My boyfriend said something hurtful and told his parents what I said about them?

Question

I will try to make this as short as possible
My bf and I got into an argument last night
During the argument, he insulted my parents saying that they need a hobby instead of calling up on checking on me
I said maybe they should be like your parents then and take up drinking (his mother was an alcoholic and went 2 AA, his father isn't too far off)
He then went on to say that my family is poor and doesn't have a pot to piss in, etc
We made up after the argument, and then he told his parents what I had said about them and now they are mad at me
I don't think his parents should know everything about this argument
Also, I apologized after what I had said, which he failed to tell them
How should I confront his parents?
I don't plan on lying, I will tell the truth, but what is a good way to fix this

Answer 1

tell them the truth...if he wants to tell tales on you, do the same!!! let them know that he slagged off your parents, so you responded in a bit of a tit-for-tat way, that you didn't mean it, but that things are said in the heat of an argument. I'm sure they'll appreciate the maturity it's taken to confront it.

When that's sorted I'd ask your boyfriend why he's involving his parents in your arguments. Seems a bit pathetic to me???

Answer 2

They already know they have a drinking problem, just keep quiet and don't say anything unless they bring the subject up. If they do bring up the subject, just apologize by saying that it wasn't your place to comment about their lives whatsoever, and that you apologize for having done that.

That doesn't remove what you said or make a liar of you, but acknowledges that you were being bit-chy in anger and you are sorry that it got back to them.

If you two are past 16 years old, I'd say you are too immature to be breeding and should practice safe sex religiously. Same, I suppose if you are less than 16 years of age. You two are acting like children and hurting others along with each other.

Answer 3

sounds like a pretty burned bridge, but it depends on how close you were to his parents to begin with. you need to talk to your boyfriend to and tell him that his actions were unacceptable, and remind him you've already apologized fr what you said. he needs to be a part of the solution too because he big mouthed and blabbed to his parents.

Answer 4

uh. that was crappy thing to do of him.. you said you were sorry once.. dont beg for forgiveness.. whatever chicka.. i would be really pissed that he blabbed on you.. depending on how deeo the relationship is.. i would definetly not be sleeping with him for a while.. if not just break up with him.. he obviously said worse things about your folks.. and for him to think that way about your family.. instead the true fact of his.. he is a butthead.. he needs to get booted..

good luck girl.

Answer 5

Ditch the loser!
What a complete waste of time he is.
Please get rid of him. I'm sure his parents already know what a dope he is, so I don't think there's any need to explain ANYTHING to them.

Answer 6

You really shouldn't say something about someone if you can't say it to their face.

Anyway, the way to go about it is to apologize to his parents. Problem solved.

Answer 7

Confront them. Tell them what he said about your parents.

Then break up with him as fast as possible.

He's obviously not worth it.

Answer 8

Dump him

Answer 9

just confront them and move on

if his parents are really what you described, they are real trash

Answer 10

wow, dat is od
if i was in your situation i would not confront them and just be like yea i said it and what... i dont like my in laws they drive me nuts.... but in reality it depends on the relationship you have between them.