something else that isn't as demanding.
Maybe if you take some babysitting jobs you will have more "me" time after you tire the kids out and put them to bed... and also make some pocket-money.
Is there something that is distracting you or wasting your time? Too much TV, e-mail or net-surfing when you could be kicking out some homework? Freeing up one hour a night can make a huge difference.
Try keeping a log of what you do from hour to the next.
Keep a check-off sheet on repeating tasks. Household chores can be scheduled for specific days... kitchen floor on Monday, entry hall on Tuesday... stuff like that. You can show that to your Mom when she starts going off on you.

Your parents are under a lot of stress if they under that much debt... and the holidays aggravate that a lot. Try to keep a low profile and just kick out whatever tasks you have to do.

Answer 2

Well,sounds like you need to clean some clutter out of your life.Start by stoppng the worrying over your parents debt.That is their problem.Secondly,what are you doing with a boyfriend at 13?Being friends is one thing,but being committed to him at that age is really not a good thing.Ask your friends if you can take a break from them,and explain that you are just really stressed out and need some you time.Next,ask your parents if you can have a weekend where you have no responsibilities.Tell them how school,swim team,cleaning,homework,and everything else is just bogging you down.Just remember,when you ask for the time alone,it means no telephone or internet.....just you time.You can't have all the friends all the time,and expect to have down time.After all,your parents deserve to spend time with you once in a while too.

Answer 3

Obviously there's nothing you can do about your parents being in debt. You shouldn't have to worry about that because you're just a kid. This is not something you should get into. Life will always have it's ups and downs. I know it's hard to believe but the downs will stop. Your boyfriend is not helping the situation. He should be trying to help you out a bit, atleast try to talk to you. You can't blame your parents for being a little psychotic because you said they were in debt. That's bound to happen. Your mom is not right for yelling at you for wanting some time for yourself. Everyone deserves to gather their thoughts and get their head straightened out. You definetely need to find time for that or you will drive yourself insane trying to please everyone else and help everyone else. Sometimes you have to think about yourself not your parents, boyfriend or friends.

Answer 4

I know what it's like to be worried about your parents debt.
My mom and step-dad are so broke, that they cannot afford a Christmas tree or Christmas presents, not that I care about getting presents, I would just like spending time with the family.

Try spending a little less time with your friends. Sit your parents down and politely talk to them about how you would like a little time to yourself every now and then. Things will get better.

Unless you're like me, try setting aside times to do certain things like hanging with friends.