how can i tell my mom that i lost my virginity?

Question

okay so ive been on and off again with this boy for over a year and a half and like 3 weeks ago we started going back out and 2 days ago i lost my virginity to him but i dont know hw to tell my mom. its not that im afraid of what she is going to say becuase she reallly likes my boyfirned but i just dont know how to tell her. i also have 2 older sisters that told her about their 1st times im just nervous too. i was thinking about telling my oldest one who is 19 bt i dont know how o bring it up. please help me.

things would be alot easier if my oldest sister told her rather then me, but how should i tell her?

Answer 1

Ok well, I would tell your sisters and ask them how they handled it first. Maybe they can give you some advice specific to your mom. Just take her into your room and tell her. I think she'll probably understand. Good luck!

Answer 2

I would pick a time when she it not busy and then just tell her that you need to talk to her. You sound young if your older sister is 19, she may not be please, but in the end, as a mother I would want to know, if for no other reason then to be there to answer any questions and to make sure that my child was being safe. Knowing your child is sexually active at a young age is not something that most parents really want to face. But I would want to face having an open talk about the first experience vs not knowing. Also now that you are sexually active you need to start seeing an obgyn on a regualar bases to keep you safe.

I will be hard but it is best to let her know.

Answer 3

I would suggest talking to your oldest sister first. She's been through all of this, so she would be the best person to talk to. Ask her how old she was when she lost her virginity, and just talk about it a little bit (like not awkwardly). Then ask her how she got up the courage to tell your mom, and how she approached her. She can definitely help you, since she has already experience this.

Answer 4

depends how old you are and the type of family you live in. Examples:

Messed up family(like fights alot and doesn't really matter what you do- Kicked out of house/or noting.

OK family- You'll get hurt emotionally and cry alot.

Religous family-*** hitting/your lover and you ar joined forever.

loving family-you'll get through it.

Also It matters your age-10-14: OMFG asswhopping and lots of cussing from your parents, as well as you lover mysterously disappearing.

15-18:this is the part where its less hard then 14 down. You'll get through it

Oh and if your going to tell someone tell your dad. Yes your dad, you know why? Because your dad will always love you, Because your his little princess, ext. but your mom is a female to and is not afraid to hit you!

Answer 5

umm,well, ya know, if you realy dont want to or your too nervous about it - then just hold off until the moment is right or dont tell her at all.
As a mom myself, I know my daughters tell me a lot,but not everything,and I remember when my oldest lost her virginity. She didnt even have to tell me - I knew !
so, your mom may already know (A mothers instincts) and you may be getting all worked up and worried over nothing..
just relax and when the moment is right, then you can jump in and tell her

Answer 6

wait til your 25 and then tell her trust me on this one unless you and your mom have the relationship where you can talk and then it may be a good time so say mom don't get angry we need to talk, maybe its time for birth control, that would be very responsible of you if you older sister is 19 how old are you cause if you like 12 or 13 shame on you and that goes til you 17, then be responsible about it

Answer 7

How did your mom act when your sisters told her? Depending on what age you are, either if you're like 13 or 16, it'll make a difference. At 13, don't be surprised if you get yelled at. If your 16 and you really feel comfortable telling your mother, then do it.

Answer 8

If that's the case, you should be pragmatic about the things you tell your mother. A good way to start is to ask your sisters how they told her first. That way, you'll be able to tailor responses to any reactions she may have.

Then, when you talk to her, tell her that you plan to do everything in your power to BE SAFE when you do have sex. That right there will ease any concerns she may have, and you may want to ask her for further advice on safe sex.

Answer 9

well, first of all, try to catch her when she is not upset or angry. Don't come about the subject too abruptly, be calm and casual about it. When the subject comes around, tell her what you have done. I'm sure she wont be too upset since your sisters have already told her. Good luck!

Answer 10

telling your mom this can't be easy but you should probably do it. How did your older sisters tell your mom? Maybe do what they did. Don't just come right out and say it though.