Iv just started working in a nightclub thats just opened,and one f the bouncers has been touching me, it first strted on friday when he told me to take him upstairs to show him around, and asked him to show him the cloak room. And kept cumin out wth remarks like hmm like it round their we can get up to owt, hes asking personal questions, asked if im easy in bed, touching me up. I dint say anything only to a mate who said she will talk to the boss but i told her not to. but yesterday we had a lock in party and my boss kept asking me whats wrong cuz he could tell something was wrong i ran off crying so my mate who i told had to tell my boss everything and hs promised hes going to sack the bloke and hes never stepping foot in the club but aint going to tel him wy hes been sacked cuz i asked him not to. But know i feel as if i ruined everyones(staff) night although i did cheer up,and feel guilty for him getting th sack.
2007-12-09 11:22:18 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not "should you feel guilty" but it seems you might feel so. If you're a in a city, you want to learn to handle all kinds of situations like that quickly and by yourself. Working in a nightclub you come in contact with a horny party crowd, so as soon as someone says something suggestive to you, just say "cool it. you're not my type." Then it he/she keeps on, a tough FK off, dude will draw the line. It just sounds like you're a little inexperienced or young. I know the women will not think you overreacted, and if you're female I agree, but if you're a guy I think you sort of did (unless you felt threatened). I'd say since it's a nightclub, you'll learn how to set the limits. I know it's annoying when somebody truly ugly tries for you or gropes you. I have had to deal with lots of that in clubs, but on one level it's just a compliment to you, and if you don't feel threatened, just cut them off short next time and that usually works. If it doesn't quit, then complain but realize that clubbers are often horndogs and some will pounce on any new meat that comes through.
2007-12-11 10:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing to feel guilty about. He is a colleague and he should have respected you and how he behaved around you and the questions he asked are inappropriate. Your boss did the right thing by firing the bouncer as he has a duty to keep all of his staff safe and you clearly weren't.
Go back to enjoying your job without guilt
Good Luck
2007-12-09 19:47:13 · answer #2 · answered by Along the way we fell in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋