Often, when I am sitting at my lunch table with my friends (6 counting me) some random person will walk up to me, and tell me that some girl (that I have never seen before) at another table likes me or wants my number or some such nonsense. I tell them to go away and stare at them funny, but i still don't know why this has happened so often to me.
And while i cant speak for other lunch groups, in the area where we it lunch, it is me every time.
Any advice for how i can handle people when they do this, and any explanation behind their motives?
2007-12-09 11:10:36 · 16 answers · asked by madness_rocker 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It has happend to me before and most of the time it is a joke. It happend to me alot. I was a misfit with rather long hair and a goofy hat. They enjoy doing it for laughs. the best thing you can do is ignore them and try to pretend that they are not even there. I never fell for it.
2007-12-09 12:32:44 · answer #1 · answered by jmrdelorean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look on here for questions about - how do I get this boy or that boy to notice me - you are going to find answers along the lines of what you are describing. Other teens telling her to have someone else ask - or try to find out for them - because they are to shy or scared to say anything themselves.
Maybe due to your personality and looks, you are more popular than the other people at your table or lunch area - or you are so uncomfortable with the situation, you really don't know it isn't happening to someone else too.
Look, the best approach to it is to tell whoever comes up to you that if it is true, then whoever it is that is interested needs to get up the guts to say it themselves - that you don't find being talked to by a third party attractive. Then go back to eating your lunch. Don't be rude or mean about it, nor make the person telling you feel bad for saying anything - they are just the messenger.
2007-12-09 19:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One or the other half of your first question is probably true. Either it's untrue and a prank, or it's true.
When *I* was in high school 40+ years ago, I never thought I was attractive, but quite a number of girls apparently thought I was, and I got some of this. But it was always from girls. Are the "random persons" who bring YOU the messages male of female? If they're female, I'd tend to believe 'em. If they're male, I'd tend to figure they're pulling your chain.
But either way, and assuming you're str8, it's not going to hurt to walk up to a girl and say, "Hi! If you've been sending me a message, I'd like to talk to you. And if you haven't, please tell me. Then I can go tell Josh and Taylor they're idiots and they should stop insulting you and me."
2007-12-09 19:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by georgetslc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the girl probably has HER friends coming up to you to approach you because she is feeling you out or is really shy.
Don't be too put off by this. Find out who the girl is and then smile at her. If it is a prank, you have just been polite and " reciprocated " the advance with no harm done. If it is genuine, the girl may choose to approach you because you smiled at her or she may not.
People are really afraid to approach each other, especially in the area of romance because nobody likes to be rejected.
Don't be afraid--nothing ventured is nothing gained, and who knows, maybe she is really cute!
2007-12-09 19:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by lichenmoss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its a guy, let him know how ironic it is that two minutes earlier the guy at the next table had just commented to you on how attracted he was to him and wanted to know if you could get his number.
These people are loosers; just ignore them. They are your future cab drivers and check out clerks in the mall working for min wage that will be servicing you later in life. Anyone that spends that much time thinking of ways to stick it to other people is very unhappy. I believe in Karma and those types never get far in life. You will one day be able to look down on them...and they will feel it, believe me.
2007-12-09 19:18:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
how do you know it nonsense? go up to one of the girls and get there number because one of three things is gonna happen.
1. you get a number of a babe which in a result will back fire in some idiots face if he is playing a joke on you.
2. Its not a joke
3. You can find out the awnser to your own question.
Man up son
2007-12-09 19:17:23 · answer #6 · answered by robert p 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask them if they got proof. Ex. Get them to bring the girl over to you. And if they refuse to do it. The @$$holes are just being @$$holes.
2007-12-09 19:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Wyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you will give your to her when she asks for it, but I like who ever said...just tell them it's in the book.
2007-12-09 19:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by Glinda W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens a lot in high school, just people fooling around usually
2007-12-09 21:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them it is in the book
2007-12-09 19:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋